frustrated - venting
I put off telling my daughters about this latest hernia surgery. Just as expected, they seemed to act like it is all in my head and senseless. Honestly, I could almost hear their eyes rolling.
This same reaction is the reason I didn't have the other ones repaired quickly. It feels like I am always running to the doctor with one problem or another and then they think I'm nuts. (my daughters, not the doctor)
Just venting and complaining. But jeepers, I feel like a nut case and a factory reject at this point.
Right this minute I want to schedule the surgery and not bother telling either of the girls. Their attitude hurts a whole bunch and makes me angry too. I never feel good enough in their eyes. No small wonder that my self image is so rotten. To make matters worse I am scared. Nasty combination.
Enough complaining, time to end this pity party. I AM good enough to go spend the evening with Matthew and Melanie so their mother has the evening free. They love me no matter what.
Annette
This same reaction is the reason I didn't have the other ones repaired quickly. It feels like I am always running to the doctor with one problem or another and then they think I'm nuts. (my daughters, not the doctor)
Just venting and complaining. But jeepers, I feel like a nut case and a factory reject at this point.
Right this minute I want to schedule the surgery and not bother telling either of the girls. Their attitude hurts a whole bunch and makes me angry too. I never feel good enough in their eyes. No small wonder that my self image is so rotten. To make matters worse I am scared. Nasty combination.
Enough complaining, time to end this pity party. I AM good enough to go spend the evening with Matthew and Melanie so their mother has the evening free. They love me no matter what.
Annette
Annette 
Do you think it might be a reaction out of fear? That is what hit me when I was listening to you. A lot of times people react differently than what they are truly feeling. The may have the feeling of fear since you are their mom and aren't we always afraid of losing our mom's?
Just a thought................
Remember we love you and we accept you for who and what you are. We love you more each and every day. Just take things with a grain of salt or like I always say........Be a duck! Let the remarks flow off your back like ducks let the water. Just be a duck, sweetie.
We are here for you Duckie. I am sending love and lots of big huge hugs just for you.
Just a thought................
Remember we love you and we accept you for who and what you are. We love you more each and every day. Just take things with a grain of salt or like I always say........Be a duck! Let the remarks flow off your back like ducks let the water. Just be a duck, sweetie.
We are here for you Duckie. I am sending love and lots of big huge hugs just for you.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
My dear Big Sis,
I think Brenda might have hit on something in her post, but having gone through a situation with my son last weekend, those darn kids of ours, sometimes they just don't get it, but I'm sure they just love you sooooo much that they go into their own form of denial. I am sending my prayers for you, to calm your fears and hopefully, with him putting some netting in place, this will be the last time they have a need to cut into your delicate body!
Prayers, hugs and positive thoughts, Laureen
I think Brenda might have hit on something in her post, but having gone through a situation with my son last weekend, those darn kids of ours, sometimes they just don't get it, but I'm sure they just love you sooooo much that they go into their own form of denial. I am sending my prayers for you, to calm your fears and hopefully, with him putting some netting in place, this will be the last time they have a need to cut into your delicate body!
Prayers, hugs and positive thoughts, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
LOL, I always want to call you "Nettie", but not sure you would like it as I'm not sure it doesn't bring back some bad memories . . . anyway, I know exactly what you're talking about, my son acts like his dad, swears he doesn't and it used to push all my buttons, now I just kind of feel bad that he doesn't get it when it comes to certain things and in the past I blamed myself for it, now I just accept the things I cannot change and when the behavior I don't like exhibits itself, I excuse myself and leave. I pray alot for my kids, while they have many wonderful traits, they can be a real pain in the arse, especially when they treat me like I'm 11 (lol)!
Hugs, Laureen
Hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Hi Annette,
I agree that the reaction is probably more out of love than trying to make you feel bad about yourself. My initial reaction from my sister and my Mom about having the surgery was very negative and they thought that I just needed to stick with a diet. Their reaction was out of fear and as I got closer to my surgery and let them know that I wasn't going to let them influence me, they backed off. Actually, I think they eventually respected me more for taking a stand.
Don't get down on yourself. You're doing the right thing for you and you have many good friends here that love and support you!
Hugs
Maggie
I agree that the reaction is probably more out of love than trying to make you feel bad about yourself. My initial reaction from my sister and my Mom about having the surgery was very negative and they thought that I just needed to stick with a diet. Their reaction was out of fear and as I got closer to my surgery and let them know that I wasn't going to let them influence me, they backed off. Actually, I think they eventually respected me more for taking a stand.
Don't get down on yourself. You're doing the right thing for you and you have many good friends here that love and support you!
Hugs
Maggie
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