Is there a REASON why we can't be happy with ourselves???

Okay, same song, forty-fifth verse and I'm tired of humming it.

I've had WLS.  I've had plastics.  I have been shopping for a little black dress. 

I weighed 155 this morning. I weighed 160 when I had PS.  They lopped off 16 pounds.  I am wearing size 16 jeans.  I had to try on LARGE at the store.  I couldn't FIND a little black dress at any store that would fit... and a 14 was too snug.

I'm totally defeated tonight.  My clothes closet runneth over.... everyone says I'm tiny but the numbers just do not add up.

The lowest number in my closet has been a 12... but that was fleeting.... 14 Dunners ARE too big... but button 14's are too small....

WAHHHHHHHHHH....... I want to wear a something smaller than a 16....  I doubt there is ANYONE here who weighs 155 that has to wear a 16...most of you are in 8/10's...

janet

someday I would like to wear something besides a 20, but I don't ever see that happening unless the dogears just disappear.....

Oh, how I dream of wearing an 18 or even a 16....

Janet you are still swollen from the plastics....give it time lyou will go down to the size you should be for 155 ...wish i could get down to that...is 7 pounds away for me and i havent been able to reach that for a year now....but i am in 10s just would like to be in 8s....so i guess no we are never satisfied are we? i get so upset sometimes because i cant wear 8s i can get stretch jeans in size 8 on but cant wear them lol look like they are painted on .

anyway you are still swollen...be patient...when that all goes down you will be able to wear the 8/10 anything. watch that red head go when you do lol .

Jan,

See???? See????? You're in a 10 and want an 8!!!

Quite frankly, I know there will be some movement, it's just that I went shopping and the sales were phenomenal and I couldn't find my size in a cute little black dress.

Some days I'm such a whiner.... but ain't it great that today that's all I've got to complain about???

Janet

Not speaking for anyone but little ole me. . .  but I tend to be a perfectionist and perfectionists are NEVER happy or just for short periods of time! Nothing and no one is ever perfect. Even if they look that way on the outside no one really is. So I try in vain to get over it! It is what it is and I better like me as I am cause I'm the only one I can REALLY count on to be with me til  the day I cross over. I try to look for IMPROVEMENT and Lordy, girl, have you improved! Get that old pre weight loss picture out and  really give it a good going over.

Janet,

Sweetie Pie, stop looking at the numbers. They are going to drive you nuts. You are still swollen from surgery, that's a minor(?) point you have forgotten.

Women's clothing sizes are stupid. There is no way to tell if a particular size fits unless you try it on.

If you can't button the 14 Dunner's, that's because you still have a WOMANLY shape. Some nice curves to hold out the top, definition at the waist, and a bit of roundness on your butt - do you want to look like a 12 year old boy or one SEXY broad?

We are so hard on ourselves and perceptions are far too screwed up. (Voice of experience talking) Think back to the days before you lost weight. Would a size 16 seem big or little or only a dream?

I'm rambling on here and trying to make a point. Beauty comes from within. You had that special spark at your highest weight.

Crap, I can't explain this very well. Just LOVE JANET. Okay?

Kisses
Annette

Yanno, I just lub ya.

Here Jan  is in 10's...and we are about the same weight...now darnit...

And you can't quit losing and I can't quit gaining.....

Dadgum bodies..... I want us all in cookie-cutter mode.

I wish I had some feeling in my arse tho.... I could be a pin cushion and wouldn't know it.  I have to be so careful.  In fact the dr told me to be very careful with my tailbone and make sure I didn't sit in one spot very long.  Now how am I going to work and do that???

I will have to admit since I took the parking lot away, the DDMoons Over My Hammy certainly make me Dolly Partinish......:)  In fact.... wouldn't you know, one of the dirty old men at $4 even mentioned it. I let him get away with it ONE time...

I'd be so lost without my Sistahs on this board...

Janet

Honey, it took 6 months for the final outcome from the plastics on my eyes to be seen, after all the swelling had subsided. You, my love had LOTS more done than I did in places much more prone to swelling. Please be gentle on yourself. Personally, sorry if it's not what you want to hear, I'd be looking at a little dress for Easter Brunch in the size you want. OK.....Valentines Day? I've heard people say it takes up to a year for body work to get to where it's going to stay.

It's gonna be ok. Promise!

Hugs and love

Janet....you are beautiful just the way you are!!!

I agree...I think you have swelling you are dealing with yet. Don't be discouraged. One day you will look back on this and laugh. You will end up in a 12....I am just sure....maybe smaller.

Me on the other hand.....I look like that BOY someone was talking about. Can't wear petites they are too short so I am stuck wearing jrs sizes.....0 to 3......not alot of butt left there at all!! I always secretly hoped to be a 6. I never thought I would be this small.

Have a happy day sweetie....hugs......connie d

Dear Darlin Janet!
You KNOW there is a minor thing called swelling going on now don't you?  The numbers don't add up my sweet because of the excess fluid!  'nuff said about that.  As we have all been told numerous times we are more than our weight # or BMI# or size we wear.  You know that.  I know that, we ALL know it, but we still want MORE. I think it is the nature of the beast. 
I totally understand what you are saying, I am so down on myself right now because I am heading to a larger size and not happy.  I was 155 1.5 years ago and now 170-173 range.  At 155 I was in a 10 pants (can never go that low in a top) I now can wear a 12 most of the time, and in fact the Dunner outfit I have my mother gave me is a medium.  The clothes companies are deceitful.  They change the sizes all the time, one size 10 is another size 8 and othe others size 12.  It isn't so much the size as it is how we feel wearing the item.  Ya just can't go buy a size 12 and expect it to fit.  Bear in mind now the size 8 - 10 we may wear now was a size 12 - 14  when we were kids.  People are generally larger now then they were then, so the colothing manufactures changes the sizes to give us what we want!  a smaller size!  Don't believe me?  go to an antique store that has clothing and try on a size 16 from years ago.  Yep, been there, done that and it didn't even zip up all the way. 
That's my 2 cent answer for the day!  You are such a wise wonderful woman (WWW) that I know you know what we are all saying.....