I am back home from Memphis and very disappointed

I didn't mean to sound so blunt... sorry

I guess as I have gotten older I have discovered that I cannot educate the ignorant.... i used to try.... you know, argue, try and make them see logic, etc..... only to discover that i can't make them smarter... so either they have a brain and an open mind and are able to listen intelligently and try to understand new (to them) concepts or they don't....

My daughter is in California, and wont speak to me because I could not fly to California to see my new granddaughter.... just because I have had an operation and lost my job apparently do not enter into her thinking.... so, she had thrown me out with the dishwater.... and there isn't anything I can do about it except get my feelings hurt... but I am not going to make a issue and fight about it....

 ( ( (  HUGGS ) ) )   Welcome home Sheila,   I agree with Brenda & Linda..  Marc too.  Some people just don't get it.  Others ignore it...why I don't know.  A couple of my sisters ignored it because they too are obese.  There is a little jealousy factor there and they were NOT about to cater to me for any reason.   OK  Fine....  I didn't expect them too either.  I was very careful not to make an issue out of what I could and could not eat.  Finally, they began to ask about it.  I told them only what they wanted to know and no more.  

It is very interesting to see others reactions to not only our weight loss but the lifestyle change it brings.  Some are positive and others are not.  Even some that were supportive in the beginning now have slight attitude changes.   Hang tough gal,  we are here for you.

To Thine Own Self Be True

Millie

welcome back home sheila!!! ya know some people just NEVER get it!!!! those people will never change so don't take it to heart on how they are towards you...you did the right thing and i congratulate you!!! me on the other hand would eat what they had...but then i am further out than you are and i know i am doing WRONG!!! i need to get back on track before i gain it all back!!!! 6 more days and i am back on track for sure!!!!

hugs

I'm new to this forum but am already learning about that not everyone is supportive or encouraging when it comes to our WLS journey.  So here's a big HELLO and a big HUG and welcome back! 

I like the Four Agreements.  I have something on my profile that I stole from someone on the Texas Message Board.  Please feel free to read it.  It is about what I know and was written by someone before her surgery, explaining what the OH Forums had done for her.

Hello Shelia
I too am fairly new to this board but have been welcomed.
So sorry to hear about your problems but as others have said this is about you.
I am the heavies (fattest) person in my whole family and this is probably going to shock some of them.  I have only told my immediate family what I am doing and some of them are skeptical and some suportive so I can't wait to see how the rest will react.
I don't know about my mom as she isn't with us anymore but she would proably be good as she had weight issues all her life.
Hang in there and know that all your OH family is pulling for you.
Sheri

shelia...i only want to comment on your mother's pie...she should be applauded for trying to prepare something safe... i can well understand your apprehension and i want to share a story--
i was working at a bank and had to stay over to cover a shift- they bought me lunch-i ordered egg salad-should be safe!!!! no bread -just on lettuce- i was sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo sick that i was praying to die...whodathunk that the lil restaurant puts sugar in their  mayo type  dressing?????????????

( i had RNY for the fact that it would prohibit me from sugar etc!!)

so sorry that you were disappointed- hang in and do this for you!!!!!!!!!!!