Regarding Linda?

lightswitch
on 10/17/09 2:51 am

Listen, I know you guys are worried sick about Linda, but the truth of the matter is, if she wanted us to know what's up with her, she would let us know.  She may feel like concentrating on getting better without the distraction from the online family.  Linda is grown and has a grown child and grown real family members who are capable of taking care of her.  If I were Olivia, I'd get a little annoyed having people messaging me and calling me.  Trust me, when Linda wants us, she knows where we are.

BTW, I realize that I go against the grain and some of you will get pissed so don't bother giving me your two cents worth.  I'm just saying:  when we get sick, we have our families and friends that exist in our real world and this world, while it is very real to many of you, is not a concrete relationship.  In other words, you guys cannot run over to Linda's and help her, but her family can.  So, back off and leave the poor woman alone.



weightlossdreamer
on 10/17/09 3:58 am - Canada
You post simply to criticize?

You not only criticize people for worrying about Linda and wanting to find out how Linda is but also for contacting her daughter AND for counting on and caring about people on this forum "while it is very real to many of you...".  You make it sound as if people on this forum are a little off - losers in your mind, which is really a low blow - even for you.
 
And then you have the nerve to say that you will give us your two cents worth but that we should keep our opinions to ourselves!   You can say what you want, but we should shut up?BS  I'll say what I want, when I want.

Your negative attitude speaks volumes about you.  I'll leave it at that.

lightswitch
on 10/17/09 4:18 am

You missed the point of the post:  If Linda wanted you or anyone here to know what's up with her, she would post.  My other point, leave her poor daughter alone.  I'm sure Olivia has seen the post that some of you have sent her and have seen where some of you have tried to call, surprisingly, she hasn't called back or posted back.  What do you suppose that means? 

And, you are just right there waiting to take anything I say as an excuse to start a flaming contest and I am not participating.  I simply offer another possibility that exists that is not that Linda is lying on the floor hurt, or that her daughter has not done something to her, or that she hasn't just dropped off the face of the earth.  My suggestion is that she doesn't want to be bothered.  Is that such a hard reality to face?



(deactivated member)
on 10/17/09 6:52 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
I'm not slamming you, you are entitled to your opinion just as much as everyone else.   I just want to say that if it were anyone else other than Linda who went missing for a couple weeks/months I probably would not be as anxious but given the stories Linda has posted about her relationship with her daughter and her cries for help I do feel there could be reason to be concerned.

Maybe I'm wrong but I got the feeling Linda had developed some "friendships" here with a couple of people.  Since she is not returning their calls I understand them being worried. 

This is a SICK world we live in.  If I suddenly went MIA I would like to think that someone missed me and was concerned just because what if I did need help.....wouldn't you want be cared about...

Personally I think it's nice to see so many caring people.  I think her former co-worker stopping by is nice...after all they did work together in the "real world".  I'm not a part of Linda's "real" world but I am still concerned for her.

Anyhow that's my 2 cents.....

lightswitch
on 10/20/09 2:19 am
While I am tempted to agree with you, I remember posting to Linda about her daughter and she, on the board, telling me that her daughter was really a good person, and that she may have over stated the case.  Linda has family members and friends who are active in her life and I think she may be a little like the rest of us, when we are sick, sometimes we need to conserve our energy for ourselves and not spend it on others.  And, as you know, this board can be a little energy draining; especially if you do a daily thread like she does.  I think we can be concerned but not send out the troops.  Here's the case: if she has fallen and is home alone, well, it's been weeks so there you go.  If she is in rehab and not using her laptop, which I can see that, she is okay.  My point is that we should give both Linda and her daughter privacy.  Here's the thing in a nut shell: if you or anyone else is so concerned that you guys are losing sleep, buy a plane ticket, fly to her town, rent a car, drive to her house, insist to the guy at the gate that she may be in trouble, and go knock on her door or call the cops and fill out a  missing in action card.  I'm just saying that we won't do that because Linda has her own family who is looking out for her. 


(deactivated member)
on 10/20/09 7:02 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
Hopefully you are correct.
Margo M.
on 10/17/09 7:35 am, edited 10/17/09 7:36 am - Elyria, OH
my 2 cents...i have kindof thought the same thing as jeannie for a week or so -or two or  three -just have not expressed it--knew it wouldn't be popular------the difference in what she said today and what i think is that  many of you ARE my real world.

i am mixed up about this linda thing --i care---i worry-- however--i also think that maybe she needs some privacy to regroup....she has always attracted drama and perhaps she needs to step back and work thru it--maybe she really is in a recovery place somewhere and is learning the internet may not really be her friend.....( i am NOT lambasting linda in any way nor making judgements!!!!) ....i know that she has told stories about her daughter which are not kind and i do believe her-and saying that i do wonder if her daughter actually would tell us the whole truth or string us on... does olivia really know how important many of you feel linda is to us???

and even tho i care and worry---i do not go on and on ...i agree with ruthie that i would hope you would wonder and worry about me if i went missing for weeks--i really was not sure we'd get back safely from panama--but i found a way to communicate...

i do have to say hear hear and hooray to margaret for the spirit of her post --i do not think jeannie means this the way you took it-after all-Canadians don't emote?? jk!!!

let's all step back and not argue--jeannie has a very valid opinion on this and i (kinda) share it--well- i DO share it with modifications (the line about the real world..in my case....just sayin.)


this may not make me win friends and influence people -i had to speak up.

I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White

 

(deactivated member)
on 10/17/09 7:40 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
Very well put Margo.
And I hope nobody read my response to Jeannie as an attac****rtainly did not mean it that way.
Margo M.
on 10/17/09 7:51 am - Elyria, OH
i know that!!!
hey-wanna take a break from UNpacking?? come on up here to ohio-and help me pack--i'm plotting a get away weekend to haul stuff to my mother's!!!

made ya smile didn't i!!!

I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White

 

(deactivated member)
on 10/17/09 8:27 am - West Central FL☼RIDA , FL
LOL on the packing....yes you made me smile!!!! 
Thanks!
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