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Jacki,
I'm sending you some hugs, as Margo said, not much more I can say. . . my Tony is dealing with some issues with his Mom right now too, it's hard times when people age and most especially when those people are are Mom's.
Hugs
, Laureen
I'm sending you some hugs, as Margo said, not much more I can say. . . my Tony is dealing with some issues with his Mom right now too, it's hard times when people age and most especially when those people are are Mom's.
Hugs
, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Jacki, I sure know what you are going through, not with my mom, but with Aunt Bernice. It was hard seeing her last year. She was so frail looking, and I never remembered seeing her so vulnerable looking. But everytime we thought she was going to die, she'd rally. I think your mom is ready to go ... I'm not trying to be mean, just saying it like it is. I think they know when they're ready. I know Aunt Bernice knew ... she was in a lot of pain at times. She told me sometimes how much pain she had.
Dear Jacki....it is difficult to let go of your Mother emotionally......but it sounds like her quality of life is not like she would like it. My Mother fought for years while she lived alone, but once she went into "Assisted Living"...she started down hill. She struggled to remember names of grandchildren, spouses, and she so loved them all it was heartbreaking. She called most of the Nurses and CNA's "Dear" or "You"...because she couldn't retain their names....to many of them.
She had a difficult time walking, but did every day. The nurses told me that she was a very very independent woman. The doctor told me her body was giving up on her, she did not have Alzheimers.....just problems with her short term memory....I don't think she weighed anymore than 80 lbs when she died and she was 5'8" tall, 93 years old. Her diagnosis on her death certificate was "Failure to Thrive"......
I feel blessed I was with her when she died on June 25, 2009 [along with a Hospice nurse] I know in my core she is in a better place and no longer suffering. I thought how difficult it would be not to talk to her, but find myself talking to her all the time. The last couple of years it was hard for her to keep up with my conversations anyway, I would have to back track, and I know she felt bad, because she was such an intelligent woman. Now I just talk to her and know she understands. I hear her lessons in my ears all the time.
I will pray for strength for you and your sister and that God's will be done.
Love, Marti
She had a difficult time walking, but did every day. The nurses told me that she was a very very independent woman. The doctor told me her body was giving up on her, she did not have Alzheimers.....just problems with her short term memory....I don't think she weighed anymore than 80 lbs when she died and she was 5'8" tall, 93 years old. Her diagnosis on her death certificate was "Failure to Thrive"......
I feel blessed I was with her when she died on June 25, 2009 [along with a Hospice nurse] I know in my core she is in a better place and no longer suffering. I thought how difficult it would be not to talk to her, but find myself talking to her all the time. The last couple of years it was hard for her to keep up with my conversations anyway, I would have to back track, and I know she felt bad, because she was such an intelligent woman. Now I just talk to her and know she understands. I hear her lessons in my ears all the time.
I will pray for strength for you and your sister and that God's will be done.
Love, Marti
"Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle"
Hi Jacki
I don't post often but I read the posts. I don't post at work and I get home late and by the time I get done exercising some nights, support group, dinner, etc., it is late and I get tired.
It is difficult when your mom (especially your mom because mothers and daughters have such a bond--I know I have one with mine and my daughter has one with me). My mother has had health issues for the last 23 years. She had stomach stapling in 1984, lost 80 pounds and has been successful within 10-20 pounds. She views herself as a failure because she doesn't weigh what she did when she was 19 and she will be 77 now in December. I would love to weigh what I did at 19 but I know that won't happen. I've educated her about how far this has come though.
That leads into the health problems. She has been diabetic for years and had a stroke 1-1/2 years after the stomach stapling. If she didn't have that, doctors told her she would have died then. Over the years, her arthritis in her knees has gotten worse and she developed diabetic neuropathy in her right leg so severe that she could not feel her foot. Despite this, an orthopedic surgeon thought she was a good candidate for a knee replacement in 2002 and she has had bypasses in the leg and the last straw was that the knee actually dissolved and she was left with hardware in the knee. She had been wheelchair bound and in horrible pain from the neuropathy that morphine couldn't even cure. There were times that she wanted to commit suicide and she called me at work one day to tell me that. I sent my sister over there after work to check on her and my dad. Thank God my dad is there for her.
With those problems, she has developed many infections and the hardware was causing them because her body was rejecting it. A new ortho surgeon strongly suggested amputation of the right leg and that was done on May 6th. She spent almost 3 months in a nursing home/rehab center.
I thank God now that she has done a 360 degree turn and that my dad (who is 81) can now start to enjoy some quality of life with mom. They are talking about going to Italy which is great when a year ago Mom wanted to die. She is battling the fitting of the prosthetic right now (the leg she had done was too small and she developed blisters) but we are all trying to accentuate the positive -the pain is for the most part gone except for a few phatom pains here and there.
It has been a very difficult few years seeing my mom who is a very energetic and vibrant and sharp woman be in this state and it was even harder on my Dad. He couldn't even get nurse's aides for assistance for her because she wouldn't let them touch her. He had to make their whole house handicap accessible, including a wheelchair lift going upstairs.
I know how you feel with keeping up with the day to day at work, home, etc. What is really interesting is that through this my Mom kept telling me to stay with my program and not deviate and not let any of this get to me. She is still thinking of me even thru all that and that is hard.
Sorry to get so long but I finally did start to cry on my way to the hospital on May 6th. I figured that either my Mom was going to die from the surgery because she was in a weakened condition or the infections would kill her. I was glad that she made the decision to amputate because it still showed that her fighting spirit was there--she was going to die trying. I prepared for the worst but things are getting better.
My prayers are with you and post. You will get to the point that you will cry and it is healing.
Hugs to you.
Sylvia
I don't post often but I read the posts. I don't post at work and I get home late and by the time I get done exercising some nights, support group, dinner, etc., it is late and I get tired.
It is difficult when your mom (especially your mom because mothers and daughters have such a bond--I know I have one with mine and my daughter has one with me). My mother has had health issues for the last 23 years. She had stomach stapling in 1984, lost 80 pounds and has been successful within 10-20 pounds. She views herself as a failure because she doesn't weigh what she did when she was 19 and she will be 77 now in December. I would love to weigh what I did at 19 but I know that won't happen. I've educated her about how far this has come though.
That leads into the health problems. She has been diabetic for years and had a stroke 1-1/2 years after the stomach stapling. If she didn't have that, doctors told her she would have died then. Over the years, her arthritis in her knees has gotten worse and she developed diabetic neuropathy in her right leg so severe that she could not feel her foot. Despite this, an orthopedic surgeon thought she was a good candidate for a knee replacement in 2002 and she has had bypasses in the leg and the last straw was that the knee actually dissolved and she was left with hardware in the knee. She had been wheelchair bound and in horrible pain from the neuropathy that morphine couldn't even cure. There were times that she wanted to commit suicide and she called me at work one day to tell me that. I sent my sister over there after work to check on her and my dad. Thank God my dad is there for her.
With those problems, she has developed many infections and the hardware was causing them because her body was rejecting it. A new ortho surgeon strongly suggested amputation of the right leg and that was done on May 6th. She spent almost 3 months in a nursing home/rehab center.
I thank God now that she has done a 360 degree turn and that my dad (who is 81) can now start to enjoy some quality of life with mom. They are talking about going to Italy which is great when a year ago Mom wanted to die. She is battling the fitting of the prosthetic right now (the leg she had done was too small and she developed blisters) but we are all trying to accentuate the positive -the pain is for the most part gone except for a few phatom pains here and there.
It has been a very difficult few years seeing my mom who is a very energetic and vibrant and sharp woman be in this state and it was even harder on my Dad. He couldn't even get nurse's aides for assistance for her because she wouldn't let them touch her. He had to make their whole house handicap accessible, including a wheelchair lift going upstairs.
I know how you feel with keeping up with the day to day at work, home, etc. What is really interesting is that through this my Mom kept telling me to stay with my program and not deviate and not let any of this get to me. She is still thinking of me even thru all that and that is hard.
Sorry to get so long but I finally did start to cry on my way to the hospital on May 6th. I figured that either my Mom was going to die from the surgery because she was in a weakened condition or the infections would kill her. I was glad that she made the decision to amputate because it still showed that her fighting spirit was there--she was going to die trying. I prepared for the worst but things are getting better.
My prayers are with you and post. You will get to the point that you will cry and it is healing.
Hugs to you.
Sylvia
HW: 407 SW: 386 CW: 202
RNY Surgery Date: 7-9-08
Dr. Manfred Chaing, Bariatric Institute of WI
RNY Surgery Date: 7-9-08
Dr. Manfred Chaing, Bariatric Institute of WI
My shrink wants me to consider going back on antidepressants. Lately I am having trouble remembering names of people, places, things and words in general. That makes writing and even talking difficult at times. You ought to see the many corrections I make before sending a post. 
I told him I want to see what the labs show first. I never forget my supplements but with our malabsorption I could be low in something.
I told him I want to see what the labs show first. I never forget my supplements but with our malabsorption I could be low in something.
Annette 
Good morning friends:
I've had a productive week.....the weather cooperated and I have gotten my gardens and flower beds cleaned up for winter.....took me two afternoons to do it, but hey, it's done! Now all piled up in the garage waiting for neighbor guy to haul it to the compost site.
Work this morning, then eye doc this afternoon to get a new script for glasses.....the ones I got last year just don't fit right -- lens are too small and bifocal bothers me. May not get it filled right away, but will definately go to Wal Mart when I do.....they have really good prices.
Still struggling with losing the 12 lbs I gained.....nothing seems to work, I think I need a head doctor! Or maybe my jaw wired shut!
Started a baby bib for a co-worker -- the bib is a pale blue and I am cross stitching three puppies on it.....should be cute. Will post it when I finish.
Need to get on the recumbent bike now.....have a great day all -- we are to get up to almost 70 here, then the bottom falls out tomorrow with rain and cooler temps. I have to see the ortho doc in K'zoo tomorrow and he will check my foot.....which I don't think it's much better and it's starting to get really twisted......oh well.
Pat R.
I've had a productive week.....the weather cooperated and I have gotten my gardens and flower beds cleaned up for winter.....took me two afternoons to do it, but hey, it's done! Now all piled up in the garage waiting for neighbor guy to haul it to the compost site.
Work this morning, then eye doc this afternoon to get a new script for glasses.....the ones I got last year just don't fit right -- lens are too small and bifocal bothers me. May not get it filled right away, but will definately go to Wal Mart when I do.....they have really good prices.
Still struggling with losing the 12 lbs I gained.....nothing seems to work, I think I need a head doctor! Or maybe my jaw wired shut!
Started a baby bib for a co-worker -- the bib is a pale blue and I am cross stitching three puppies on it.....should be cute. Will post it when I finish.
Need to get on the recumbent bike now.....have a great day all -- we are to get up to almost 70 here, then the bottom falls out tomorrow with rain and cooler temps. I have to see the ortho doc in K'zoo tomorrow and he will check my foot.....which I don't think it's much better and it's starting to get really twisted......oh well.
Pat R.
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Annette get a copy of them and send them to vitalady , some of the lab levels that are ok with pcps arent really what we need to keep ours. .... especially levels like D and vit bs and several others that could be the problem..... hey i forget names and such too and is so flustrating.....i say it is like this...after a certain age we have heard so much that we cant possible keep all of it in there ...so somethihg has to go at times lol .
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