Sorry about my posts
Most of you know me very well, or really don't know me, but do know that I am one not to post my personal business on the boards like this. But this time I felt I needed to let people know that it isn't all fun and gravy after WLS. The further out you are the harder it is. Physically, emotionally and mentally...
Thank you for all the warm hugs and great love that has been shown me, I really appreciate it. So, nuf about me...on to others.
Thank you for all the warm hugs and great love that has been shown me, I really appreciate it. So, nuf about me...on to others.
Women are angels.
...and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick.
We are flexible.
Darlene
...and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick.
We are flexible.
Darlene
Darlene,
I'm sorry you felt the need to apologize for venting your feelings. We know you are a private person but also you are a person. We appreciate your sharing with us too. Not only your experiences in WLS but also the reality of living after WLS. We expect life to change but life is life and we get blindsided when least expected.
I, for one, hope you continue to share your personal experiences with us. You have after all blazed the trail for many of us. Good Bad & Ugly we need to hear it. (geee they outta use that as a movie title lol).
NEVER, sister, feel you need to apologize to us here on OFF. We are family. (hey, another song title).
Millie
I'm sorry you felt the need to apologize for venting your feelings. We know you are a private person but also you are a person. We appreciate your sharing with us too. Not only your experiences in WLS but also the reality of living after WLS. We expect life to change but life is life and we get blindsided when least expected.
I, for one, hope you continue to share your personal experiences with us. You have after all blazed the trail for many of us. Good Bad & Ugly we need to hear it. (geee they outta use that as a movie title lol).
NEVER, sister, feel you need to apologize to us here on OFF. We are family. (hey, another song title).
Millie
ya know....the main reason i get upset with posts about sex is that -um---i am jealous cuz i cannot tell ya when the last was around here--and i try not to think about it cuz it makes life difficult for michael--he feels badly enough that we don't...ya know....if you all don't talk about it i don't think of it then i don't miss it-cuz i do miss it!ahhh..i have to stop talking about it!
darlene- too many ppl have no clue what life can be really like for us post op--unless they are living it....they have no clue about vits and water and protein needs about clothing issues about dog ears about saggies and baggies , about droppe dcooters and sounds that one hear's when they walk fast and about the emotions that stilll haunt us....unless they are living thru it--it's the same as those who have no clue about money issues and how close to the penny some of us have been living......ouch-i just retracted 3 sentences...nuff said...
some days you may get a bit deep for some of us-that may be cuz we don't want to face things ...others you get bullheaded but you do it for a reason--to keep ppl thinking and to make them take care of themselves--you have seen the downsides....and you try to protect others....
in this current "issue" about your guy friend- well- it has become quite obvious that he really wasn't in for the long haul no matter what he may have said--he musta been thinking with his -well- i cannot out the word on the paper here!!!! smear my image dontchaknow!!! his yahoo.....which btw may be one of the droopy ones!!!!
as for friday-divorce final??party hearty gf --you came out alive and a winner- and a beautiful one at that!!!!
hugs to you my friend- that won't make the hurt go away --just kinda rumple your shoulders a bit!!!!!
darlene- too many ppl have no clue what life can be really like for us post op--unless they are living it....they have no clue about vits and water and protein needs about clothing issues about dog ears about saggies and baggies , about droppe dcooters and sounds that one hear's when they walk fast and about the emotions that stilll haunt us....unless they are living thru it--it's the same as those who have no clue about money issues and how close to the penny some of us have been living......ouch-i just retracted 3 sentences...nuff said...
some days you may get a bit deep for some of us-that may be cuz we don't want to face things ...others you get bullheaded but you do it for a reason--to keep ppl thinking and to make them take care of themselves--you have seen the downsides....and you try to protect others....
in this current "issue" about your guy friend- well- it has become quite obvious that he really wasn't in for the long haul no matter what he may have said--he musta been thinking with his -well- i cannot out the word on the paper here!!!! smear my image dontchaknow!!! his yahoo.....which btw may be one of the droopy ones!!!!
as for friday-divorce final??party hearty gf --you came out alive and a winner- and a beautiful one at that!!!!
hugs to you my friend- that won't make the hurt go away --just kinda rumple your shoulders a bit!!!!!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
Darlene,
Funny how true your words ring. When we get the surgery we all are thinking "OH BOY FINALLY I will be thin , can do all the things i have always wanted, all will be wonderful , will be so healthy now and so forth.
SOME of that will be true ,,,,So much more that people never know is there as well .
Many have to still diet after their honeymoon period of 18-24 months wears off etc ..Lots of loose skin come around , and around lol and many cant afford plastics to remove that ,,I FOR ONE , think that should be covered by our insurance as that is the completion of the process ...WHo cares what I think though ..
Mentally we go through lots of changes too as you said ,,,,When we lose fat we lose the hormones stored in there which causes problems for some too so it isnt ALL GOOD ..
I am sorry about your divorce.. NO matter who wants the divorce it stiff hurts both people to some degree and they too have to recover ..
I hope that you can find happiness, that WE ALL WILL and I know you will in time ....Just be patient and dont settle for just anyone. I did that right after my divorce long ago and what a mistake ...
Divorce makes us unsure of who we are I think so sometimes loneliness makes us do crazy things ..
I am sending you a hug all the way across the world almost :) and little prayers that you will be filled with peace, joy, and most of all love today and the rest of this holiday season .
Hugs
Shirley
Funny how true your words ring. When we get the surgery we all are thinking "OH BOY FINALLY I will be thin , can do all the things i have always wanted, all will be wonderful , will be so healthy now and so forth.
SOME of that will be true ,,,,So much more that people never know is there as well .
Many have to still diet after their honeymoon period of 18-24 months wears off etc ..Lots of loose skin come around , and around lol and many cant afford plastics to remove that ,,I FOR ONE , think that should be covered by our insurance as that is the completion of the process ...WHo cares what I think though ..
Mentally we go through lots of changes too as you said ,,,,When we lose fat we lose the hormones stored in there which causes problems for some too so it isnt ALL GOOD ..
I am sorry about your divorce.. NO matter who wants the divorce it stiff hurts both people to some degree and they too have to recover ..
I hope that you can find happiness, that WE ALL WILL and I know you will in time ....Just be patient and dont settle for just anyone. I did that right after my divorce long ago and what a mistake ...
Divorce makes us unsure of who we are I think so sometimes loneliness makes us do crazy things ..
I am sending you a hug all the way across the world almost :) and little prayers that you will be filled with peace, joy, and most of all love today and the rest of this holiday season .
Hugs
Shirley
You are a very nice & brave lady. We all need to vent at times and we all have our low/rough times. ((( hugs )))
I haven't had a man in my life for YEARS ... that is probably why I got fat (protection from men and being hurt by them). I am finding out that things have not changed one iota.
I haven't had a man in my life for YEARS ... that is probably why I got fat (protection from men and being hurt by them). I am finding out that things have not changed one iota.
I'M AT GOAL! 
Darlene,
Nothing new to add that hasn't already been said. Except that I'm here for you too and I can certainly relate to the self-esteem issues that have been cropping up for you lately.
And since they are cropping up now, perhaps now is the time you are meant to deal with them. There are many wise people here and it's a good place, as you know, to share the funky stuff with those who will understand and support.
Much love, Carmel Valley Linda
Nothing new to add that hasn't already been said. Except that I'm here for you too and I can certainly relate to the self-esteem issues that have been cropping up for you lately.
And since they are cropping up now, perhaps now is the time you are meant to deal with them. There are many wise people here and it's a good place, as you know, to share the funky stuff with those who will understand and support.
Much love, Carmel Valley Linda
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