My Feelings
I, too, am a lurker and often feel like there is a click of a few. I, though, blame myself because my real life took over this life and I just began dropping in once or twice a week. However, I know what you mean about the lip service and feel that sometimes they don't really want to know how things are because they offer the, prayers said, or you are in my thoughts and prayers, and that is it. So, when you read it and see it, the moment is fleeting and so are the feelings that accompany these lip service responses. Just be careful about your own feelings and don't let this place determine your happiness, which it sounds like you don't. I, for one, am happy you don'thave cancer.
Julia...I am sorry you were made to feel this way. I am just as guilty of not following through and checking in more often as others have been.. I have had such a crazy and hectic life. There never seems to be enough time in the day to do all the things I would like to do.
I have thought of you often. I am so glad to hear the Cancer has not returned.
Please don't leave for good. I always enjoyed your posts and hope to hear from you again.
Hugs....connie d
I have thought of you often. I am so glad to hear the Cancer has not returned.
Please don't leave for good. I always enjoyed your posts and hope to hear from you again.
Hugs....connie d
Julia...I am mainly a lurker here. I do like this board. They have some great threads here from time to time. I am so sorry about your feelings. I did not know about the cancer or the problems you have had recently. I hate you feel left out. I am sure that you are a truly precious person, as most people are here, or at least seem to be. I have actually only met two people from this board, Floyd and Brenda and they are precious. If I can ever do anything to help, please let me know. Pm me or email me at [email protected]. Again, I hate that you feel so left out and I hope that you will come back and see that most of the people here are truly special.
Julia
First of all I am glad that your biopsy was negative. And I am sorry you had to go through so much worry.
Then secondly, I am sorry that you feel nobody cares or cared about you. When I first came here over 3 1/2 years ago, I was all gungho and was on here all the time. I joined in writing and beginning the thread when they needed me to. But over time I got lax and stopped being on here so much. And when you are not on here that much you miss alot of the posts and it takes so long to go back and read all of them. I don't think people intentionally ignored you and I don't think they were giving you lip service. We all have lives and lots of things going on and we do get sidetracked. But please don't think it was mean-spirited.
There were times I felt like nobody read what I wrote and some people got paid more attention to then I did. My life is not as exciting as some on here. I don't like to travel that much, by plane, train or car. And when everybody was talking about getting together with each other and meeting I started feeling left out because I did not join in these things. But that is my choice. When I go on vacation or go somewhere, I go with my husband. We have been married 35 years and we do things together.
There for awhile I even told OH to take all my info off of the website because I did not want people to know my private life. If I wanted to get on here and read that is all I was going to do.
Then lately I have decided to get back on here and get more involved. But still find it hard to get on here everyday and post something. By the time I get to the thread and make a comment, everybody has gone to bed. So I figure why bother.
Please know that you are just as much a part of OH as anyone else on here. Some just seem to be more outgoing than others.
Take care,
Mickey
First of all I am glad that your biopsy was negative. And I am sorry you had to go through so much worry.
Then secondly, I am sorry that you feel nobody cares or cared about you. When I first came here over 3 1/2 years ago, I was all gungho and was on here all the time. I joined in writing and beginning the thread when they needed me to. But over time I got lax and stopped being on here so much. And when you are not on here that much you miss alot of the posts and it takes so long to go back and read all of them. I don't think people intentionally ignored you and I don't think they were giving you lip service. We all have lives and lots of things going on and we do get sidetracked. But please don't think it was mean-spirited.
There were times I felt like nobody read what I wrote and some people got paid more attention to then I did. My life is not as exciting as some on here. I don't like to travel that much, by plane, train or car. And when everybody was talking about getting together with each other and meeting I started feeling left out because I did not join in these things. But that is my choice. When I go on vacation or go somewhere, I go with my husband. We have been married 35 years and we do things together.
There for awhile I even told OH to take all my info off of the website because I did not want people to know my private life. If I wanted to get on here and read that is all I was going to do.
Then lately I have decided to get back on here and get more involved. But still find it hard to get on here everyday and post something. By the time I get to the thread and make a comment, everybody has gone to bed. So I figure why bother.
Please know that you are just as much a part of OH as anyone else on here. Some just seem to be more outgoing than others.
Take care,
Mickey
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