Back from Ithaca w/daughter in tow
Hi all, my husband and I finally got back fro our rescue trip to Ithaca. No, not the 1st one, this is the 2nd one we took after our daughter called in despair. Her 10 year relationship ended abruptly and very unhappily.My daughter's now ex, just decided not to come home one night and he had her car (our car really). He was 50 miles away in Watkins Glen and would not return her phone calls. He let her go for 4 whole days without talking to her and letting her know what was going on except it was over.
Anyway, we had to go get her since she had not friends there, could not get to or from work. She was virtually abandoned. How immature for a 36 year old.
She is with us now and it has been a difficult transition for her (and us) but I am very glad she is out of that relationship. I felt that they were toxic for each other. She is 33 years old and feels her time clock ticking for family and marriage. I have been supporting her with the fact of many people now do not get married or have children til later.
She is now starting to pull it together and I am so proud of her. It will still be hard for her but she is trying to be strong.
Anyway, now after her being with us and settled in I am getting back to my focus of weight loss. I actually had a call from Dr. Schlesinger in AZ. He thinks I will be a good candidate for revision surgery and was very supportive of the concept. I am very excited this may happen. And I am very happy not to have to travel back to Ithaca anytime soon. I love the area but it is a looonnng way there from Bangor, Me.
How is everyone doing?
Carolyn
Carolyn, I just wanted to pop in here for a second and let you know that I am going to keep you and your family in my prayers for the situation that is happening with you and your family.
It is hard having that length of time in a relationship but sometimes it is better to consider it a good thing that it happened before the children started coming. It would have been a disaster for them and their lives. They do base their relationships on the one that their parents have.
I am keeping you and yours in my heart. Remember that we are here for you whenever you need us.
It is hard having that length of time in a relationship but sometimes it is better to consider it a good thing that it happened before the children started coming. It would have been a disaster for them and their lives. They do base their relationships on the one that their parents have.
I am keeping you and yours in my heart. Remember that we are here for you whenever you need us.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Carolyn,
I am sorry that Ithaca will hold such intense memories for you. It is hard to see our children go through hard times, no matter their age. I hope she can heal and move on to a better life.
Does this mean you will be going to Arizona for surgery with Dr. Schlesinger? Good luck with that too.
You sure have a lot going on in your life. Let's hope that the days ahead are going in the right direction now.
Annette
I am sorry that Ithaca will hold such intense memories for you. It is hard to see our children go through hard times, no matter their age. I hope she can heal and move on to a better life.
Does this mean you will be going to Arizona for surgery with Dr. Schlesinger? Good luck with that too.
You sure have a lot going on in your life. Let's hope that the days ahead are going in the right direction now.
Annette
Annette 
Well thanks for the hugs, prayers and thoughts everyone. It is so strange to have a child back in the house when no one is the same person as the last time we all lived together. I have no trouble remembering she is an adult, but she is of course not comfortable here. She doesn't want to put us out or impose on us. We have assured her that is not the case.
I'm very proud of her, she is doing a good job at trying to move on.
More later.
I'm very proud of her, she is doing a good job at trying to move on.
More later.
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