OT: Shifting into Gratitude

We all know what it’s like to finally get something we want, only to find ourselves feeling as if we don’t deserve it. Whether it’s a car, a new job, or a date with someone wonderful, we suddenly feel as if we are not up to it. Something in us wants to reject this gift from the universe, perhaps because it requires that we think of ourselves in a new way or makes us question why we should have something that others don’t have. If these feelings of unworthiness are not consciously acknowledged, they can lead us to sabotage ourselves out of the gift being offered. Perhaps the best way to avoid rejection and sabotage is to simply shift into a state of gratitude, bypassing the question of worthiness altogether.

The question of whether we or anyone else deserves something is not really in our jurisdiction. These themes play themselves out in ways we can’t fully comprehend—on the level of the soul, over the course of many lifetimes. What we do know is that the universe has its own way of shifting the balance over the course of time so that all things are ultimately fair. We can trust in this process and understand that when a gift comes our way, it is because we are meant to have it. Otherwise, it would not be available to us. Accepting the gift with gratitude and using it to the best of our ability is true humility.

When we receive a gift and find that feelings of unworthiness crop up, we can simply acknowledge the feelings and then remind ourselves that they are beside the point. We might say to ourselves, "I am meant to have this." As we allow ourselves to accept the gift, we might feel tenderness in our hearts that naturally shifts into a deep feeling of gratitude. As we sit for a moment, consciously holding the gift in our hands or in our hearts, we say "yes" to the universe’s many blessings, and we also say "thank you."

Thank you Darlene, this is a great post.

I think we are all humble people and we do deserve a good life. We all know it's not about "things" especially in our stage of life. People matter, kindness, caring and reaching out to others...that  is important to me. Making a difference. Knowing that when I leave my earthly body and go to heaven that I've made a difference hopefully into a lot of people's lives. People that serve others are happy people.

I love my tool, given to me by a wonderful bariatric surgeon *****ally cares for people. I will not sabotage my surgery. I deserve the best for me and that means exercise, moderation and following the rules. I am worthy and so are the rest of you!