ok i need to vent

those of you who know me know taht my kids and grands are in ohio- my eldest son is dad to 3 of the grands- and today i find out-via facebook form someone else- that he is in the hospital- rushed to ER cuz he couldn';t breathe- doc says he knows of heart trouble on both sides of family (my side ????news to me)  so kept him for testing- now they think he has pleurisy?????????????wtf??????????????????/and gosh do ya think maybe he should quit smoking??????????????????????

ok ok breathe margo........it just really po's me to read on someone else's facebook from last nite...................

thx...my head is ezploding but i'm ok--i'm going to go clean something

Take a deep breath Margo...prayers to you.....Monica

Margo,
Maybe he didnt want you to worry, But plurysy is frm it being cold out side too. I got it last winter from being cold from going from warm to cold ....
when I went from Tampa to Denver for a week. /Go figure and I have heart issues in my family too.
So take a deep breath, go clean and keep him in your thoughts it will get better. Im thinking of him and you. Carla. they will give him good drugs!!!!!

Hi Margo:

Yeah, I can understand how you feel ...I found out Margie died on Facebook from her daughter in Texas who never wrote or called her. It's frustrating. You think people would be more considerate.

Relax ... young people think this is the way to inform us.

Margo, I am so sorry. For his illness & just as much for them not calling you. My Mom used to do that to me. Wait a week before letting anyone know my dad was sick!! I don't know who they think they are protecting. Take a deep breath & do what you think is best. Nan

thx gals....i took two tylenol and went back to bed- better than the alternatives i came up with--my stress and eating coping skills have never gotten better-

i'm not so worried about the pleurisy part as it really miffs me that no one thinks i am important enough to contact--it is NOT a case of not wanting to worry me--the faction of his life with this gal and her mother feel like i am nothing unless they need something.....
usually money----

i have intentionally made myself difficult to reach for various reasons however they could contact me thru my mother's house phone- i emailed the kids' dad and gave him that number-he and i get along now that we have adjusted to life not as "man and wife"

it just hurts-one more way my son has shut the door on me.....

also---MY side of the family does NOT have a history of heart trouble-at least not yet, thank God. now michael--my third husband does- could his gf have told the dr that???? that is no reason to say that MY side of the family has heart trouble....cripes- i'm sorry---
ok- breathe.....

i think i'm gonna turn up the Christmas music and get back to the gratitude aspect of life!!!!!!!!! i have so many blessings--i just don't seem to be on my sons' list!

Hugs, Margo.   I know too how difficult it is to learn something second hand. 

Playing devil's advocate here though.... if you've made it difficult for them to contact you purposely, then maybe that plan is working too well?   Maybe you could offer them an alternative way to contact you so that you are informed of these types of issues, but not about when they need money? :) 

Someone here too said this generation thinks this is how to inform us (facebook) and I'm afraid she is right.   Sad way to communicate, especially in urgent situations. Not all of us have a phone or computer by our side 24/7!

I hope that the stress lessens for you soon.  B R E A T H E  and keep on cleaning!  It's what I do too when I get stressed.

Hugs Margo.
Venting is good.

Hey girl,,I can so relate! My son is the same way since he married his wife seven  years ago. I found our that he was thrown from a horse and hurt, from his inlaws when they requested prayer for him at church,,2 days after it happened!! He lives with them,,and none of them could call me??

So, you were good to take the tylenol and lay down. It still hurts,,I know,,but focus on other blessings and let him be. It is what it is..and you cant change that. Someday he will come to his senses and realize he only has one mom.

Sometimes being a parent is extremely painful..and like you, I always run to the kitchen. Im working on that type of thinking and its not easy. Hang in there,,one day at a time.

Be blessed!
Betsy