Anyone experiencing jealousy issues from friends & family?
I tried to "overlook" this but I have noticed a huge change in my g/f (well she could be my daughter actually) since I am smaller than her now. 
She had given me clothes that are now way too big (I never even wore most of them) and she took me shopping, etc. giving me her "fashionista advice". Now I just feel that she is really cooling off to me, especially since I have started meeting men (and she is really striking out A LOT) and I am actually having some FUN without her.
I also noticed my sister making snide remarks and she got really upset when all the family went bonkers over "the new me" in front of her. She has always been "the cute one". Can't people just be happy for us? I mean I have battled the buldge for 44 years!!! and finally had to resort to WLS to be normal!
She had given me clothes that are now way too big (I never even wore most of them) and she took me shopping, etc. giving me her "fashionista advice". Now I just feel that she is really cooling off to me, especially since I have started meeting men (and she is really striking out A LOT) and I am actually having some FUN without her. I also noticed my sister making snide remarks and she got really upset when all the family went bonkers over "the new me" in front of her. She has always been "the cute one". Can't people just be happy for us? I mean I have battled the buldge for 44 years!!! and finally had to resort to WLS to be normal!
I'M AT GOAL! 
What??.... WOMEN being catty and making snide remarks???... NO WAY!!! 
There... I feel vindicated now
Hey, you're a hottie now... gonna have to deal with it...
OK... we've posted to each other enough now... time for sex
I think your first line is the correct way to deal with it.... just overlook it and smile... both inside and out. Stay on the high road if you can....
There... I feel vindicated now
Hey, you're a hottie now... gonna have to deal with it...
OK... we've posted to each other enough now... time for sex
I think your first line is the correct way to deal with it.... just overlook it and smile... both inside and out. Stay on the high road if you can....
My best advice to you is ignore the drama. I have a couple of friends and some of my family who make remarks that I'm too small now and I really am looking bad. Also, two of my best friends are no longer calling me to hang out. I thought it was me, but it's clearly they who have the problem. Hang in there, this too shall pass.
no-you are def not alone in this--and many lose friends because they no longer eat with them-lunch desserts -etc....many of my old friends were lunch date gf's or breakfast groups--they seemed to think i no longer wanted to be with them...
sorry you are going thru this....
sorry you are going thru this....
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Engel,
I most definately went through this with my sisters and a close friend of mine. It blew me away when my friend pulled the jealousy thing. Never in million years did I ever think she would do this to me. We have been friends for 20 yrs and always been close. I thought she would be my biggest supporter. Turned out she did a 360 on me and I was devistated. I finally got a grip on it and just kept on like there was nothing wrong. I kept letting her know how much she meant to me and I really enjoyed her friendship. She has slowly pulled out of it, but it has taken her a long time. Just keep reassuring her, your realtionship means a lot to you and she is very important to you.
Good Luck to you, Phyllis
I most definately went through this with my sisters and a close friend of mine. It blew me away when my friend pulled the jealousy thing. Never in million years did I ever think she would do this to me. We have been friends for 20 yrs and always been close. I thought she would be my biggest supporter. Turned out she did a 360 on me and I was devistated. I finally got a grip on it and just kept on like there was nothing wrong. I kept letting her know how much she meant to me and I really enjoyed her friendship. She has slowly pulled out of it, but it has taken her a long time. Just keep reassuring her, your realtionship means a lot to you and she is very important to you.
Good Luck to you, Phyllis
Phyllis Gilbert
I feel it is not just jealousy, but also an uncertainty about how to deal with the situation. I have a lot of people telling me I am losing too much weight, yet according to stats, I am still obese. I have to tell these people that the problem is what they know of me. They only know the fat me. They have to learn to know the new me.
GOD BLESS AMERICA!!!!!
I have noticed a change in my bff at times. I know that she supports me but I felt more support from her when I was a "fat" friend.
Now that I am about where she is (but she looks much better) I see a bit of what I can say is standoffishness. That is the best that I describe it as.
She still supports me but when I hit the different marks that seem important to me she just kind of sounds like what I can best describe as a "laugh track" like the canned laughs in the old shows. She doesn't laugh but it sounds like she is just saying the congratulations like it is because she knows that is what she thinks she should do and not because she really means it.
I still consider her my bff but I guess things just automatically change even if that other part (staying bff) last forever. I would never trade her for another since she is the only one I would ever want. I love her like a sister. In fact we are closer than we are to out other siblings.
Now that I am about where she is (but she looks much better) I see a bit of what I can say is standoffishness. That is the best that I describe it as.
She still supports me but when I hit the different marks that seem important to me she just kind of sounds like what I can best describe as a "laugh track" like the canned laughs in the old shows. She doesn't laugh but it sounds like she is just saying the congratulations like it is because she knows that is what she thinks she should do and not because she really means it.
I still consider her my bff but I guess things just automatically change even if that other part (staying bff) last forever. I would never trade her for another since she is the only one I would ever want. I love her like a sister. In fact we are closer than we are to out other siblings.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
My girlfriends...especially my best friend had issues at first. I was recieving all the attention....they weren't. Funny thing is I always got more attention then they did even when I was FAT!! They somehow forgot about that! They have finally adjusted and are used to me being thinner now and it isn't the issue it once was. Yes...I still get some remarks that make me mad but for the most part things are leveling off.
Good Luck!!
Hugs...connie d
Good Luck!!
Hugs...connie d
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