Freeing Up Energy
Many of us are going through our lives aware of a well of pain underlying our daily awareness that we’ve felt for so long we aren’t even sure where it comes from. It almost seems as if it’s part of who we are, or the way we see the world, but it’s important to realize that this pain is something that needs to be acknowledged and processed. The longer we sit on it, the harder it is to work through, and the more likely it is that we will be forced to acknowledge it as it makes itself known to us in ways we can’t predict. Rather than waiting for this to happen, we can empower ourselves by identifying the pain and resolving to take action toward healing it.
The very thought of this brings up feelings of resistance in most of us, especially if, on the surface, our lives seem to be in order. It’s difficult to dig up the past and go into it unless we are being seriously inconvenienced by the hurt. The thing is, when we are carrying the burden of our unprocessed pain, sooner or later, it will inconvenience us. If we can be brave and proactive, we can save ourselves a lot of future suffering and free up the energy that is tied up in keeping the pain down.
There are many ways to do this, but the first step is to recognize the pain and honor it by moving our awareness into it. In this process, even if it’s just five minutes during meditation, we will begin to have a sense of what the pain is made of. It might be fear of abandonment, childhood abuse, anger at being mistreated, or some other long held wound. As we sit with the pain, we will also have a sense of whether we can deal with it by ourselves, or not. It may be time to work with a counselor, or form a healing circle with close friends. Whatever path you choose, resolve to go deep into the pain, so that you can release it fully, and set yourself free. Remember, it is never too late in life to heal what hurts, and there is never a better time than now.
...and when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick.
We are flexible.
Darlene
Annette 
Thank you. I truely appreicate those words and coming to this site is changing me. I have brought into my life a lot of negative by the choices I made because of the pain I have hiding deep inside me. My pain comes from a lifetime of abuse. The choice I made to find the courage to have this surgery has been fleeting, but with the help with the people on this site I am slowly really beginning to realize I can change. I can't believe the unconditional love I have found here. I have been in counseling since 1966 and I have made some progress into the pain but until someone understands, it remains unresovled. The people here understand the stigma of being fat and all the negative that comes with it. I will face my pain a lot easier now. I know now I have made the right choice to have this surgery. I will dig deeper and find that courage. Again, thank you.
Nancy
At the time when all these things happened I could not face the pain and needed to survive, or so I thought I was. This wls is a lifesaver in so many facets.
Thanks Darlene again for your insights.
Alice
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