Reflecting on Happiness and Legitimacy of Different Perspectives
Happiness is not a matter of events; it depends upon the tides of the mind.
--Alice Meynell
It's all too easy to blame a friend, spouse, or co-worker for the uneven quality of our lives. If only others would behave according to our plans and dictates, then all would go well, we think. What seldom is remembered or even understood is that each of us has an individual perspective on any single event - our own. We need to stretch our minds and hearts to understand an experience from another's point of view. However, we need never fully understand how another perceives life. We need only to accept that another's perspective is legitimate.
Our happiness is not dependent on the perceptions or the actions of someone else. Nor is it dependent on attention, or lack of it, from a loved one. Our occupation may be challenging and fulfilling; however, the joy we get from it depends on the attitude we carry to the job. In every way, whether in the company of others or by ourselves, we make our own happiness.
My opportunity for happiness is guaranteed if I opt for it today.
--Alice Meynell
It's all too easy to blame a friend, spouse, or co-worker for the uneven quality of our lives. If only others would behave according to our plans and dictates, then all would go well, we think. What seldom is remembered or even understood is that each of us has an individual perspective on any single event - our own. We need to stretch our minds and hearts to understand an experience from another's point of view. However, we need never fully understand how another perceives life. We need only to accept that another's perspective is legitimate.
Our happiness is not dependent on the perceptions or the actions of someone else. Nor is it dependent on attention, or lack of it, from a loved one. Our occupation may be challenging and fulfilling; however, the joy we get from it depends on the attitude we carry to the job. In every way, whether in the company of others or by ourselves, we make our own happiness.
My opportunity for happiness is guaranteed if I opt for it today.
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Well, my friend the main topic gave me plenty to think about today. . . . and then the quote at the end MUST have been added for me! How true that one is and I do try daily to not "rock and worry!" Have a great day Laureen. The sun is shining now that it has managed to peep over the horizon. A sunny day, even in the winter makes my heart light.
Karen C
"Our happiness is not dependent on the perceptions or the actions of someone else. Nor is it dependent on attention, or lack of it, from a loved one."
How true. That's something I need to remind myself on a regular basis. I've gotten to the point that I no longer need a man in my life to make me "complete". I just wish I could feel the same way when I feel neglected by my kids. That's a lot tougher for me.
Thank you for sharing these thoughts with us. They may come from AA, but they're pertinent in so many other situations.
Gonna go back and rock for a while...
Not.
Candy
How true. That's something I need to remind myself on a regular basis. I've gotten to the point that I no longer need a man in my life to make me "complete". I just wish I could feel the same way when I feel neglected by my kids. That's a lot tougher for me.
Thank you for sharing these thoughts with us. They may come from AA, but they're pertinent in so many other situations.
Gonna go back and rock for a while...
Not.
Candy
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