I'm so scared
Holey guacamole.... I hate people like this... my brother who lived in Hawaii and just recently killed himself was a little like this... no conscience at all... hurt people and it didn't seem to bother him at all...
My solution... and yea, I did this once... a loooooong time ago... and not with my brother... another butthead who thought he could bully others all the time...
I had a friend call him from a payphone and tell him "I have been retained... if I get a call that you have made any contact whatsoever, I will fulfill my contract... you won't know when or where, but a car will appear, or a shot will ring out, or a knife will slide between your ribs, and my job will be done"
"If you have any brains at all, disappear"
It worked...no names were used, no phone numbers to be traced...
That's the best solution I have... I do know that these people will never learn, never get better, never find God or repent at all until they have been stripped of everything... including their dignity or whatever perverted imitation that they have inside that passes itself off as dignity.
If you need to talk, we are here....
My solution... and yea, I did this once... a loooooong time ago... and not with my brother... another butthead who thought he could bully others all the time...
I had a friend call him from a payphone and tell him "I have been retained... if I get a call that you have made any contact whatsoever, I will fulfill my contract... you won't know when or where, but a car will appear, or a shot will ring out, or a knife will slide between your ribs, and my job will be done"
"If you have any brains at all, disappear"
It worked...no names were used, no phone numbers to be traced...
That's the best solution I have... I do know that these people will never learn, never get better, never find God or repent at all until they have been stripped of everything... including their dignity or whatever perverted imitation that they have inside that passes itself off as dignity.
If you need to talk, we are here....
jean...i am so glad that your husband was home with you.....grab that inner strength ...your faith and the love of the rest of your family...and us....and do not give in ...do not let him ruin your life.....
i'm sorry...i really don't have the right words for you...only prayers and concern....
and yes, you probably do need to return to counselling-there is no shame.....
we are here as well......you are loved.
i'm sorry...i really don't have the right words for you...only prayers and concern....
and yes, you probably do need to return to counselling-there is no shame.....
we are here as well......you are loved.
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
Jean
It give me chills to read your words. You must be careful but please try to not let him intimidate you. Even if you have to pretend when he calls, do not let him get the better of you. Be careful and try not to be alone at home for a while until you see what he is going to do. What did he say when he called? Does he live nearby? How long has it been since you've heard from him? Let the nursing home people know about him so they don't let him in to see your mom. But he probably doesn't know where she is since you just moved her. I will keep you in my prayers. Please try to be strong. He should not have any power over you anymore.
It give me chills to read your words. You must be careful but please try to not let him intimidate you. Even if you have to pretend when he calls, do not let him get the better of you. Be careful and try not to be alone at home for a while until you see what he is going to do. What did he say when he called? Does he live nearby? How long has it been since you've heard from him? Let the nursing home people know about him so they don't let him in to see your mom. But he probably doesn't know where she is since you just moved her. I will keep you in my prayers. Please try to be strong. He should not have any power over you anymore.
Barbara D.
please stay safe. Don't let him control you with fear. Is he in your area? I would alert the police that he has called and they will provide some extra drive bys may be enough of a deterrent.
Most important is your and your Mom's family.
I know how it is to fear some one so much like that. For me it was my father. I was so afraid of him. He tried to kill my brother and abused my Mom. My Mom sent him packing so had only hit me once, but I saw what he did to my Mom and brother. He even killed my pets when I was little. I was really scared of him too.
You are in my prayers!
Most important is your and your Mom's family.
I know how it is to fear some one so much like that. For me it was my father. I was so afraid of him. He tried to kill my brother and abused my Mom. My Mom sent him packing so had only hit me once, but I saw what he did to my Mom and brother. He even killed my pets when I was little. I was really scared of him too.
You are in my prayers!
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on 12/27/08 11:34 am
on 12/27/08 11:34 am
Oh, Jean, how my heart breaks for you. Surviving abuse is hard work. So is getting counsleing. I started in 1976 or 1977. By 1997, I had accumulated 12 years all total. I, too, thought BTDT and just flat out refused when my PCP gently suggested it. Then one day, he wasn't so gentle and said he wasn't letting me leave his office until I called and set up an appointment. Of course, he couldn't do that legally or physically, but it let me know how much he cared. So here I am just finishing up a year and and a half. I cannot even begin to find the words that express how grateful I am that he played the "Trust me, I'm a doctor" card. I wish I had some great legal advice for you as well, but I wll definitely be praying for you.
"Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us." Stephen Covey
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Jean - My heart stood still when I was reading your words... I am hoping that you have been able to calm down by now and think thru the best way to handle this for yourself. Seek counseling when you are ready. You don't need to do this alone.
I am so glad your husband was with you when you got the phone call. Be careful about answering the phone. Is there any chance he would come to your house? or your Mother's new assisted living ?
Gentle hug from all of us....
You are in my prayers tonight
Shelia
I am so glad your husband was with you when you got the phone call. Be careful about answering the phone. Is there any chance he would come to your house? or your Mother's new assisted living ?
Gentle hug from all of us....
You are in my prayers tonightShelia
Dear Jean,
Please know you are in my prayers. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I was tortured by my mother. I takes all your energy just to exist and the memory of it needs to be talked out with a counselor where you can feel safe. My mother died ten years ago and I still go to counseling two times a month. Please take care of yourself and remember that everybody here loves you. Love Nancy
Please know you are in my prayers. I am so sorry you have to go through this. I was tortured by my mother. I takes all your energy just to exist and the memory of it needs to be talked out with a counselor where you can feel safe. My mother died ten years ago and I still go to counseling two times a month. Please take care of yourself and remember that everybody here loves you. Love Nancy
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