Jean B called

as she said she would;she didn't leave me liz's number..i wish that i had been awake to get the call...she must have picked him up from the airport cuz she saw him-kept saying that he knows something is up - they are sposed to go to a wedding together today and she talked about changing the mtg with the pastor til tomorrow...she didn't say if she was going to it with him.....she was trying not to cry in the message but i could hear her voice-which was wonderful to hear!-but she is so torn up inside...please continue to pray for her-i will call her in a bit ....please please pray for her

I promise I will be in prayer for her all day. So many emotions run thru me reading your post. I am really afraid for her.
keep us posted if you hear anything...
thanks,
Alice

I hope only good things for her.....

But....she picked him up....

She's going to cancel the meeting.....

She's going to a wedding with him......possibly

She's afraid of him if she leaves and she's afraid for herself if she stays.....

The heart and the brain have to be on the same page....

Control is a powerful thing.  We have to take it...... Control, that is.....

I'll keep her in my prayers.  He can probably get online and read these messages.......

Janet

I see red flags here.......

I know the flags, I've been there but worse than she has it now......but it will get worse....guaranteed.....

Thanks for updating us Margo.

My heart is breaking for Jean. I will keep her in my prayers!!

I am praying that she DOESN'T change the appointment with the pastor and that she doesn't go with him to that wedding. That would be a definate step backwards. I pray she can remain strong. I am so scared for her!! I know she is scared too.

Hugs....connie d

Good morning all, 

Having been through a similar experience, Jean's situation has brought back many feelings, with the predominant one being helplessness until the decision was finally made to leave.  Then I was a woman on a mission and there was no going back, no way, no how.  That experience taught the importance of focusing on what is wanted, rather than what is not wanted.  If we dwell in fear we only attract more fear. 

I am envisioning Jean free, safe, healthy, happy and enjoying the bright future that is surely on its way.  She is cradled in divine light and healing energy, taking the steps she needs to manifest her future as we speak and has carefully planned to do so. 

Please join me in seeing and holding this thought for Jean.  And trust that all is unfolding exactly as it should.

Much love, CV Linda

Aloha Margo......I feel sadness this morning as I read your post. I can't tell you how many times the I dealt with this very same situation when I was working on a suicide crisis line in Santa Cruz. Many times it was a homicide crisis line because someone would call in saying they were holding a hostage and were going to kill them and we would have to talk them through it while waiting for police (called on a separate line) to arrive. So many women keep thinking their husband/boyfriend is different from all the others...and really means it when he apologizes over and over and says he will never hurt her again. Yeah right!

I finally had to move on from the crisis lines because it was too overwhelming to have the phones rings CONSTANTLY.......it seemed like there were nothing but unhappy, violent, abused people in the world.

It is my deepest hope for Jean that she finds the courage to end this NOW....and find safety for as long as necessary for this man to find his next victim. Sigh.

Thanks for keeping us posted....you are the "soft place to fall" that Jean needs right now.

Aloha nui loa,

Maui Karen

As someone who lived this scenario up close and firsthand, I agree with Janet, she needs to get her heart and head on the same page and that is not a judgment call, simply that I know how difficult it is to do it.  I am certainly praying for her safety and the courage for her to change the things she can.

Give her my love and and tell her we are all praying for her safety above all things, Laureen

Thank you, Margo, for keeping us updated on Jean.

She is in my prayers and I hope and pray this situation works out for the best.

Hugs,

Kathi

Margo:

I wish that news was better ... I fear she is going to take him back, that he is going to soften her resolve. This is a story I've heard too many times. I hope she is OK; I hope she can be tough inside but I'm afraid she's not going to be. This man is not good for her. He is dangerous.