need your advice
shirley-ok- i'm hurrying so what i say may not sound right bt the thoughtsre with you---and teh computer is doing the erasing of words thing-dang it.....
get yourself to some grieving sessions
go now--
digestt better---i had an opportunity years ago to go thru a series of maybe 3 weeks --my step dad had alzheimers and i went with my mom--it was about teh caregiver actually- taking scare of themselves -and the grieving processes ...
you are NOT a weak daughter- we are not taught howo be the child of an older parent--it is something thais happening more and more and we cannot do it alone--get yourself soem help and feel theugs here......
ok- computer doing screwy stuff--go to some grieving sessions now even tho your mom is tsill alive-digest the info - know that you are not alone
and forgive all of the typos in this post...
hugs to you and prayers for strength
get yourself to some grieving sessions
go now--
digestt better---i had an opportunity years ago to go thru a series of maybe 3 weeks --my step dad had alzheimers and i went with my mom--it was about teh caregiver actually- taking scare of themselves -and the grieving processes ...
you are NOT a weak daughter- we are not taught howo be the child of an older parent--it is something thais happening more and more and we cannot do it alone--get yourself soem help and feel theugs here......
ok- computer doing screwy stuff--go to some grieving sessions now even tho your mom is tsill alive-digest the info - know that you are not alone
and forgive all of the typos in this post...
hugs to you and prayers for strength
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
- E. B. White
Jean, I know that I have shared a lot of the things that I went thru with my Mom. It is a something very hard for a person to go thru. Unfortunately it is a part of most of our lives.
I went to the Alzheimer's support groups. They are a tremendous help and I wouldn't do it again with out the help they gave.
I do know that my Mom was on Aricept and was told by the pharmacutical rep that if you stop taking it the Alzheimer's will come back and usually go very fast. That is my fear for your Mom too. The doctor the nursing home called in for her (she was halucinating) took her off Aricept and I fought tooth and nail about that. They wouldn't listen and Mom went downhill very very fast. She was gone within about 6 months. I fought so hard but no one would listen. I wish to this day I would have done more but at the time I didn't know what else to do. When I heard about your Mom I was afraid this was happening to her also. My only bright point of the whole thing with Mom was that she went so fast she didn't go thru the last stages of Alzheimer's and that made me very glad. The final stages are not good. I know that I wouldn't have been able to see Mom in that and that God gave me blessings for Mom being gone before that happened. Maybe God is doing the same for you. I consider it a blessing. A BIG blessing too.
I will be keeping you in special prayers and please look into the support groups. I pray that God takes you into the circle of His loving arms and gives you the peace, acceptance and understanding that you so need at this moment. May He be with your Mom at this time and give to her peace and healing. You must also remember that He gives many different kinds of healing, the most ultimate healing being bringing that person to Him to live with Him and our Father forever with no more illness or pain.Talk to you Pastor as that He may be able to help also. He could maybe point you in another direction such as the grief groups and such. Make sure that you continue to pray and pour out your breaking heart to God. He listens and I know that you know that. I am just reinforcing it to you. He wants you to pour your heart and your pain out to Him so He can help you with out any interference from you. We as humans often try to interfere with what God has planned for us.
Know that you are loved very much on here and we are here for you when ever you need us. I am sending you much love and big gentle hugs to hold you together when you need to be.
I went to the Alzheimer's support groups. They are a tremendous help and I wouldn't do it again with out the help they gave.
I do know that my Mom was on Aricept and was told by the pharmacutical rep that if you stop taking it the Alzheimer's will come back and usually go very fast. That is my fear for your Mom too. The doctor the nursing home called in for her (she was halucinating) took her off Aricept and I fought tooth and nail about that. They wouldn't listen and Mom went downhill very very fast. She was gone within about 6 months. I fought so hard but no one would listen. I wish to this day I would have done more but at the time I didn't know what else to do. When I heard about your Mom I was afraid this was happening to her also. My only bright point of the whole thing with Mom was that she went so fast she didn't go thru the last stages of Alzheimer's and that made me very glad. The final stages are not good. I know that I wouldn't have been able to see Mom in that and that God gave me blessings for Mom being gone before that happened. Maybe God is doing the same for you. I consider it a blessing. A BIG blessing too.
I will be keeping you in special prayers and please look into the support groups. I pray that God takes you into the circle of His loving arms and gives you the peace, acceptance and understanding that you so need at this moment. May He be with your Mom at this time and give to her peace and healing. You must also remember that He gives many different kinds of healing, the most ultimate healing being bringing that person to Him to live with Him and our Father forever with no more illness or pain.Talk to you Pastor as that He may be able to help also. He could maybe point you in another direction such as the grief groups and such. Make sure that you continue to pray and pour out your breaking heart to God. He listens and I know that you know that. I am just reinforcing it to you. He wants you to pour your heart and your pain out to Him so He can help you with out any interference from you. We as humans often try to interfere with what God has planned for us.
Know that you are loved very much on here and we are here for you when ever you need us. I am sending you much love and big gentle hugs to hold you together when you need to be.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Brenda,
Thanks for reminding me about the Alzheimer's support group. There is one that meets in a nearby town once a month
The speed of your mother's decline sounds familiar. I can't believe how quickly all this is happening.
And thanks for your prayers...
Jean
Thanks for reminding me about the Alzheimer's support group. There is one that meets in a nearby town once a month
The speed of your mother's decline sounds familiar. I can't believe how quickly all this is happening.
And thanks for your prayers...
Jean
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Aloha Jean..........I am so sorry that you are experiencing pain in your life. The others have given such good advice and shared experiences. All I can add is my TLC and encouragement to take care of yourself FIRST! As a psychologist, I believe that YOUR mental health is a must before you can do any good for your loved ones.
If sending a cyber-hug helps.........here comes one!!
Aloha nui loa,
Maui Karen
If sending a cyber-hug helps.........here comes one!!
Aloha nui loa,
Maui Karen
Jean,
I can't give you any advise on the lapband since I'm still a newbie with mine.
I agree with the others about a support group along with a counselor. Some things the support group really helps, and the counselor with others. Maybe a visit to a lapband support group. There may be others there who are or have gone through this.
Take care Jean. Please know that many on OH value you and think you are very special. I always look for your posts.
Leslie
I can't give you any advise on the lapband since I'm still a newbie with mine.
I agree with the others about a support group along with a counselor. Some things the support group really helps, and the counselor with others. Maybe a visit to a lapband support group. There may be others there who are or have gone through this.
Take care Jean. Please know that many on OH value you and think you are very special. I always look for your posts.
Leslie
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