What's New TUESDAY?
Hello, everyone!
Well, Monday I moved Mother to an assisted living facility. She was confused and anxious and so was I. I know in my heart of hearts that this is what Mother NEEDS but I still felt awful walking away, leaving her sitting there alone. I stayed and had dinner with her…..neither one of us could hardly eat a thing.. Mother was worn out and frankly, so was I…I did a full hour with the Admin’s Director, another full hour with the head Nurse in Mother’s community, The Falls, and Tuesday, I do a full hour consult with the Activity Director and the Physio Director. They seem to be very warm, caring people…..in fact, as we walked in, six people (staff) came over and greeted Mother by name. Mom asked me seven times where she was….this is something very new for her….to be asking these kind of questions over and over.
I stayed until 7 pm when they bring in her bedtime snack….hurried all the way home to Niagara on the Lake…that’s a 35 minute trip … had a quick shower then drove all the way back to the Falls and attended my core LifePath meeting. and then back home, tired.
Today, Tuesday, I head back to the Falls, buy Mother some undies….I have NO idea where hers went…..I couldn’t find ANY except the pair she was wearing. I have to go to her previous place and pack hangers, her Raggedy Ann doll that she had hand made herself, and the pictures off the wall if I can carry it all along with a laundry basket of MORE clothes. Then back to Bella to visit her and do more paperwork as well. I will spend some time with her again and then headed to my Sorority dinner meeting for 6:30 in the Falls.
Warm hugs and healing vibrations to anyone wishing them.
Happy Thanksgiving to my American friends! I am SO grateful for you all!
Nancy B
Nancy, I know all too well what you are going through. My mom had dementia and needed assisted living. I spent lots of time there at first getting her settled in. We contemplated having her move in with us, but she finally said she wanted to stay where she was. It was a beautiful place with lots of activities and a nice dining room. Good luck with your mom....I hope she feels settled soon...I know it takes a while for them to settle in.
I need to get started with work, so I'll check back in a little later. It's going to be a busy week with Thanksgiving right around the corner....so much to do to prepare for the holiday. Have a great Tuesday everyone!
Debbie
When our parents reach a cetain stage in life they need some sort of help 24/7. We can't do that. Sometimes we need to sleep or are useless. So ... we find a place with caring staff. People who are trained and work in shifts, around the clock. THAT is the best care.
Kisses
Annette
Annette 
nancy-annette is right- it is hard but it is the best-and i believe that if these folks are having all of these conferences with you regarding mother; they will be much more apt to give proper care-AND they know how to deal with transitions! also- did you see ceedee's offer last week? that is right up her alley!(as well as many otehrs here who have gone thru similar )
well- i THOUGHT i was going alone tomorrow then dang it he figured out he wants to go-soo--
i'm off to the basement in a few to do some more packing and purging- we have two goodwill boxes in the car for after PT-maybe i can add more?!!!!
i'll check back later to see what everyone is up to-
hugs and prayers
where is susandoeshair???????????????
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
I'm sure if you purged some of her clothes, she wouldn't miss them. She didn't appear to miss her undies! :) I'm trying to lighten up the situation here.... My Mom did real well in the Assisted Living situation. I'm sure your's will too.
Nothing much going on today except unpacking the 'catch all' box. The last box from our move. It's the one I've been putting off for months, but the time has come.
Try to take some time to relax and reflect.
Jan
Nancy...hang in there...your mom will adjust and do well. I think she is so blessed to have such a caring and wonderful daughter like you.
I don't have much to report today. I am staying home for Thanksgiving. I was going to Iowa to be with Jamie and her family but my other daughter Carrie needs me to be with Kyleigh over the weekend so I will be going there on Friday afternoon. I could go there for Thanksgiving but for reasons of my own I am just staying home that day.
It is so foggy here today...hope it lifts soon as I have a doctor appointment to go to. I see my orthopedic doctor to do a final x-ray of my hip today.....just a follow up. I feel great...no problems with it at all.
Prayers to so many of you in need.
Love and hugs to all....connie d
Hi Nancy and all my OFF friends,
Our new CEO is walking around today so I have to be on my toes. Still lots to do to be ready for the grands tomorrow. My rule is that if the bathroom and kitchen are spotless, guests can forgive a little dust or clutter elsewhere. But I think I've got it all covered.
I'm going for my B12 shot in fifteen minutes. I hope that will give me a little energy.
I got new leveler feet for our grandfather clock and I think I got the clock running. We'll see when I get home tonight. I love the chimes on that clock - Westminster.
Pie is a weakness of mine so I'm hoping to survive Thanksgiving without a "sliver" every time I pass one. It's nice that my house will be filled to the brim with family on Thursday. I can't wait to see everyone.
One thing is for sure, I haven't been light on my exercise with all the running around I have been doing.
Nancy, I hope your Mom settles in soon.
Margo, I hope Michael is happy when he gets to the trailer.
Annette, I hope you are feeling better.
Warm (((HUGS))) to everyone.
Bev
I'm busy running around, too. Yesterday I went to the foot doctor for nail and callous trim, feels so good. I don't know if I'll keep going, but for now it's good. Today I'm working, getting out a bit early to take Michael to the hospital. He'll be there overnight and have the fistula/tube inserted in the morning. Don't know if I mentioned it, but he is having it placed for dialysis that will be coming soon. Oh, dear.
Wednesday 7:30 is the procedure, shouldn't be too big a deal. Then I'll bring him home and finish up the day at work. That will be the end of my hectic week. I get to bake rolls to take to my brother's for the dinner. I love to bake and not eating them won't bother me at all. I make them in the bread machine to the dough stage and then form into rolls and bake. My family loves them.
I'm down another 3 pounds this week, making my loss 49 pounds! It's so exciting to keep going down.. Hope everyone is doing well - and making the most of the week.
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you CAN do." John Wooden
I'm down 120 pounds - thanks to RNY! Working on the next 25. Then I'll tackle more...
God Bless you for all the love and care you put into your Mom's living situtation and making sure she is in the best possible of place, not to mention all the other work you do! Your Mom most definitely is going to take a little while to adjust, as I've watched my dear great aunt go through this stage of live (she turns 95 this coming January) and while her body is in wonderful condition from years of going to the gym, her mind is not engaged as it once was and if you deviate from her regular schedule, it throws her into a very bad state. My cousin has wonderful people that care for her, as when she took her to an assisted living facility for an interview, my aunt carried on to such a degree that my cousin could not go through with her being there and for now the situation is working, though my cousin knows she will have to revisit this sometime soon. . . anyway, I wish you and your Mom the best and perhaps Sunday when you have her "tea" party, it will go a long way towards establishing comfortability where she is.
Well, I am here at work, it is another grey, gloomy day, however, I refuse to allow it to paintbrush me into gloom, I am looking forward to the day after tomorrow, no work for 4 days and no obligations, other than those I would chose either! I am looking forward to spending my holiday with my DIL's family and friends, lovely people, and, of course, my dear grands will be there and then Friday one of my best g/f's is coming down from North NJ for the day and I think perhaps we shall go to the movies, I'd love to see Blindside and don't think it's a movie Tony would want to go to, he should be coming down on Saturday and I hope in between to get house stuff done, but I reserve my right to totally do all or none of the above, other than the TG day at the Inlaws. . .
Well I need to get some work done, so I wish you all the best day possible and the ability and strength to get through whatever life brings your way today.
Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Today is going to be a day of staying home I am thinking. I want to get some stuff done around here since I am so tired of looking at it. I wait and wait to see if it will do it on it's own and so far nothing. I take it that it is going to wait for me to do it...gosh darn it I wish that it would take care of itself! But so far it is wanting me to do....everyone and everything wants a piece of me I guess. ha ha
It is gray and gloomy today. I didn't even open the blinds this morning. I just don't want to see it. It is feeling cold. I think that the warmer temperatures are done for now. I am not sure if they will be back or not. I hope so but I am not going to hold my breath.
I got a day for the family Christmas party that I am hosting this year. It is going to be the 13th at my church in the fellowship hall. We use to have it at the fire station that my cousin is a fire person at but they changed all that into bunks now so that is not available to us any longer. So my church fellowship hall is going to be a great place to have it from now on. It has a kitchen that is wonderful and so big. That is going to be so nice. Each year someone hosts the party and this year it is my sister and I. I know that I am going to be doing most of it since my sister never does any more than she has to. ha ha
I guess DS and DIL is going to get a divorce. DS told us yesterday when he came to get Kayden. I am glad that it is settled and now everyone can go and move on. I always had a feeling that DIL was wanting one anyway. I would rather have them divorce than have the baby live in unhappiness and discord. That would be so hard on him.
I guess I should get to going. I hope that everyone has a wonderful day and remember that I am sending love and hugs to all and prayers and good thoughts are being said for everyone too. Spread the joy and sunshine...heck it where you are is anything like where I am it would be the only sunshine they would see.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
