Weird problem but?

Who knows if this is a problem, but at my age, it feels a bit strange...for years, I have been basically invisible to the opposite sex,  but now, it seems like all of a sudden, I have guys coming out of the woodwork, I am not complaining but it feels weird at 54, having grown children and grandchildren to be called sexy, and a hot momma..it makes me feel a bit uncomfortable...oh well, it's better then being invisible I guess...LOL 

Woo-Hoo - you go girl!!!!  I think often when we lose weight we gain confidence and the is projected in the way we carry ourselves and in our interactions with others.

thanks sweetie..but it kind of feels, oh I don't know, almost like, you are talking about me? I am half way tempted to turn around and see if anyone is behind me..LOL....it's a good feeling but just a tad weird feeling..

LOL - I just read your post and I said the exact same thing - LOL too funny!

Woo Hoo, you go girl.  The compliments should be music to your ears - LOL

Debbie

You look very pretty in your picture and younger than your age so it doesn't surprise me you're getting second looks.  Good for you. Enjoy.

Enjoy it girlfriend!.....good for you!!

I can't believe the attention....I get more phone numbers put in my purse then I ever did before....its fun!!

Hugs....connie d

I know how you feel, as I am the same age, it takes some getting used to, but as Connie said, enjoy it for what it is, basically it's a compliment, we just are not used to the attention and so at any age it would feel weird, because women on my home board in their 20s and 30s get really pissed about it. . .  it's the world we live in and once we lose the body armour our fat was for so many years, people take notice of us more. . .

Have a great day!

Char, I have gone through the same thing.
Men never opened doors for me or gave me a second look. If anything I was always friendly and had lots of men friends but never "sexual" stuff.

Having never gone through this, the thin world is different for me. It's weird, the fat suit is off and I don't like to have people come into my "comfort zone" so to speak.

Now I'm more comfortable but I don't see myself as a beautiful sexual woman. I guess that will come in time, I still have a hard time seeing myself in the mirror. Who is that normal size woman? My mom always said I was beautiful inside because my younger sister was always thin and beautiful, she still is all though we aren't close. She was the cheerleader, I played powder puff football and was the tomboy.

I'm trying to accept this softer person that is "normal". People that are now meeting me for the first time don't know I was a 300 pound woman. She is still inside me though. I know some of you totally understand what I'm saying. For woman it's a lot more psych stuff to deal with post op and learning about the "thin life".  Okay some men will get what I'm saying too....

I am not sure what you see when you look in the mirror...but I see an attractive lady....more than that is what is on the inside...a lovely lady......be kind to yourself and don't let the men do the deciding in your life. You have the right and the need to take things slowly in any relationship. It is so easy to fall in "lust"....way too easy.

When it feels right you will know....and 54 is still young...believe me I know I am almost 69.
Love, Marti
ps I have found the nicest way to respond to a compliment is to give one back... "that is so nice of you to say"....period....Not I don't believe it.