OT: Filling Imaginary Voids

Consuming To Heal

In our culture today, we are constantly encouraged to consume. This includes food as well as purchasing ever newer items that we may not need, often using money that we may not actually have. It could be that we are trying to fill a void we feel within ourselves, but if we take the time to examine it, we know deep inside that this is not the solution. We may notice how quickly the joy fades after our purchase or once the food we’ve enjoyed is gone, and how soon we feel the urge to do so again. This is a symptom of disconnection from our true selves, so the first step toward balance is connection to our center.

When we connect to our center, we access the fullness of who we are as an individual spirit. We also connect to the energy source of the universe, from which nothing can be lacking. It could be that we have been energetically starving ourselves but trying to feed the need physically, outwardly. Once we make the decision to reconnect, we have the ability to examine the behavior from a higher place within ourselves. We can look, without judgment, at the thoughts and feelings that occur before and after our indulgences to find a pattern. We may want to keep track of these observations in a journal so that we can go back if we lose our way.

Often boredom is the main cause for the desire to eat or shop. But when we connect to our center, our intuition can more clearly guide us to the places where our energy can best be used. We can replace the boredom with a meditation practice, a class, a project, seeking a new job, or getting involved in a charity. We may even want to begin planning an adventurous trip. Whatever inspires us tells us the direction we should go. When we find the place we are meant to be, we become so consumed by its constant creation that the frivolous filling of an imaginary void becomes a thing of the past.

Darlene...this describes my girlfriend. She does both the eating and the shopping. She is a hoarder...her home is full and she still shops....she can't stand to miss a good deal...even though she absolutely doesn't need it!! She knows she has a problem but refuses to get help for it.She shops because she doesn't want to be alone. She has never been married and rarely ever dates...she has never been in a serious relationship. One other friend and myself are the only people that have ever been in her apartment...and I can count the times on one hand over all these years. I wish I could help her....not that I haven't tried!!

I will share this post with her...maybe this will be the nudge she needs!!

Hugs....connie d

 Darlene,

This post is one I can really identify with.  I'm not a hoarder but there are times I feel the need to surround myself with comforts.  Trying to fill an emotional void.  Reconnecting to my inner self is something I haven't done in a long time.

thanks for sharing

Millie

This sounds like me Darlene.  Thank you for posting it!

JOY