My Feelings

Hi Shelia,
Thanks for your comments. I'm really not thin-skinned. I was just sad and angry about being forgotten during the cancer scare. I was pretty much OK with all of the other ignores.... lol. I think we need to be more careful with each other, and try to include everyone. I can tell that you do understand.
Julia

((((( hugs ))))) I have felt that way myself many times. I thought you were fitting in quite well. I have been gone for a while so I missed the post about your cancer. I am so sorry you are going through that.

There are lots of good folks here. We all get busy and sometimes just don't read every post. Sorry if we made you feel overlooked. I have been there myself.

Take care!

Hugs back... I'm just telling it like it is... rational or irrational, I am dealing with the feelings. I don't read every post either and I'm sure I don't catch everything. My hurt is only from those that read it and forgot about it because it really didn't matter. I'm sure we've all felt this.
Julia

 Julia,

Sometimes it does come across as indifference but it isn't.  Like most families we have those who are front and center and then there are those who are on the fringes.  I too have feelings of being on the fringes.  Front and center is not my style on line.

Your presence here is appreciated and you ARE part of the "family".  It doesn't matter how long you have been on here.  Yet, I understand the feelings of kinda here but not always.  I don't know how long you have to be here to be an old timer and when we lose the newbie status.  There seems to be a distinction for some and I don't know where I fit.   And actually, I don't want to be categorized. 

My perspective:

I am new enough that I don't know the back grounds of many people on here before me.  I try to keep up but it's not easy.  New people come here and rarely post.  I'm not good at remembering people who say what, when,  etc

I have kept a few of my personal problems to myself because I didn't think it was of interest to others.  Example my sister's health issues. My own issues too. I usually post about my food habits and not my personal issues.  I respond when something  triggers a thought or memory.  

I have not gotten into the middle of the recent "fray" because I didn't know the people involved and I too didn't want to come under personal attack by sharing my view point.

Also, Most if not all of us here have issues to deal with other than weight..  Our weight is an outward sign of many inward struggles.  And we can be self centered with our needs.  This is after all a selfish world.  I too feed my feelings with food and shouldn't

The holidays present most of us with very real negative issues to deal with.  Food, Family, Rejection, Fear.  We are so busy we tend to forget what the season is all about.  AND we overlook the needs we are wanting to meet.

Then add on the economy...  you get the picture.

My biggest FEAR is to reach out to someone and be rejected.  Many times I have responded to someones need and have met with no acknowledgment.  So, I type and write very Platonic, socially acceptable e-mails.  

I'm not trying to downplay your feelings at all.  If anything, I want you to know I identify with what you are saying.  I do believe there are many of us on here in the same situation....   

Thank You for sharing and caring.  Caring enough to let me ( can only accept responsibility for myself ) know I have let you down.  I will do better.

Your New Best Friend.

Millie

PS...  Two of my dau in laws are from Manteca.  My son and his wife lived there for over 18 years.  They had a shop there...  the feed store near Hwy 99..  will try to remember the details...  I lived in Ripon for a couple of years while my husband (ex) worked at Sharpe Army Depot....   

Oh Millie- you are quite intelligent! I so appreciate your response. I am not a newbie at all, but I do work full time so I am not on every day. I totally agree with you about the weight and our inner struggles. I know which feed store you are talking about too. They used to have little chicks sometimes and every pet and livestock food you could imagine. It's a small world!

 YES, that is the one......  My son and his wife ran the store.  He loved it.  Unfortunately he had to sell it back and ... well, a long sad story. But, he is now happy in Oregon.

Julie,  I too identify with much of what you and the others are saying.  I'm sorry that your feelings have been hurt.   Like the others I get caught up in my own stuff, job, life and don't always read or respond to posts.  I do care about you and am so glad that the biopsy was negative.  I would enjoy corresponding with a fellow Californian and have a brother living in your area somewhere. I promise to respond to each and every PM.
Hugs, Carmel Valley Linda

Thank you Linda! I don't expect anyone to cater to me at all. But boy oh boy, if I ever post about having another biopsy the ones that read it may want to ask me if I'm OK a few days later... or I'll be whining to high heaven!

So glad you are feeling better today.    CV Linda

hey julia...i noticed that you were missing in action here just thought you were busy and not posting is all...sorry if i missed your post about your cancer and all but when i work weekends i can't get through all the posts made there are way to many for this old pc of ricks to wait for them to load up! i apologize to you and to any others that i may have ignored. please forgive me!!

i am glad that your cancer hasn't returned!! just wish they would find a cure for it soon.

please keep posting and i will try harder to answer you. i also have felt ignored on here alot of the times...so don't feel like that any more ok?

hugs