I lost a brother....

Marc-
I am so sorry for your loss. I have not talked to you directly on this board, but I always enjoy your thoughts and responses. I hear your pain and loss in your message and I wish I could quote something or say something to help you through this time. Just stay close to the ones you love, and keep communicating. Everyone here has lost someone close to them and can understand what you are going through.
Mary

What a sad post - so sorry that this has happened!!

I can't relate very well except to think how much I would miss my brothers if we were estranged and then something happened to either of them.  You must really miss what might have been had he made different choices.

I will say a prayer for you and your family.

Sheri

i too have a sibling story ( actually more than one!) but won't share at this time-it wouldn't help to ease your pain.

the others have said more eloquently than i can  that your pain in the loss and your sadness are well deserved under the cir****tances--you are like me--no matter what--he was your brother.

i am saddened by your post and it makes my troubles today seem miniscule...

you have always been honest and caring with me and i hope that you know how much i care for you and am here to listen to you in your suffering. thank you for coming to us...i hope that in some way we are able to be of comfort.

i'm holding you close in prayer, marc.

I first heard these words, shortly after the loss of my brother due to obesity and drugs. During a conference, I attended a week later, I kept asking myself "Why did he have to die so young?" As if the speaker heard my thoughts, she started reading the following passage, "All is well." It provided me with much solace that I got a copy. I have passed it on to friends, family and others to help provide them with something that may help to ease the pain. I share it with you, so that you might also find some solace in these words written many centuries ago.
   All is Well  Death is nothing at all. I have only slipped away into the next room. I am I, and you are you. Whatever we were to each other, that we still are. Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference in your tone, wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together. Pray, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was, let it be spoken without effect without the trace of a shadow on it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was; there is unbroken continuity. Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well. 

Henry Scott Holland

1847-1918
 

Oh Marc, I am so sorry for your loss.  Take time to greive as it is a process we must all go through when we lose someone that has impacted our lives in any way.  We have been given feelings for a purpose so let yourself feel that loss.  Its ok to be sad, ok to cry.  There will be a season again for laughter.
When I lost my dad, I thought I would just die, I could not stop crying for weeks, my husband thought I was gonna loose it.  It passed, although never forgotten.  You will be in my prayers. 

Debbie O

I'm sorry Marc.  It seems no matter how close or how distant the relationship, when we lose an immediate family member the loss is felt deeply.  All those memories come flooding back and we wonder what it would have been like if cir****tances had been different. You can pray for his soul and ask that God forgive his sins and know that he will be forgiven because you asked when he couldn't do it himself.

Sorry for your loss. No matter how close we are to our family members, they still are our family, and those ties are tough to break. I think my father still grieved a little when his brother, who was an alcoholic and stole from their mother, died years ago. He didn't show it, though. But my dad seldom showed any emotion. It's nice to see a man who does.

I am so sorry for your loss...

Marc:

Words cannot express the sorrow that you are dealing  with in your loss.  Please know you are in my prayers.
 


Blessings,

Jeane

Marc....Along with all your other OFF friends here, you are in my thoughts and prayers.  It is hard losing someone and especially a sibling.   The grief will get better as time goes on but right now I know you are sad and hurting.\

Prayers,

Sandy