Am I never going to learn????

Oh Brenda, I'm so sorry for your loss, an it is a loss.  It's tough to go through rough times like this with 'family'.  Just know you're in God's family and He loves you.  All of us on OFF are your family too, and if you need to vent (which I know helps immensely) do so here.  We'll always listen.
God Bless you and keep you safe in his hands.
Jan

This is absolutely heart-breaking Brenda.  My heart aches for you.  I don't know what to say I am so agasp at your situation.  All those months of waiting and participating in what you hoped would be a wonderful event, and destroyed by careless and hurtful words.  It goes beyond what a person can cope with.  Unfortunately those of us who have been obese are pretty much expecting rejection by people at some point.  That does not make it right.  This was not right, to be rejected for another reason, but rejected all the same.  I'm reaching out to you Brenda with open arms and hoping you won't lurk but come into the warm embrace of people who will love you and not reject you.  I understand not wanting to communicate, but perhaps you would be turning away from the one constant source of encouragement you have. 
It is my hope and prayer Brenda, that we can in some small way be a source of encouragement and joy.  You have given so much of yourself to each of us.  Let us return that joy and encouragement to you.  Praying for you during a difficult time, and asking God to bless you richly.

Brenda....I am just heartsick over this. You are the most gentle, loving, caring and wonderful lady. You don't deserve this treatment from anyone. What the hell are they thinking....especially Bill. That is totally inexcusable behavior.

My thoughts and prayers are with you....always!

You know how much we care about you....we are all here at your side!

Love and gentle hugs my friend....connie d

Brenda,
You have plenty of brains and use them well. You also use your kind heart and giving spirit.  Those qualities are the essense of our Special Brenda.

I know you are always kind but in this instance, it might be more than appropriate to tell them to go f__k themselves!!!!

Take care, we all love you.
HUGS
Annette

Brenda, my heart is breaking for you.  You know how loved you are by all of us.  I know that during this time all emotions are running high.  There is just no way around it.  But, the hurt is the same.  I know this is something that you will never forget, as much as you will try to do so.  I've been hurt, I know and feel your pain.  Yes, she is very hormonal right now.  This little innocent child knows no hate, nothing except what he will be taught and only they can teach that. 
Brenda, we love you and need you here, don't hide, please.  I'm sending you so much love and big warm hugs, from me to you, my friend and "sister".
Pat A

Brenda, this is heartbreaking.  Know that this is NOT YOUR FAULT!  It sounds like you have offered an olive branch time and again.  Like everyone else has said, take care of you.

A very sad consequence of all of this is that there is a precious child that will be denied a caring grandma.

I had a 'step-grandmother'.  My grandfather was estranged from all of his children for divorcing and remarrying.  Every year for birthdays and Christmas we received gifts from Grandpa and Edna.  We didn't understand for YEARS why we never saw them.  After I grew up and married, I made the effort to include them in MY children's lives.  Children need as many loving people in their lives as they can get.

Take care and keep us posted. 

Ah, dear heart.....what sad news this morning. Life never ceases to surprise me in it's cruelty at times.....and for someone like you who has done nothing but help and rejoice in the anticipation of this new arrival to be insulted and denied your right to be a full fledged grandmother to this baby, is just plain tragic.

It sounds like there is no hope....you have been hurt for the last time. Be very sure that you really want to "throw out the baby with the bathwater." Think it through, and THEN when and if you feel that there is no hope...declare your independence and remove yourself from what could be years of pain.

You are so loving and supportive of everyone here......I cannot even imagine anyone being unkind to you. I hope you feel the love comingto your from your OFF family.

Aloha nui loa,

Maui Karen

Well, Brenda, screw them, because they're losing out on a wonderful person and the best grandmother that kid could have. Let them put it in day care when she wants to go back to work and see how much it's going to cost them. They're losing out on a lot of money and lot of love. I know you feel a loss too, because you were so looking forward to this child, but you can only take so much hurt.

I'm going to call you today or tomorrow. You're in my thoughts.

I am so very sorry dear Brenda! You don't deserve this...

Brenda,

I am so sorry for you.  I don't know the story since I haven't been here that long.  I hope your broken heart mends quickly.  No one deserves this kind of treatment/abuse.

Blessings to you for a happy day.

D