What's Happening-SUNDAY?
Happy Sunday to you, Nancy, and to everyone else!
Don't feel too guilty about feeling cranky. You've got a lot going on and you are doing your very best. You're human, not super woman, after all. :) It's amazing what we can accummulate in a home, isn't it? Sounds like your day today is going to be way busy too! Do you get some "you time" in a day? We all need that.
I'm guilty of forgetting to schedule "me" time. It does take a toll, physically and emotionally. :P
Yesterday my little guy came over and it was so good to see him again. I just love him so much. He came running down the hall as I was coming out, laughing and calling to me and leapt into my arms. It just felt so good!
Here is a picture of me & my little guy:
Well, we got some surprising news yesterday but not from my younger stepdaughter, Linda, to whom it happened. Older sister Michele called us after our visit because Linda was too afraid to tell us her news. :p
She's pregnant. She's married to her boyfriend, Jay. Now, this should be wonderful news and in a different situation, it would be.
This is a loooong story but I'll try to tell it as best as I can.
Linda has some major personality and behavior problems. She and my little guy's dad, Kennan, were serious and living together for years. Kennan loved her so much but she cheated on him, stole from him and did other hurtful things. When she became pregnant with Little T, he wasn't sure he was really the dad (but he is). After T was born, Linda left Kennan saying he was abusive and controlling. We believed her and took her in with us. While she lived with us, she manipulated and lied and stole and used our love for the baby as a weapon against us. When she was arrested for distributing alcohol to minors we did tell her she had to leave. She gave the baby to Kennan, bounced around for a couple of months, lived with her aunt & uncle and other places and then began living with another guy. Same thing happened again and he threw her out.
Meanwhile, we'd been to court trying to get visitation with our little guy. We hadn't seen him in over six months and then finally the judge gave us a visit a month. When we did see him, I was totally shocked by the change in him. At 12 months, he was developing right along with other kids. At 18 months, he was withdrawn, not talking, fearful, seemed not to hear and it was sort of scary. So when Linda begged to come back, our condition was that she bring T back with her because we wanted to have him assessed. So she got the baby back and moved back in but didn't do anything to help her son. So my DH and I took him to have his hearing tested and have a psychologist see him. We found out he's on the autistic spectrum so I contacted early childhood intervention. Even still, Linda wasn't doing anything and I couldn't proceed because DH and I aren't the parents. BUT luckily the program said they would sue Linda for neglect if she didn't act and so she finally started signing papers and attending meetings, putting the little guy in a special preschool, etc.
Things were no better with her as a mother and she was still lying and doing other bad things. On the other hand, once Kennan realized that there really was something going on with the boy, he got right on board, actively involved and doing everything he could to help Tomas. He paid for extra services, spent a lot of time one on one with his son, etc. My DH and I came to the conclusion that the little guy was really better off with his father, There was enough documented about Linda to get a judge to give Kennan residential custody, Linda visitation. The first almost 2 years of the change in custody, we'd take the little guy after school and keep him until dad got off work.
Then Linda met this guy Jay and moved in with him. Jay wasn't working and has a little girl around T's age. At first I thought he was a nice guy even if a bit of a bum. But then on a weekend visitation, T came home to his father bruised on the arms and chest. Kennan took pictures. Linda had three different stories about how T had gotten hurt, all of them equally outrageous and stupid. Eventually the truth came out though because child protective services were called in the same day T came home with the bruises. CPS found that the little girl had bruises too and she was removed from the home. What happened was that T had a bathroom accident, Jay got mad, grabbed him and hit him in the chest.
So this is way Linda has supervised visits only with her son on Saturday. The boyfriend is not allowed anywhere near T. He has to go for anger management and both have to take parenting classes. None of that has happened and it's been over a year! We told Linda that as long as she was with Jay, we'd never support her having unsupervised visits with T and that we'd always appear for Kennan in court. We said Jay was not welcome in our house until he's gotten through those programs and even then, we'd probably never ever trust him not to hurt a child. So...the news she married Jay and is now having a baby isn't the joyful news one would expect. We can't change or undo either and if she wants to marry that guy oh well. I'm worried about the baby though. So that's the story there.
Today I'm just planning to chillax.
Don't feel too guilty about feeling cranky. You've got a lot going on and you are doing your very best. You're human, not super woman, after all. :) It's amazing what we can accummulate in a home, isn't it? Sounds like your day today is going to be way busy too! Do you get some "you time" in a day? We all need that.
I'm guilty of forgetting to schedule "me" time. It does take a toll, physically and emotionally. :P
Yesterday my little guy came over and it was so good to see him again. I just love him so much. He came running down the hall as I was coming out, laughing and calling to me and leapt into my arms. It just felt so good!
Here is a picture of me & my little guy:
Well, we got some surprising news yesterday but not from my younger stepdaughter, Linda, to whom it happened. Older sister Michele called us after our visit because Linda was too afraid to tell us her news. :p
She's pregnant. She's married to her boyfriend, Jay. Now, this should be wonderful news and in a different situation, it would be.
This is a loooong story but I'll try to tell it as best as I can.
Linda has some major personality and behavior problems. She and my little guy's dad, Kennan, were serious and living together for years. Kennan loved her so much but she cheated on him, stole from him and did other hurtful things. When she became pregnant with Little T, he wasn't sure he was really the dad (but he is). After T was born, Linda left Kennan saying he was abusive and controlling. We believed her and took her in with us. While she lived with us, she manipulated and lied and stole and used our love for the baby as a weapon against us. When she was arrested for distributing alcohol to minors we did tell her she had to leave. She gave the baby to Kennan, bounced around for a couple of months, lived with her aunt & uncle and other places and then began living with another guy. Same thing happened again and he threw her out.
Meanwhile, we'd been to court trying to get visitation with our little guy. We hadn't seen him in over six months and then finally the judge gave us a visit a month. When we did see him, I was totally shocked by the change in him. At 12 months, he was developing right along with other kids. At 18 months, he was withdrawn, not talking, fearful, seemed not to hear and it was sort of scary. So when Linda begged to come back, our condition was that she bring T back with her because we wanted to have him assessed. So she got the baby back and moved back in but didn't do anything to help her son. So my DH and I took him to have his hearing tested and have a psychologist see him. We found out he's on the autistic spectrum so I contacted early childhood intervention. Even still, Linda wasn't doing anything and I couldn't proceed because DH and I aren't the parents. BUT luckily the program said they would sue Linda for neglect if she didn't act and so she finally started signing papers and attending meetings, putting the little guy in a special preschool, etc.
Things were no better with her as a mother and she was still lying and doing other bad things. On the other hand, once Kennan realized that there really was something going on with the boy, he got right on board, actively involved and doing everything he could to help Tomas. He paid for extra services, spent a lot of time one on one with his son, etc. My DH and I came to the conclusion that the little guy was really better off with his father, There was enough documented about Linda to get a judge to give Kennan residential custody, Linda visitation. The first almost 2 years of the change in custody, we'd take the little guy after school and keep him until dad got off work.
Then Linda met this guy Jay and moved in with him. Jay wasn't working and has a little girl around T's age. At first I thought he was a nice guy even if a bit of a bum. But then on a weekend visitation, T came home to his father bruised on the arms and chest. Kennan took pictures. Linda had three different stories about how T had gotten hurt, all of them equally outrageous and stupid. Eventually the truth came out though because child protective services were called in the same day T came home with the bruises. CPS found that the little girl had bruises too and she was removed from the home. What happened was that T had a bathroom accident, Jay got mad, grabbed him and hit him in the chest.
So this is way Linda has supervised visits only with her son on Saturday. The boyfriend is not allowed anywhere near T. He has to go for anger management and both have to take parenting classes. None of that has happened and it's been over a year! We told Linda that as long as she was with Jay, we'd never support her having unsupervised visits with T and that we'd always appear for Kennan in court. We said Jay was not welcome in our house until he's gotten through those programs and even then, we'd probably never ever trust him not to hurt a child. So...the news she married Jay and is now having a baby isn't the joyful news one would expect. We can't change or undo either and if she wants to marry that guy oh well. I'm worried about the baby though. So that's the story there.
Today I'm just planning to chillax.
Hmmm this got moved out of sync.... this is for Irishcoda
WOW........ how cute is he ! !
I'm glad to hear you are there for "Mr T" I wish there were more active advocates for kids who need them. Isn't it nice to know those little guys love us.... Nothing better than unsolicited huggs and kisses.
enjoy your "little man"
Millie
I'm exhausted......... just from reading Nancy's & Jan's posts.
All the planning and celebration work to be done.... whewww
Actually, I love it. I thrive on it. I just don't get to do it as much as I'd like to. I miss doing the big gatherings. My DILs, two of them, kinda ban me from the kitchen. It is their time to visit and get the food out. The kitchen is too small for many to be in there. Sigh, I do get to bring a few of my special food dishes but usually they like to shine.
This leaves me time to play with the kids and get into mischief with them. haa haa
I look forward to Thanksgiving this year. I love being with the kids and grandkids.
Millie
All the planning and celebration work to be done.... whewww
Actually, I love it. I thrive on it. I just don't get to do it as much as I'd like to. I miss doing the big gatherings. My DILs, two of them, kinda ban me from the kitchen. It is their time to visit and get the food out. The kitchen is too small for many to be in there. Sigh, I do get to bring a few of my special food dishes but usually they like to shine.
This leaves me time to play with the kids and get into mischief with them. haa haa
I look forward to Thanksgiving this year. I love being with the kids and grandkids.
Millie
Wow! my life seems quiet and boring compared to some of yours! But we all have our drama, I guess. Going to Thanksgiving at my brother's and the best sis-in-law ever. It will be a nice day Thursday. Today was relaxing and going to visit my sister, who just had leg surgery.
Other than that, it's been a nice, social weekend - coffee with OH'ers yesterday, lunch with Michael's cousin and her partner, and to a gallery opening last night. Great Saturday and a nice Sunday.
Those of you with difficulties are in my thoughts today!
Other than that, it's been a nice, social weekend - coffee with OH'ers yesterday, lunch with Michael's cousin and her partner, and to a gallery opening last night. Great Saturday and a nice Sunday.
Those of you with difficulties are in my thoughts today!
Mary
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you CAN do." John Wooden
I'm down 120 pounds - thanks to RNY! Working on the next 25. Then I'll tackle more...
"Do not let what you cannot do interfere with what you CAN do." John Wooden
I'm down 120 pounds - thanks to RNY! Working on the next 25. Then I'll tackle more...
Hi Nancy and my OFF family:
Geez, Nancy, I'm pooped reading your post. I was up at 4 a.m., unable to sleep ... that's what I get for having a 20 oz. Diet Coke at 8 p.m. ... but I was dozing off at work, and that wasn't good. Had to do something. I knew I was going to pay for it later. And on top of that, my knees ... notice the plural ... really hurt yesterday. Thought for sure we were going to get some storms, but it's bright and sunny today. They are calling for the s-word on Thursday ... that's no good ... I'm supposed to go home for Thanksgiving (Chicago, for those that don't know me well). Driving around the lake in a snowstorm is not fun. Hopefully, it'll just be flurries.
Talked to my brother this morning and he seems better. He went to church and sung in his choir ... regretted it because he had to stand most of the service. I told him that was stupid. He agreed. He was tired after that and in some pain. But he was feeling well enough to try going to church at least. He's going to wait until Tuesday to decide whether to come down for Thanksgiving (he lives north of Milwaukee ... it's a 2-hour drive for him, and turning might be difficult).
No big plans for me today. I am making a mini-Thanksgiving feast for me in case I don't get to go to Chicago ... turkey wings, StoveTop stuffing, frozen green bean casserole and a cup of my spiced wine that I bought in Wisconsin. I'll have leftovers then on Thursday if I'm home ... if not, they're in the freezer for another day when I want turkey. And anyway, I have a taste for turkey.
Well, that's all for me ... back to football and it's time to get the laundry going. Have a good Sunday.
Geez, Nancy, I'm pooped reading your post. I was up at 4 a.m., unable to sleep ... that's what I get for having a 20 oz. Diet Coke at 8 p.m. ... but I was dozing off at work, and that wasn't good. Had to do something. I knew I was going to pay for it later. And on top of that, my knees ... notice the plural ... really hurt yesterday. Thought for sure we were going to get some storms, but it's bright and sunny today. They are calling for the s-word on Thursday ... that's no good ... I'm supposed to go home for Thanksgiving (Chicago, for those that don't know me well). Driving around the lake in a snowstorm is not fun. Hopefully, it'll just be flurries.
Talked to my brother this morning and he seems better. He went to church and sung in his choir ... regretted it because he had to stand most of the service. I told him that was stupid. He agreed. He was tired after that and in some pain. But he was feeling well enough to try going to church at least. He's going to wait until Tuesday to decide whether to come down for Thanksgiving (he lives north of Milwaukee ... it's a 2-hour drive for him, and turning might be difficult).
No big plans for me today. I am making a mini-Thanksgiving feast for me in case I don't get to go to Chicago ... turkey wings, StoveTop stuffing, frozen green bean casserole and a cup of my spiced wine that I bought in Wisconsin. I'll have leftovers then on Thursday if I'm home ... if not, they're in the freezer for another day when I want turkey. And anyway, I have a taste for turkey.
Well, that's all for me ... back to football and it's time to get the laundry going. Have a good Sunday.
hi all!
guess i should have said more than asking when nancy's mother's party is....it sounds so wonderful !
have had an interesting day- accomplished actually quite a bit off "my list"-doesn't look like i did a thing around the house tho!
finished my orange hat!!! whoo hoo --i'll be a fashion statement and safe from deer hunters!!!!!
really nothing new, i guess...
hugs and prayers............
guess i should have said more than asking when nancy's mother's party is....it sounds so wonderful !
have had an interesting day- accomplished actually quite a bit off "my list"-doesn't look like i did a thing around the house tho!
finished my orange hat!!! whoo hoo --i'll be a fashion statement and safe from deer hunters!!!!!
really nothing new, i guess...
hugs and prayers............
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
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