I've sure missed ya, but needed ya even more!

Hi All! I haven't been in contact w3ith ya forever, or so it seems. I've lurked at times to see how y'all are doing, but between depression and flat-out humiliation I've not been participating. My world has gone totally crazy since my mother died last April. My weight certainly shows it as I've gained 25 lbs since then. What in the world am I doing to myself? I ask myself that question daily as I step on the scale and slide deeper into self-disgust. Since April I've had 3 more surgeries to get my Interstim in a good place so it won't migrate to just under my skin and had shoulder surgery in January to repair a ruptured bicep muscle and torn rotator cuff. Going thru all of this stuff is not an excuse although I've apparently used it as such. After maintaining my weight loss for 3 years I'm going backwards! I know the stress of having my 4 younger siblings on the phone and email almost daily has not helped me cope with things either. I was so daarned ****y! I thought I'd licked my lifelong habit of eating over emotional stressors. Ha! The joke's on me, eh?

Welcome back, Rusty ... don't stay away so long next time (don't let there be a 'next time').

We all need each other ... if I didn't check in daily, I know I'd surely gain. You guys keep me sane (or drive me crazy, not sure which, but I love ya all!)

Well, there you are, Missy!!  I was thinking about you the other day and wondering what had happened to you.

We all understand about the self-disgust and slippery slide.  You're in good company and you know, misery loves company!!

I had a LBL in October and I've only dropped about 7 lbs and they lopped off 16... so I feel your pain.

Don't be a stranger.  We need you here.... but us oldies do understand the need for getting a life and moving on but OFF kinda keeps ya grounded.

Thanks for coming back.

Janet

rusty...please stop beating yourself....sending you a big hug and glad to see you back!!! have wondered where you were / how you were....my own emotional eating has kept me , in part, from ever getting to goal...so i can well relate....hang in with us!

We all need each other whether we are just beginners or have been at it for awhile.  Your most important step was to come on and tell us what's  been going on with you.  Keep posting and everyone will be standing by you and always willing to give you some encouragement or just a big hug.
I'd like to get to know you better....thanks for posting.

A rather newbie , I love this site and it keeps me going.....I know the further out I get, the harder it may be to keep losing or even maintain so I intend to keep on keeping on.....here at OFF.
Hugs,
Sandy

Aloha Rusty....I didn't realize how much I missed you until I saw that gorgeous grand red hat on you!!

I'm so glad you came back in. You have been through hell and back....and out there living your life for sure. 25 lbs. gain is NOT the end of the world.......you can lose that in no time...just go back to those basics we had drummed into our heads.

For me, I really appreciate hearing from WLS sisters who have had weight regain because its important to find out what triggers the eating, and how they successfully turned it back around. We ALL need each other for so many different things that can go wrong on this journey.

Sending you a big hug to tell you you are missed and to beg you not to stay away so long.

Aloha nui loa,

Maui Karen

Hi pretty lady,I am so sorry for your loss.
You will get the food thing straight again.
I look at mine's the AA way,which means I will aways be a compulsive over eater,and I fight the food dragon one day,and yes,sometimes one meal at a time.
Heck girl!! You are going through so much,you have never been ****y as I ever saw.
We are who we are. Positive energy being sent your way.
Welcome back home.

Rusty,
I was in Denver March 2nd thru the 10th to see my friends. I was wondering how you were doing.
Dont beat yourself up to much for the gain. You can get it off and go running.
I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and I gained also. I have lost 15 of the 20 I have gained.
I am going to be in Denver for a month starting around May 16th or so. I have to see Dr Tilquist on the 22nd of May cause he did a laparoscopy on me when I was there.
keep the faith there girl!!!!! you will do fine.
Carla

Rusty,

Life tends to throw raodblocks in our path along this journey. Stick around and let us all help you move those boulders out of your way.
Big hugs
Annette

Rusty, I am so glad to see back home. It is like I always say....the family isn't complete when one of us is missing. You are most certainly missed.

I know that sometimes life has a way of coming up along side of us and smacking us in the head at times. That is life and we just adjust. Sometimes we don't adjust as well as others. We are people and so that means that we are not perfect no matter what our intentions are. So....I guess what I am working on saying is the weight loss is what it is and now that you named it and claimed it you just have to dump it. So we all do the same thing and put one foot in front of the other and just go on. We know that most times we are the hardest on ourselves than others are on us. You have been where so many have traveled and others will travel. Together we can accomplish things that we can't do alone.......so let us help you get to where you want to be by just walking with you, talking with you and we will guide each other to our individual places.

Welcome back dear sister and know that you were missed and we welcome you back with open arms and so much love you will never know.