Empty Nest Blues
Hey Everyone, I'm hving a real hard time dealing with my daughter deceiding when she graduates from H.S. she moving from Michigan to Maui, with her boyfriend and his parents. Ugh1 Just writing it makes me cry all over again. I'm 51 and a Lapbander, this makes me not want to eat at all. When I do my band is so tight, I feel sick. How do other Moms (Dads too) deal with this ? Its so hard....
Just know that it is hard when the little baby chicks fly the nest and build their own lives. She is still part of you even though she is not right by you. I am sure that you will build your new life and remember distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Prayers are being said for you and your family. It is like Jeane said, God loves her more than you do and will take care of her.
Prayers are being said for you and your family. It is like Jeane said, God loves her more than you do and will take care of her.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Oh my gosh Debbie- that would make me feel sick too, band or no band. This is grief that you feel and grief is hard work. It is good that you are talking about it here. You may want to get some short term therapy to explore it with a professional. Is she graduating in a few months or next year. If it's in a month or so I think you will need to face the fact and go through the feelings. If it's next year- who knows what will happen between now and then. Feel free to cry to us here... it is a big deal.
Hugs from Julia
Hugs from Julia
Annette 
i have 3 kids- and wow- while i do commisserate with you i also think that - um whoever said vacation was right!!! there is the telephone and internet and even snail mail...and airplanes go back abnd forth ....it is a civilized place!!! there are walmarts and costcos there ...
sorry-i am sure this is not helping you---
would you feel better about the situation if she were merely going to say california to go to college?????
as for the eating-yes- it is stressful to you and perhaps you need to see someone for short therapy...i'm not familiar enough with the bands so i can't speak about that part....
sending hugs!
sorry-i am sure this is not helping you---
would you feel better about the situation if she were merely going to say california to go to college?????
as for the eating-yes- it is stressful to you and perhaps you need to see someone for short therapy...i'm not familiar enough with the bands so i can't speak about that part....
sending hugs!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
You may need a small unfill. Stress can cause your band to be to tight.
My youngest went to college and never came back it is hard. But, after 4 years it is harder when she comes home.
My youngest went to college and never came back it is hard. But, after 4 years it is harder when she comes home.
BAND REMOVED 9-4-12-fought insurance to get sleeve and won! Sleeved 1/22/13! Five years out and trying to get that last 15 pounds back off.
Empty nest takes some getting used to, for sure. My youngest left for college in Chicago in 2003 (12 hours away) and I remember feeling so empty inside. I try to remember, the biggest gift we can give our children is wings to fly. You will adjust. Try and keep yourself busy and take the time now for you. I took a sewing class last year, I'm active in a bird club, and now take piano lessons. Make the time useful and do some fun things for you that you have not been able to do up till this point.
((((hugs)))) Visits are so much fun when they come home. Your relationship with your daughter will take a meaning of its own now.
God Bless,
Debbie
((((hugs)))) Visits are so much fun when they come home. Your relationship with your daughter will take a meaning of its own now.
God Bless,
Debbie
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