Regarding Linda?

Take a side trip and come see me ... when are you coming to Michigan? Maybe we can meet in the middle and get together.

if "the plan" works i'll drive up 9alone i hope) on fri nov 13th and come back thru on sat the 14th with my mom--
no promises yet--have to work out all of the details

See, that's what I'm talking about.  Leave the poor woman and her daughter alone.

If this wasn't so out of character for Linda and she didn't have the very serious family problems she shared with us, then I would not place so much importance on hearing from her. However, she was an intrigal part of this forum, interacting and communicating with everyone on a daily basis at least since I've been here and that's 3 years. She also has 2 or 3 very good friends here that she shares with outside of the forum and they also have not heard from her.  So taking everything into consideration, it would surprise me if she were staying away just to recover and recouperate. She would at least have contacted those few people who are her friends outside the forum. From what I remember she didn't have any family close by except Olivia and no friends to speak of.  I don't want to panic but I think asking the apt manager to check on her or taking a few other steps to validate her safety is not  going overboard.

I have to agree with you on this one.  This forum is a very important part of Linda's life and she relies on a great many of you on a daily basis.  And even though I rarely contribute very much to this forum, I'm here everyday, reading everyone's posts, and I really don't think that Linda would not want her OH family to worry needlessly about her.  So for all of you out there that have expressed concerns about her safety and well-being, I fully understand your concerns and I just pray that all is well with her.

I think that we can safely assume, or from the comments that Linda has made to me, that her daughter loves her and would not hurt her.

Well,I certainly do pray that you are right.  However, Linda was the one herself who shared her fears and uncertainties in respect to her daughter on many occasions, so it really is only second nature for the people who care so deeply about her well being to "have wondering minds", because as stated before, this behavior is not really typical of her.
When I had my RNY, I wanted no visitors, no phone calls....I just wanted to be left alone so that I could concentrate on myself and getting well.  So, with that being said, I do hope that your are right in your way of thinking, but I, as well as many others, will still have our concerns.  As others have stated, Linda has phone #'s of her closest friends and she has not called them, nor have they heard from her.  That in itself, I feel, is the most alarming behavior and sends up the most red flags.

Barbara, come on.  This is exactly in character with Linda.  She has major drama in her life routinely and is missing often and sometimes.  I am like Margo not blasting her, but she does have a lot of drama from her daughter and her fights to her not seeing and not being able to type to her feeling hurt and leaving to now.  So, this is routine. 

I honestly worry more that she fell or something else happened to her physically and Olivia doesn't want to take the time or feel it's important to let us know.  Olivia hurting her mother would be the last thing on my list.  From what I understand, as long as she takes her medication she's fine. I'm concerned that Linda had a serious complication from her surgery or an accident. Something like that. I really don't know what to think. It's very mysterious. If she wasn't up to posting here I would have thought she would have contacted Connie, Annette or Brenda privately.

If Olivia doesn't want to take the time to respond to us, why would we keep bothering her?  Sometimes we just need our time to reflect and get well and we don't need our private stuff put out there.  When I was in the hospital, I was conflicted about letting the board know because of several reasons but the main one is I am somewhat shy about being sick.  Even when I had surgery, Jan was the only one I told about my date because I just don't want a fuss.  Maybe that is what Linda is doing now; avoiding a fuss.