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Nancy,
I can totally relate to your post and I, too, had such doubts going into this at times, a lot of it is a natural feeling due to the fact that most of us have "failed" so many times before. I have had many stalls along my journey and watched some of the people who had their surgery around the same time as me make it to goal and I am still 39 pounds from goal, so that contributed at times to that feeling that I will fail at this. Today I can say it was the best thing I've done and whether or not I make it to goal is not the measure stick to winning, it is the health and wellness I now have, the energy to live and enjoy life as I have not done in so many years. The surgery is a tool, I've had to work on the head, experience the feelings, tell myself that I deserve the good health that I am working so hard at achieving and that no one has a right to assign to me whether or not I am a winner or loser. . . Change your thinking, it takes vigilance and hard work, but start with counteracting the negative self image with what you ultimately want to see in your life, let's say a year from now and then put as much effort as possible into making it happen. If you have lots of negative people around you, try to find and make friends who are positive and uplifting, but what I've learned is, I have to take control of my thinking and when it goes off on that negative path, I tell myself, ok, thanks for sharing, but I'm not buying that bill of goods today. It may sound hookey, but it works over the long term.
Wishing you a very successful journey, one day at a time! Laureen
I can totally relate to your post and I, too, had such doubts going into this at times, a lot of it is a natural feeling due to the fact that most of us have "failed" so many times before. I have had many stalls along my journey and watched some of the people who had their surgery around the same time as me make it to goal and I am still 39 pounds from goal, so that contributed at times to that feeling that I will fail at this. Today I can say it was the best thing I've done and whether or not I make it to goal is not the measure stick to winning, it is the health and wellness I now have, the energy to live and enjoy life as I have not done in so many years. The surgery is a tool, I've had to work on the head, experience the feelings, tell myself that I deserve the good health that I am working so hard at achieving and that no one has a right to assign to me whether or not I am a winner or loser. . . Change your thinking, it takes vigilance and hard work, but start with counteracting the negative self image with what you ultimately want to see in your life, let's say a year from now and then put as much effort as possible into making it happen. If you have lots of negative people around you, try to find and make friends who are positive and uplifting, but what I've learned is, I have to take control of my thinking and when it goes off on that negative path, I tell myself, ok, thanks for sharing, but I'm not buying that bill of goods today. It may sound hookey, but it works over the long term.
Wishing you a very successful journey, one day at a time! Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Nancy...
I am only 2 week out from surgery... so I don't have lots of experience being post-op... but I also worried that I would fail at this too. But I can tell you that not having any hunger pangs... and not having any sugar highs and lows... is WONDERFULL!! I am going to see my nut today... so later on today I should be on mushy foods.
Helen
I am only 2 week out from surgery... so I don't have lots of experience being post-op... but I also worried that I would fail at this too. But I can tell you that not having any hunger pangs... and not having any sugar highs and lows... is WONDERFULL!! I am going to see my nut today... so later on today I should be on mushy foods.
Helen
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Hi Nancy,
I'm just 3 weeks post-op and totally understand your concerns. I had them too. I decided that I wasn't going to let my worries stop my from trying. I don't know how I'll progress - all I know is that I have this wonderful tool to help me and this incredible forum for support. Don't be afraid to voice your fears or concerns. As you can see from the above posts, most of us have gone through this.
Regarding the abuse, I'm so sorry that you've experience this. It seems to be quite a common issue for people who have obesity problems. I guess I'm lucky that I'm not one of them, but I certainly had my emotional issues to deal with. I sought the help of a therapist who practices cognative procedures and they have really helped me to understand my feelings and help me to put them into perspective and set aside issues that are in the past and I can't change. I have come to the point where I will no longer give the past the power to control my future. I don't know if you'd consider getting this kind of help, but it might work for you too. Your GP should be able to help you find someone.
Hang in there Sweetie and all will work out!
Maggie
I'm just 3 weeks post-op and totally understand your concerns. I had them too. I decided that I wasn't going to let my worries stop my from trying. I don't know how I'll progress - all I know is that I have this wonderful tool to help me and this incredible forum for support. Don't be afraid to voice your fears or concerns. As you can see from the above posts, most of us have gone through this.
Regarding the abuse, I'm so sorry that you've experience this. It seems to be quite a common issue for people who have obesity problems. I guess I'm lucky that I'm not one of them, but I certainly had my emotional issues to deal with. I sought the help of a therapist who practices cognative procedures and they have really helped me to understand my feelings and help me to put them into perspective and set aside issues that are in the past and I can't change. I have come to the point where I will no longer give the past the power to control my future. I don't know if you'd consider getting this kind of help, but it might work for you too. Your GP should be able to help you find someone.
Hang in there Sweetie and all will work out!
Maggie
Maggie,
Thanks for the kind words. The wonderful people of OFF have showed me such kindness and understanding since I started to post. If it wasn't for these people I would of called and canceled my first appointment withmy surgeon next Monday. I would of given in to all my self doubts and quit. I would of hated myself for doing it. I thank God everyday for OH and OFF. I am feeling so much better. I am still not 100% but I am getting there.
I am joining a group like the one you speak of next Thursday. My pschologist heads the group. I will be getting intensive counseling in the next four months I have to wait. I am going to have this surgery. Got to get those negative thoughts out of there. Thanks again. Nancy
Thanks for the kind words. The wonderful people of OFF have showed me such kindness and understanding since I started to post. If it wasn't for these people I would of called and canceled my first appointment withmy surgeon next Monday. I would of given in to all my self doubts and quit. I would of hated myself for doing it. I thank God everyday for OH and OFF. I am feeling so much better. I am still not 100% but I am getting there.
I am joining a group like the one you speak of next Thursday. My pschologist heads the group. I will be getting intensive counseling in the next four months I have to wait. I am going to have this surgery. Got to get those negative thoughts out of there. Thanks again. Nancy
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