Gaining, OMG

I can totally relate to what you're saying about gaining weight over the holidays....I had Lap Band surgery and was throwing up more than I should have so my doctor took all of my fill out -- JUST before Thanksgiving (thanks, doc! hahaha) .  You know what?  What's been done is done and we need to focus on our future choices and not beat ourselves up about what we should or shouldn't have done.  As others have said, focus..focus..focus....it's a new year with a new beginning.  You are NOT alone with gains, trust me!  I think admitting to it does help purge the soul and make room for good things/feelings to fill those spots that we've marked for our guilt.  I do understand the feeling of sluggishness -- I'm feeling the same way and will probably need a few days of liquids to get me back feeling anywhere close to where I want to.  Stick with what you know works for you, keep talking to folks and posting....it will all help you get back on track!  Good luck with it all!  You'll be fine!

Dawn

Hi, Dawn:

I am a bander too.  I had my 3rd fill about a week ago. I finally feel the restriction!  I am not throwing up but am having "productive burps" after my meals.  I guess I am still eating too fast or not chewing enough.  This is all still a learning process.

Jeane

Madintx: What sage advice. You are right - what's done is done. Now to get back on track. Good luck to you. We all can do this together.
Hugs,
Rudie

Here's what I know: It's those feelings of shame and disgust that cause us to get into those cycles of feeding our shame with food, feeling guilty, and the cycle begins.  End it.  Don't feel disgusted.  Just throw all that debris, like Darlene's article said, away and make a comitment to do better, today.  Yesterday I ate a bunch of snacks, while most were healthy, I did overeat them, instead of kicking my ass today, I am saying I will not do that again.  I say it was wrong choices and I handle the situations badly but I am not a bad person for doing it.  Letting guilt and shame control you is not good.  Remember when you were a kid, if you were like me, if I broke a rule, I struggled with the guilt and it caused me to not sleep ect.  My  point is don't get bogged down by the guilt.  Give it up and move on.  Today you will shine.

Lightswitch:

What wise words! The shame and guilt are carry overs from childhood, I'm sure. Being a perfectionist is hard and as I realize now, pretty useless. I wanted to please all the adults around me and it just didn't work as I ate to make myself feel better. Probably the majority of folks on this forum have some of those issues. I remember my dear Grandmother giving me sugar sandwiches when I was a little one and was upset - I carried forward with the habit. Whoops! I'm going back to basics, drinking water and exercising.

Thank you for your support. Put everything in the past and live today as I want to be healthy and wear a small size.
Hugs,
Rudie