Is there hope?
Hi everybody! Got a question...
Over the past year I have gained abut 17 pounds. Not a big number, but enough to stress me out and put me up a size in clothing-a BIG scare for me! I have 2 closets full of clothes that are too tight or wont fasten at all.
I joined Weigh****chers, but didnt stick with it because the protein I need threw me over the point limit. Now I have some kind of mental block that tells me I will never be able to lose this! Im thinking because Im 62 years old, Im stuck with being "matronly". I have stopped caring about how I look, Im really depressed and terrified that I have failed. I went from a size 12-14 to a 16-18!! I don't know what to do from here...HELP!
I keep thinking,the pouch test,,and I have done that in the past, but the last couple of times I couldnt stick with it. Im eating mostly protein, not junk, but stuff like soups and beans. Lots of calories there.
So, today I thought,,take a deep breath, and ask for help.
I dont have a support group near here,,my doc is thirty miles away, so you all are my support . I come here and read almost every day, I just never post.
Have I settled into the "bounce back" and has it come to stay?? Today I started journaling everything I am eating, so thats a start. I just am so overwhelmed with this, that its all I think about! Help!!!
Betsy
Over the past year I have gained abut 17 pounds. Not a big number, but enough to stress me out and put me up a size in clothing-a BIG scare for me! I have 2 closets full of clothes that are too tight or wont fasten at all.
I joined Weigh****chers, but didnt stick with it because the protein I need threw me over the point limit. Now I have some kind of mental block that tells me I will never be able to lose this! Im thinking because Im 62 years old, Im stuck with being "matronly". I have stopped caring about how I look, Im really depressed and terrified that I have failed. I went from a size 12-14 to a 16-18!! I don't know what to do from here...HELP!
I keep thinking,the pouch test,,and I have done that in the past, but the last couple of times I couldnt stick with it. Im eating mostly protein, not junk, but stuff like soups and beans. Lots of calories there.
So, today I thought,,take a deep breath, and ask for help.
I dont have a support group near here,,my doc is thirty miles away, so you all are my support . I come here and read almost every day, I just never post.
Have I settled into the "bounce back" and has it come to stay?? Today I started journaling everything I am eating, so thats a start. I just am so overwhelmed with this, that its all I think about! Help!!!
Betsy
"For I know the plans I have for you ," declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
Hi Betsy, and I love the name Betsy!
Okay give me more information so we all can help you.
Now the big question? Do you exercise and how much and for how long a period of time?
You can and will get down to your goal weight. Heads up, put a smile on your face and start walking. Start lifting weights. Heck ya, I'd be scared too when your clothes don't fit. Red flags are flying here and you can take control of your life. Embrace lifestyle change, don't diet, you will start the roller coaster of yo-yo dieting and that's why you had surgery in the first place.
If you are not happy at the size you are then do something about it. Your tool is still there.
Okay, It's taken me 2 years to get to goal, I exercise everyday and chose that as my "transfer addiction, first I had to treat exercise as a job...I had to do this to succeed.
I'm a size 6 (my goal was to get to a size 16) I never weigh myself, I go by my clothes and clothes don't lie. The scale doesn't tell the whole picture if you are exercising every day.
Okay give me more information so we all can help you.
Now the big question? Do you exercise and how much and for how long a period of time?
You can and will get down to your goal weight. Heads up, put a smile on your face and start walking. Start lifting weights. Heck ya, I'd be scared too when your clothes don't fit. Red flags are flying here and you can take control of your life. Embrace lifestyle change, don't diet, you will start the roller coaster of yo-yo dieting and that's why you had surgery in the first place.
If you are not happy at the size you are then do something about it. Your tool is still there.
Okay, It's taken me 2 years to get to goal, I exercise everyday and chose that as my "transfer addiction, first I had to treat exercise as a job...I had to do this to succeed.
I'm a size 6 (my goal was to get to a size 16) I never weigh myself, I go by my clothes and clothes don't lie. The scale doesn't tell the whole picture if you are exercising every day.
Thanks for replying.
Actually, I havent been exercising on a regular basis. When the weather is nice I walk everywhere, but this winter,,nothing. I did a few videos for a while, but then gave up. I think, when I dont walk, I dont know what exactly to do! There is no gym closeby and I cant afford a membership right now. I can however, afford Curves,,would that be good? I have heard pros and cons about it. right now, to be truthful , Im leading a very sedentary life. I have had some major stresses lately too,,and the depression is contributing to the weight gain I am sure.
I have found myself slipping back into the diet mentality,,and that scares me too. I wake up thinking. Count calories? Carbs? Protein?
I feel totally stupid, being the age I am and in tears because of my weight again. I did that all my life! I never got below 193 pounds (wore a 12) but the doc said that was a good weight for me,,I just want to get back there!!! I have kept off 123 of the 140 I had lost,,,and Im thankful for that, but in my minds eye Im huge again.
This is all so crazy! My family is getting real tired of my obsession with this!!
Actually, I havent been exercising on a regular basis. When the weather is nice I walk everywhere, but this winter,,nothing. I did a few videos for a while, but then gave up. I think, when I dont walk, I dont know what exactly to do! There is no gym closeby and I cant afford a membership right now. I can however, afford Curves,,would that be good? I have heard pros and cons about it. right now, to be truthful , Im leading a very sedentary life. I have had some major stresses lately too,,and the depression is contributing to the weight gain I am sure.
I have found myself slipping back into the diet mentality,,and that scares me too. I wake up thinking. Count calories? Carbs? Protein?
I feel totally stupid, being the age I am and in tears because of my weight again. I did that all my life! I never got below 193 pounds (wore a 12) but the doc said that was a good weight for me,,I just want to get back there!!! I have kept off 123 of the 140 I had lost,,,and Im thankful for that, but in my minds eye Im huge again.
This is all so crazy! My family is getting real tired of my obsession with this!!
"For I know the plans I have for you ," declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
Betsy, you did the most important thing right now....you came forward and stated that you have a problem and can someone help you. That is the beginning of helping yourself. You can't change something unless you voice that you have the problem.
Journaling is a great step in helping the problem. This makes you accountable. I would also suggest going on Linda's thread and writing it down. That makes you even more accountable. It makes you stick more to the food plan if you write it down and tell people that is what you are eating. Of course sometimes things happen and they change so beat yourself up for that. Just make sure it is a legitimate change.
When you have problems come and share with us. Nothing is to heavy for a group to share. We are good at sharing the burden with each other. That is what family does.
Just know that we are here for you will and waiting to help. Just as we know that you are for us. Post often and let us know what is going on with you. I for one miss your posts. You bring a spot to my day that helps to brighten it. Remember too if you can't do something for a lifetime you can do it for one day....or one hour or one minute or even one second. Just take it a day at a time, dear Betsy. Sending you love and hugs............
BTW......reread your signature line on here. It will help you too! Remember it was said for you too.
Journaling is a great step in helping the problem. This makes you accountable. I would also suggest going on Linda's thread and writing it down. That makes you even more accountable. It makes you stick more to the food plan if you write it down and tell people that is what you are eating. Of course sometimes things happen and they change so beat yourself up for that. Just make sure it is a legitimate change.
When you have problems come and share with us. Nothing is to heavy for a group to share. We are good at sharing the burden with each other. That is what family does.
Just know that we are here for you will and waiting to help. Just as we know that you are for us. Post often and let us know what is going on with you. I for one miss your posts. You bring a spot to my day that helps to brighten it. Remember too if you can't do something for a lifetime you can do it for one day....or one hour or one minute or even one second. Just take it a day at a time, dear Betsy. Sending you love and hugs............
BTW......reread your signature line on here. It will help you too! Remember it was said for you too.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Thanks so much Brenda! I really didnt think I was missed!
I am an emotional eater,,and my emothions have been all over the place recently! A job change for my husband, a cancer scare for my youngest daughter, a teen grandson suddenly facing a teen pregnancy on an Indian reservation where he had visited, a cycling Bi Polar son in law, another son in law laid off,,have all driven me to the fridge and the pantry!! Im trying to get a grip on things though, and facing the reality that I can't fix everything,,and that He has a plan!! I forget that sometimes,,thanks for the reminder!!
Well, gotta run, we are going to Southern Indiana so my husband can fix my sisters car. Ill be back tommorrow though. And Im determined, to take it one hour at a time!
thanks so much Sweet Brenda! You made my day!
Be Blessed!
Betsy
I am an emotional eater,,and my emothions have been all over the place recently! A job change for my husband, a cancer scare for my youngest daughter, a teen grandson suddenly facing a teen pregnancy on an Indian reservation where he had visited, a cycling Bi Polar son in law, another son in law laid off,,have all driven me to the fridge and the pantry!! Im trying to get a grip on things though, and facing the reality that I can't fix everything,,and that He has a plan!! I forget that sometimes,,thanks for the reminder!!
Well, gotta run, we are going to Southern Indiana so my husband can fix my sisters car. Ill be back tommorrow though. And Im determined, to take it one hour at a time!
thanks so much Sweet Brenda! You made my day!
Be Blessed!
Betsy
"For I know the plans I have for you ," declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
Hi Betsy,
Whew! You do have so much going on, don't you. It's little wonder you've put on some lbs. Don't be hard on yourself, you're only human.
I can so understand where you're coming from. I find myself going back to old habits, and have "somehow" gained three lbs and finally woke myself up and decided it better not become 10.
Is there anyway you can have an appointment with a nutritionist? Maybe that will help you get back on track. Mine has me on a 1440 cal a day regimen with 40% carb, 30% protein and fat each. I switched it around to 50% protein, 30% carb, 20% fat and have lost about a pound this last week or so. Carbs are important, you know, it's just the RIGHT ones.
I'm so glad you came back. With all the experiences we have had here, some one will be able to help. if for nothing else than to say "you can do it!"
Whew! You do have so much going on, don't you. It's little wonder you've put on some lbs. Don't be hard on yourself, you're only human.
I can so understand where you're coming from. I find myself going back to old habits, and have "somehow" gained three lbs and finally woke myself up and decided it better not become 10.
Is there anyway you can have an appointment with a nutritionist? Maybe that will help you get back on track. Mine has me on a 1440 cal a day regimen with 40% carb, 30% protein and fat each. I switched it around to 50% protein, 30% carb, 20% fat and have lost about a pound this last week or so. Carbs are important, you know, it's just the RIGHT ones.
I'm so glad you came back. With all the experiences we have had here, some one will be able to help. if for nothing else than to say "you can do it!"
Susan
Hi Betsy:
You are not alone. I am finding it hard to keep the pounds from going back on ... part of mine is some fluid retention (I know this because I can see my legs swell) but another part is I'm overeating and the wrong things. Plus, I've been stressed out over the work situation and not exercising because of ... well, various reason, last week it was my foot, this week, it's the cold. Give me time, I'll come up with an excuse. I was doing pretty good until the work situation caved in (big pay cut coming in June has me all worried).
We all have these in our lives, you seem to have much more than I do. I too am an emotional eating, which is why I've contnued to come to this board everyday and why I continue to see my therapist. I know I would have done worse if I hadn't.
You will be able to lose this weight. Go back to basics. Protein, water, exercise. (I know, I have to do the same ... I'm doing OK on the protein and water, it's the exercise I lack.)
Keep coming here; post and read; call someone if you need help ... we're all here for you. I like to think of it as "phone a friend." Whenever I get so down that I want to eat, I call a friend. First, it keeps me from eating because I don't want to talk and eat; second, it usually picks me up to talk to someone.
You are not alone. I am finding it hard to keep the pounds from going back on ... part of mine is some fluid retention (I know this because I can see my legs swell) but another part is I'm overeating and the wrong things. Plus, I've been stressed out over the work situation and not exercising because of ... well, various reason, last week it was my foot, this week, it's the cold. Give me time, I'll come up with an excuse. I was doing pretty good until the work situation caved in (big pay cut coming in June has me all worried).
We all have these in our lives, you seem to have much more than I do. I too am an emotional eating, which is why I've contnued to come to this board everyday and why I continue to see my therapist. I know I would have done worse if I hadn't.
You will be able to lose this weight. Go back to basics. Protein, water, exercise. (I know, I have to do the same ... I'm doing OK on the protein and water, it's the exercise I lack.)
Keep coming here; post and read; call someone if you need help ... we're all here for you. I like to think of it as "phone a friend." Whenever I get so down that I want to eat, I call a friend. First, it keeps me from eating because I don't want to talk and eat; second, it usually picks me up to talk to someone.
betsy-gosh-i have no specific answers- i don't think you were here on the OFFboard yet when i was sooooooooo close to goal-well 83% there! and my hubby got sick--i put back on 33 of the 83# i had lost! i am an emotional eater-and i was fooling myself-eating salad -but loaded with stuff! cheeses eggs nuts etc etc!!! cheese sticks for protein , and i have a real tuff love thing with carbs-NOT the good ones!!!before he got sick i was walking two-three miles a day and doing some exercising- when he got sick everything for me stopped- and -gosh that was 4 years ago end of this month! i have yet to get myself back in the proper groove-i finally have lost about 10 # again so i know i can--but i seem stuck---(understandably cuz i am still not exercising etc!!!)--
my point is- well- i don't know that i have one!!! you are human- and you are loved here....it IS tuff-remember tho that you have maintained keeping off that weight--you did NOT put it ALL back and then some like we used to pre surgery!!! no one ever said this was easy and if they did they lied--stick with us and maybe shake things up a bit in the food dept--also-get thee to a place you can walk or dance or exercise- even if it is gently in the living room in your jammies!!!! your tool still works-it's the mental part that needs help--and you are NOT alone!!!
you have done the hard part- you have asked for help!! here's a hug!!!
my point is- well- i don't know that i have one!!! you are human- and you are loved here....it IS tuff-remember tho that you have maintained keeping off that weight--you did NOT put it ALL back and then some like we used to pre surgery!!! no one ever said this was easy and if they did they lied--stick with us and maybe shake things up a bit in the food dept--also-get thee to a place you can walk or dance or exercise- even if it is gently in the living room in your jammies!!!! your tool still works-it's the mental part that needs help--and you are NOT alone!!!
you have done the hard part- you have asked for help!! here's a hug!!!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
There is a Yahoo group dedicated to those 1+ yrs out who either never reached their personal goal or watched it slip away. They support each other in a REASONABLE low carb lifestyle. There is someone there who is very discouraged, someone who is on the recovery road, someone who's slipped again, someone who's hanging on--- in other words, there is someone at every stage of post-op weight issues. BTDT for so many of us.
It is not surgery or age specific in any way. The common denominator is WEIGHT. Period. Warm and friendly group.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-lowcarblifestyle/
It is not surgery or age specific in any way. The common denominator is WEIGHT. Period. Warm and friendly group.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-lowcarblifestyle/
Michelle
RNY, distal, 10/5/94
P.S. My year + long absence has NOTHING to do with my WLS, or my type of WLS. See my profile.
Oh my, what a sweet surprise to come home, boot up the computer and find so many replies to my cry for help! It really made my day!
We just got home from Evansville, where my sister lives alone. Mike went to fix her car, and it took a day and a half. All there was to eat there were wrong things,,but like I told her,,tomorrow is another brand new day. Tonight we went to Ponderosa to eat on the way home, and I looked around the restaurant andnoticed that almost everyone in there had a serious weight problem. Mike and I hardly ever go to a buffet, but tonight he wanted a steak. When I saw all those people,,it brought back all those memories of years of eating at the "feeding trough" as I came to think of a Buffet. It really strengthened my resolve to start eating right, and making myself exercise. I saw one lady that was about the size I was when I had my RNY, and it was good for me to be reminded (see,,He has His ways!!). In the morning I will seek out that Yahoo group,,and I will start the pouch test to stop the cravings. And I will take one hour at a time as has been suggested.
Some good news,,the grandson that I spoke of earlier, got a call today. he is not going to be a father at 18, thank the good Lord! That child has been through so much, that was a real bummear when we heard he might be facing that. We are are so relieved , now he can get on with his life. He was ready to face a responsibility that he really wasn't ready for, but now he can finish school.
Thanks again for all the advice and encouragement. I will stay in touch,and tomorrow will begin posting on Linda's thread again as accountability. I am so thankful for you all,,you have been such a blessing in this tough time! Hugs to you all!
Be Blessed
Betsy
We just got home from Evansville, where my sister lives alone. Mike went to fix her car, and it took a day and a half. All there was to eat there were wrong things,,but like I told her,,tomorrow is another brand new day. Tonight we went to Ponderosa to eat on the way home, and I looked around the restaurant andnoticed that almost everyone in there had a serious weight problem. Mike and I hardly ever go to a buffet, but tonight he wanted a steak. When I saw all those people,,it brought back all those memories of years of eating at the "feeding trough" as I came to think of a Buffet. It really strengthened my resolve to start eating right, and making myself exercise. I saw one lady that was about the size I was when I had my RNY, and it was good for me to be reminded (see,,He has His ways!!). In the morning I will seek out that Yahoo group,,and I will start the pouch test to stop the cravings. And I will take one hour at a time as has been suggested.
Some good news,,the grandson that I spoke of earlier, got a call today. he is not going to be a father at 18, thank the good Lord! That child has been through so much, that was a real bummear when we heard he might be facing that. We are are so relieved , now he can get on with his life. He was ready to face a responsibility that he really wasn't ready for, but now he can finish school.
Thanks again for all the advice and encouragement. I will stay in touch,and tomorrow will begin posting on Linda's thread again as accountability. I am so thankful for you all,,you have been such a blessing in this tough time! Hugs to you all!
Be Blessed
Betsy
"For I know the plans I have for you ," declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
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