Sending up the white flag, throwing in the towel. It's time to ask for help

Hi everyone,
I haven't been around much for a number of reasons. First, my problems seem so insignificant in comparison to some things my friends here are dealing with. Cancer treatment,deaths in families,  moving, job losses, etc., I've felt selfish to even post about what's happening with me. Then, feeling down and not posting, few, if anyone has noticed my absence, so of course, it's made me feel worse.

Most of all, I haven't posted about what's happening because I am scared to death that my admissions will bring on the "I told you so" comments that is the LAST  thing in the world that I need right now. So, if that's the only thing you have to offer me, please refrain, I beg you.

I hit my 3 year anniversary of my rny in September. In the last three months I have gained 10 lbs. I am aware that many believe that at this time in our journeys that we will begin to regain some of our weight. I've spoken to my doctor at length, and he says there is no evidence that this is caused by physical changes, but the changes we ourselves make in our daily eating habits. I admit that my caloric intake has been less than the 1400 cals the Nut has me at, and I have made a true effort to increase not only my calories, but my exercise. I still continue to gain. My underwear is too tight, so you KNOW it's getting bad...lol

I REFUSE to be a statistic. I REFUSE to accept the "I told you so's", I need help and suggestions.  I'm turning to the only people I know who can offer some ideas of what I should do.

So,....wha't a girl to do?

Susan,

 I am with you girlfriend. However, being honest with myself which is very hard for me I must admit that my problem is not with not taking in enough calories. Just the opposite. I've let too much bad stuff mainly carbs enter my life this past few months. Trying to rein it  in which is always hard.

 Susan, you are beautiful inside and out. I don't have any easy answers. Sounds like you are doing what you need to do. Can't imagine why you would be gaining weight on less than 1400 calories a day. I've been grazing and I know that is bad. Today begins with hitting the gym. I am so affected by these short, dark days of winter. I know the days are getting longer but until February arrives it's hard to see it.

I haven't been posting much either. Just grumpy, miserable, mad at myself. So like you, I need to be my best friend. Try to up those calories if that works for you. Remember back a couple of years ago when you were so worried about your foot and whether you'd ever be able to walk comfortably without orthotics and "ugly" shoes? I remember your cute little sandals in Dallas and how adorable you were. 

Susan, youi still are! Smile, pick yourself up and lets head towards longer days, sunshine, and spring clothes. I'm sure 10 lbs feels like a 100 to you. It isn't! Are you retaining fluid for any reason? If so that can really do a number on you with the scale. How is your blood pressure?

I'm certainly no doctor, but I do care. I hate to see you hurting and just wanted to let you know that somebody out here loves you! Hugs, from Washington!

Karen, thank you for your kind words and cyber hug! 

You know, the doctor told me if I followed the rules, the rules would take care of me. Well, I've followed the rules to the point of obsession and I guess I feel a bit betrayed. With the exception of a few days, like when we were in Dallas, I can tell you exactly what I've eaten on any given day for the last 40 months. I don't ever drink when I eat, almost always get in my water, vitamins, etc. So, what's gone wrong?

Can you believe my ordeal with the foot was nearly three years ago? I am thankful that I've come as far as I have, and it's in part because I refused to believe that what the doctor said was the way my life was to be. I set out to prove him wrong, and look how far I've come!  It's the same with those who say at three years you start gaining weight. I want to prove them wrong the same way I did the orthopedist. Maybe it's a personality flaw....I call it determination.

Blood pressure is fine, but the salt could be a factor. Gary's been making home made beef jerky. Great source of protein, and even though he uses less salt than what's called for, it's still pretty salty.

Gonna go play with the Wii and watch the snow.
Love ya!

Oh, I love jerky too. I tried making it but it wasn't very good. Don't think I sliced it thin enough. Recipe??? If you have a "character flaw" called determination then I think that's a wonderful one to have! Hang in there. . .

Gary uses ground sirloin and ground turkey instead of sliced meat. He mixes in a bunch of spices and the preservative, rolls it out super thin, bakes it in the oven @ 200 for about 40 minutes, and then puts it into the dehydrator. It has the same texture as the sliced jerky, but so much cheaper and easier.

Thanks. I'll have to give it a try tho I don't have a dehydrator. . . What kind of preservative?

If you go to the sporting goods store, you can find it with the cooking/camping stuff. Wal-mart might even have it. It's called Jerky mix or something like that.  Gary made his first couple of batches in the oven, but it's electric and the heat isn't constant....fluctuates too much. Look on the internet for making jerky and I'm sure you'll get lots of hits and hints

My new oven is a convection. It talks about drying meat in it so hopefully it will be constant enough. I'll give it a try and let you know how it turns out. I'm always up for a new project!

PERFECT!!!  Gary has even set a fan on the oven door to circulate the heat. It's gonna work, I'm sure!  Let me know

(((susan))) sorry that you feel like you have to stop posting when you feel like this!!! i post and i feel that nobody really cares anymore...its a select few that post to each others posts and i know i feel bad for not posting to everyones posts like i used to do but i DO read ALL posts and i just don't have anything to add because people before me have already said it....sighs...

i like you have also gained some weight back and it is starting to scare me now...that 200 is lurking VERY close now!!!! i start out the day great but as the day goes on i am back eating junk food again!!! i need to stay away from the break room at work!!! it is FULL of nothing but cookies, cakes and pies!!!!! so much for healthy eating there!!!! so i guess what i am trying to say to you is i am here for you susan and no matter what we WILL get this weight off so we do NOT become a statistic!!!! i am going back to basics once again and see if i can make it through one day at a time!!!!

hugs and best of luck to you and all others that are in the same boat as we are!!!! :-)