Tues is my turn!

Hi, I had no idea that this forums was even here until tonight. I have been reading on the main Forum or Rny. I have posted a little but not much.

I am having surgery Tues morning. I can't say that I am excited but  I am neither sad about this. Just a little worried about everything going well.

I have a great Dr. I have received lots of info and help from her office, as well from OH. I asked my DH tonight if i was doing the right thing. He said its up to you I had nothing to do with this. Hum! And he is right. This was my decision, not anyone else. I must say I have had few friends that are not happy about this. They want me to just go on a diet and lose the weight. Been there done that and got the badge!

So from the ones that have gone before me.... Am I doing the right thing?

I already know the answer. It's up too me!! I just wanted to ask anyway. LOL

My name is Anita, I am 54 years young. I have three grown sons and 4 grandchildren. My main reason for having a RNY is because of the 4 grandchildren. If I  don't do this I want be around to see them grow up, and that is most!

Thanks for reading this. Just wanted to say hello!

Hi Anita,

Welcome to the Over Fifty Forum. You are so right. It is our decision and ultimately ours alone. It's not a decision to make lightly and anxiety before surgery is very common. I would wonder if you weren't a bit anxious. It was the best decision I've ever made and that was almost 6 years ago at age 55. Stick around, get to know us and let us get to know you. I look forward  to following your journey. Take care and best wiishes on Tuesday.

anita-welcome a-board and congratulations for taking charge of your own life!
you DO know the answer ; you are confident in your surgeon and you know that the plan will only work if YOU work it! you'll have days you may question what you have done; however, for the most...i think you'll be pleased....

if you haven't done so- take some before photos and measurements-  sometimes the weight seems like it isn't going anywhere til you bring out the tape measure!

i'm 56- my surgery was 6 + years ago; i'm still a work in progress and am happy to welcome you to your new life!

You are absolutely doing the right thing. I was 55 when I had my RNY. It has changed my life drastically for the better.

Hello Anita,

I bid you welcome to one of the best places for support and information on OH. . .

As for your question, it is an honest and good one to ask yourself and I think reading your post, you already know the answer. . .

I was 52 years OLD when I decided I was tired of living like I was OLD, that too much of what I once enjoyed lifestyle wise was in the past because I was no longer a life participator, but a spectator because the body I was living in was not in good condition and when carrying around an extra body, over time it gets that way. . .  I researched, saw others in my family experience this way of life and my perspective changed greatly doing so, as what I once thought of as a copout and easy way, was anything but.  However, what I saw was that their life vastly improved and while I failed at losing and maintaining anything over and over again, my life became less and less fulfilling.  So I really began in earnest to seek out a way to become healthier and hoping I would be more involved in my grandchildren's lives, as well as able to enjoy my life the way I had through my 40s. . .  Because I had absolute faith in my surgeon and the facility where I was having my surgery, I was not really scared, did I wish I could do it some other way, absolutely, but as I said before and you know it to be true, diets just did not get me where I wanted to go.  I participated on OH prior to surgery, so I was informed as to what was required of me post-op and that along with my surgeon's skills has gotten me to where today I am 55 years YOUNG!  I feel better today then I did in my 30s or 40s and have the energy and stamina to live and enjoy my life, what a difference between the grandmother my younger grandchildren have, as opposed to the one I was when my older grandchildren were born.  Life today is full and rich, not to say there are not ups and downs, but I am able to go, do and participate in anything my mind can imagine, if I would chose to do it, my body is no longer and impediment.

So, I wish you well tomorrow as you turn your life over to the care of your surgeon and when she is done, if you follow her guidelines, the life you will find yourself experiencing will be a whole lot different.  Just remember one thing, this is a lifetime commitment to a regimen of vitamins, drinking the required amounts of decaf and making choices that will keep you healthy.  Weight regain, while it happens, does not have to be a part of your story down the road.

Best wishes, Laureen

Welcome to OFF...... so glad you found us !!!!

This is a wonderful board to be on. You will find much support and caring. Not all the drama that is on the other boards. We are just people/friends just trying to help each other.

You are making the right decision!!! I wish you an uneventful surgery and a speedy recovery as well!!

See you on the Losers Bench!!!

Hugs....connie d