Good Friday Morning!!!!!!! Augest 29, 2008
Well, good morning to everyone. It is soon the start of the long holiday week end for most of us anyway. Sorry that isn't that way for everyone. Well, we have to make a good thing out of everything so make it a good week end even if it isn't a long one for you.
I went to see Dr. Lelek yesterday. Guess what!!!! He dosn't think I am nuts either. We talked a lot about the stages of life and where I got stuck. I seem to have gotten stuck around the age of 3-8 years of age needing the approval of others. I guess I must have done something not right so many years ago. Not sure right now what but will keep you posted. I do so need to start journaling again. I know that helps when I do that. We talked about my marriage and he explained about butter and margarine. We started out agreeing on have a margarine relationship and I turned the tables and now I want butter. Bill on the other hand is still saying that we agreed on margarine and that is what he is comfortable with and still wants. I turned the tables and that wasn't in the plans that we had. So he told me that a relationship with both butter and margarine isn't bad. It is doable and sometimes both us will go to the other~either butter or margarine. He told me about the things he said with Shawn's baby is that I should have never played into the game. I know that now though. I feel into the game simply because it was so easy for me and also it was something I have wanted so bad. He said it is simply a name game and now I see that. I warned him about not going there and when he did I fell right into the whole thing. It is so easy at times. Well, what done is done now and we must pick up our feet and go on. It isn't the first time I fell into the game thing and it most likely won't be the last time but I sure hope it is. If I don't play the game he has no one to play with and will stop. Dr. Lelek told me that I am taking I-65 down to Florida (hey am I on the way to see you Carla?) and I hit a detour and then once I get back on the road to Florida I am fine. Right now I am on a detour and through the journaling I am going to get back on I-65. He told me that I can come back any time I need to talk things through. He told me that I know just what I am talking about and I am putting the steps of OA into my life. They are the same 12 steps of AA and I live by them. I have to remember though that I can't work someone else's program and that is what I am trying to do with Bill. I can see that now. He has to do his (even though he doesn't know he is working one) and I have to do my own. There is more than enough for me to do my own. lol I am a job to myself!!! I don't need more work that is for sure. lol So he told me to come PRN or as I need to. I felt so much better when I came out of there. He told me that I need to find my passion. I think I know what it is but I am not sure. I think that Eileen may be right. I think it is in ministering.
I felt so good when I got out of seeing him I went and got my eyebrows done. I always got them waxed but yesterday I tried the tweezing and I find it didn't hurt as bad. I was kind of surprised. In fact I think I fell asleep during it too. I didn't think that would happen. lol They look nice even if I must say so myself. Which I guess I have to. lol
I got a call yesterday from Fern that Millie (who we went to go see on Wednesday) had 2 mini storkes and is now in the hospital. I tired telling the medicine aide that something was not right with Millie and she wouldn't listen to me. I should have made the nurse aware of it and from now on that is what I am going to do. Maybe she will listen. I have know Millie for 50 years and I know when she is not right. Dang why didn't I persue it? Oh well. I told the nurse that she was saying her stomach was hurting and she was crying all the time. She told me she does that when she has company and I asked if she did that when she was here with no company and she told me no. I find that hard to believe. She has Alzheimer's and from the experience that I have she wouldn't remember from one point to the other what she was complaining about and each time she says the same things. So that tells me that she has legitimate complaints. I am going to go see her this morning and then I am going to the church to get together with Fern and we have more visiting to do. We have 3 shut in's and 2 more nursing home visits to do. It is a shame that as the membership ages there is now more to see. Not long ago the list was 3 nursing home visits and 2 shut in's and now it is 5 nursing homes and 4 shut in's. Oh well, all I can do is just do them.
Misty is laying on the rug (or I should say HER rug) in front of the patio door even though the blinds are still shut. She is curled up and wanting to sleep. She just isn't use to me getting up at 5 in the morning. I have been getting up with Bill. She is use to me sleeping another 2 hours and since she roams all night she is getting sleep time cut short. I don't think that she likes it to much. Oh well, you know the old saying "If you play you pay!" and I guess she is paying the price for roaming. lol
I better get going. I am sending big hugs and lots of love to all my sisters and brothers. I am keeping all in prayers and special ones are going up for those in need of them. Remember to enjoy where you are at this moment. You are where you are suppose to be. Maybe not the place where you are to stay but you are there for a reason.
I went to see Dr. Lelek yesterday. Guess what!!!! He dosn't think I am nuts either. We talked a lot about the stages of life and where I got stuck. I seem to have gotten stuck around the age of 3-8 years of age needing the approval of others. I guess I must have done something not right so many years ago. Not sure right now what but will keep you posted. I do so need to start journaling again. I know that helps when I do that. We talked about my marriage and he explained about butter and margarine. We started out agreeing on have a margarine relationship and I turned the tables and now I want butter. Bill on the other hand is still saying that we agreed on margarine and that is what he is comfortable with and still wants. I turned the tables and that wasn't in the plans that we had. So he told me that a relationship with both butter and margarine isn't bad. It is doable and sometimes both us will go to the other~either butter or margarine. He told me about the things he said with Shawn's baby is that I should have never played into the game. I know that now though. I feel into the game simply because it was so easy for me and also it was something I have wanted so bad. He said it is simply a name game and now I see that. I warned him about not going there and when he did I fell right into the whole thing. It is so easy at times. Well, what done is done now and we must pick up our feet and go on. It isn't the first time I fell into the game thing and it most likely won't be the last time but I sure hope it is. If I don't play the game he has no one to play with and will stop. Dr. Lelek told me that I am taking I-65 down to Florida (hey am I on the way to see you Carla?) and I hit a detour and then once I get back on the road to Florida I am fine. Right now I am on a detour and through the journaling I am going to get back on I-65. He told me that I can come back any time I need to talk things through. He told me that I know just what I am talking about and I am putting the steps of OA into my life. They are the same 12 steps of AA and I live by them. I have to remember though that I can't work someone else's program and that is what I am trying to do with Bill. I can see that now. He has to do his (even though he doesn't know he is working one) and I have to do my own. There is more than enough for me to do my own. lol I am a job to myself!!! I don't need more work that is for sure. lol So he told me to come PRN or as I need to. I felt so much better when I came out of there. He told me that I need to find my passion. I think I know what it is but I am not sure. I think that Eileen may be right. I think it is in ministering.
I felt so good when I got out of seeing him I went and got my eyebrows done. I always got them waxed but yesterday I tried the tweezing and I find it didn't hurt as bad. I was kind of surprised. In fact I think I fell asleep during it too. I didn't think that would happen. lol They look nice even if I must say so myself. Which I guess I have to. lol
I got a call yesterday from Fern that Millie (who we went to go see on Wednesday) had 2 mini storkes and is now in the hospital. I tired telling the medicine aide that something was not right with Millie and she wouldn't listen to me. I should have made the nurse aware of it and from now on that is what I am going to do. Maybe she will listen. I have know Millie for 50 years and I know when she is not right. Dang why didn't I persue it? Oh well. I told the nurse that she was saying her stomach was hurting and she was crying all the time. She told me she does that when she has company and I asked if she did that when she was here with no company and she told me no. I find that hard to believe. She has Alzheimer's and from the experience that I have she wouldn't remember from one point to the other what she was complaining about and each time she says the same things. So that tells me that she has legitimate complaints. I am going to go see her this morning and then I am going to the church to get together with Fern and we have more visiting to do. We have 3 shut in's and 2 more nursing home visits to do. It is a shame that as the membership ages there is now more to see. Not long ago the list was 3 nursing home visits and 2 shut in's and now it is 5 nursing homes and 4 shut in's. Oh well, all I can do is just do them.
Misty is laying on the rug (or I should say HER rug) in front of the patio door even though the blinds are still shut. She is curled up and wanting to sleep. She just isn't use to me getting up at 5 in the morning. I have been getting up with Bill. She is use to me sleeping another 2 hours and since she roams all night she is getting sleep time cut short. I don't think that she likes it to much. Oh well, you know the old saying "If you play you pay!" and I guess she is paying the price for roaming. lol
I better get going. I am sending big hugs and lots of love to all my sisters and brothers. I am keeping all in prayers and special ones are going up for those in need of them. Remember to enjoy where you are at this moment. You are where you are suppose to be. Maybe not the place where you are to stay but you are there for a reason.
It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.
Hi Carla, hope you had a good flight and a great time! Hello everyone else!
Even though I just got off 2 weeks of vacation, when I went back to work on Monday boss said we can have a 4 day weekend if we want it, well, I jumped at it! I hope to get some work done around here and just do some more R&R type things! I have 2 sets of minutes to type up from 2 different meetings I've gone to lately and some other work to do too. Plus, of course always the bathroom to work on!
Not much new with me, sending hugs and prayers to all our members in need.
Dan, what part of Ohio are you in? I live near T town!
You all have a great Friday and take care where ever you are!
Even though I just got off 2 weeks of vacation, when I went back to work on Monday boss said we can have a 4 day weekend if we want it, well, I jumped at it! I hope to get some work done around here and just do some more R&R type things! I have 2 sets of minutes to type up from 2 different meetings I've gone to lately and some other work to do too. Plus, of course always the bathroom to work on!
Not much new with me, sending hugs and prayers to all our members in need.
Dan, what part of Ohio are you in? I live near T town!
You all have a great Friday and take care where ever you are!
Debbie G
Lap RNY 12/12/05
320 highest, 302 consultation, 289 surgery. Total weight loss:165lbs.
Hi Debbie,
You are amazing! I would like to know what your "R&R" are. So far I see you working and doing projects! I am jealous of your energy and attitude.
Our bathroom sink is leaking and the TV cable is old and making the TV cable we have not worth the money we pay... I wish I could surprise my husband and have them both fixed when he gets home from work. The sink maybe, but the cable will have to be gotten to by tearing down some walls and I don't think he would be too happy that I "try" that!
I love hearing about all of your handiwork and projects!
Cheryl
You are amazing! I would like to know what your "R&R" are. So far I see you working and doing projects! I am jealous of your energy and attitude.
Our bathroom sink is leaking and the TV cable is old and making the TV cable we have not worth the money we pay... I wish I could surprise my husband and have them both fixed when he gets home from work. The sink maybe, but the cable will have to be gotten to by tearing down some walls and I don't think he would be too happy that I "try" that!
I love hearing about all of your handiwork and projects!
Cheryl
We never touch people so lightly we do not leave a trace.
Peggy Tabor Millin
Ahh Cheryl, I don't work every minute you know! I take some breaks here and there and doze off or watch TV. I think I try to keep busy because I don't want to sit and sleep which is what I probably would be doing. We'll see how the sleep study turns out. I don't do anything amazing at all. It never turns out great, but ok. I did get all of the whole tiles laid on the floor today however! Tomorrow is the cut ones around the perimeter---oh oh!
Debbie G
Lap RNY 12/12/05
320 highest, 302 consultation, 289 surgery. Total weight loss:165lbs.
Good Morning All!!
Off to work in a few minutes but wanted to report that I went to my first wls support group mtg last nite and I'm glad I did. I was very welcomed there eventho I'm pre-op, several others were also. There seems to be all stages of pre-op/post-op as well. It was interesting to see several people that came directly from work and were only 2-3 wks out. They said they felt great. I mentioned the OH board and some said they didn't like the inner fighting that goes on but a man said the men's board was great and I spoke highly of the OFF. I think the others were mainly turned off by the main forums that produce "cat fights" every now and then.
I learned alot there in the question/answer part of the mtg. The answers were geared more specifically to my surgeon/dietician's direction. I guess here they only do a day or two clear liquids, then day or two full liquids, then soft for a few days then regular foods.
Well, gotta go to work. I have to work tomorrow as well but have Sunday and Monday off.
Take care everyone and have a good one!
Alice
Off to work in a few minutes but wanted to report that I went to my first wls support group mtg last nite and I'm glad I did. I was very welcomed there eventho I'm pre-op, several others were also. There seems to be all stages of pre-op/post-op as well. It was interesting to see several people that came directly from work and were only 2-3 wks out. They said they felt great. I mentioned the OH board and some said they didn't like the inner fighting that goes on but a man said the men's board was great and I spoke highly of the OFF. I think the others were mainly turned off by the main forums that produce "cat fights" every now and then.
I learned alot there in the question/answer part of the mtg. The answers were geared more specifically to my surgeon/dietician's direction. I guess here they only do a day or two clear liquids, then day or two full liquids, then soft for a few days then regular foods.
Well, gotta go to work. I have to work tomorrow as well but have Sunday and Monday off.
Take care everyone and have a good one!
Alice
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Hi Alice,
You reminded me that I need to try my support group again. Last time left a yucky taste in my mouth as it seemed a few had taken over and monopolized the whole thing. Maybe the "personality" of the group has changed a bit in the last few months. I will give them another try again.
The leader is a really nice lady and has called me a couple of times to be an angel to a couple of ladies. There are more lap-banders in the group not so many RNYs. That is fine with me...but I think that is why she asks me to be the angel to the RNY ladies.
Hope you have a good day at work...
Cheryl
You reminded me that I need to try my support group again. Last time left a yucky taste in my mouth as it seemed a few had taken over and monopolized the whole thing. Maybe the "personality" of the group has changed a bit in the last few months. I will give them another try again.
The leader is a really nice lady and has called me a couple of times to be an angel to a couple of ladies. There are more lap-banders in the group not so many RNYs. That is fine with me...but I think that is why she asks me to be the angel to the RNY ladies.
Hope you have a good day at work...
Cheryl
We never touch people so lightly we do not leave a trace.
Peggy Tabor Millin
Good Friday Morning OFF Family!
Hey Carla, hope you have a wonderful trip, I wish I could take off and move about more freely, but as I said the other day, right now I have to watch my finances due to the fact that one never knows what this economy can do to us jobwise. . . my next trip will be to Florida in November to see my daughters and grands there for Thanksgiving, it will be here before I know it. . .
Can you all believe that this is Labor Day weekend, where did the summer go? I know I was just sooo busy living my life that it flew by and I created a lot of good memories in the process, it seems like the Pittsburgh Palooza was years ago, but it was the beginning of Spring. . . I will soon be looking earnestly into putting a get together together for next Fall, New York hopefully, but will also look into the Philadelphia area as NY is sooooo expensive and might be prohibitive to many who would otherwise like to make the trip, anyone want to give me their thoughts on this?
Ok, so Brenda, I just want to say that you are a darling woman and we all have issues that date back to our childhood (well a vast majority of us anyway), the fact that you are working with a professional and doing the Steps and using your God given gifts to help others will go a long way towards your healing from the past. I've been living recovery for 21 years now and I still don't have it all together, but I've come a long way and at least now I can see when I am about to collide with the bus and I can get out of the way before it's too late. I love your kind soul! God bless your sweet self!
Margo, glad you got to meet with Floyd and Brenda, hope Michael feels better and I hope that somehow I get to see you sometime soon, though the trip in October is not one I can make.
Well folks I'm off to the gym and then perhaps I'll go to the outlets and shop for some tops, my friend Lisa gave me loads of slacks, but I need tops to go with them as the cooler weather is appearing more real these days. . .
Hope you all have a wonderful day, my thoughts and prayers go out to all, hugs, Laureen
Hey Carla, hope you have a wonderful trip, I wish I could take off and move about more freely, but as I said the other day, right now I have to watch my finances due to the fact that one never knows what this economy can do to us jobwise. . . my next trip will be to Florida in November to see my daughters and grands there for Thanksgiving, it will be here before I know it. . .
Can you all believe that this is Labor Day weekend, where did the summer go? I know I was just sooo busy living my life that it flew by and I created a lot of good memories in the process, it seems like the Pittsburgh Palooza was years ago, but it was the beginning of Spring. . . I will soon be looking earnestly into putting a get together together for next Fall, New York hopefully, but will also look into the Philadelphia area as NY is sooooo expensive and might be prohibitive to many who would otherwise like to make the trip, anyone want to give me their thoughts on this?
Ok, so Brenda, I just want to say that you are a darling woman and we all have issues that date back to our childhood (well a vast majority of us anyway), the fact that you are working with a professional and doing the Steps and using your God given gifts to help others will go a long way towards your healing from the past. I've been living recovery for 21 years now and I still don't have it all together, but I've come a long way and at least now I can see when I am about to collide with the bus and I can get out of the way before it's too late. I love your kind soul! God bless your sweet self!
Margo, glad you got to meet with Floyd and Brenda, hope Michael feels better and I hope that somehow I get to see you sometime soon, though the trip in October is not one I can make.
Well folks I'm off to the gym and then perhaps I'll go to the outlets and shop for some tops, my friend Lisa gave me loads of slacks, but I need tops to go with them as the cooler weather is appearing more real these days. . .
Hope you all have a wonderful day, my thoughts and prayers go out to all, hugs, Laureen
My Mantra is that I do not determine my success by the number hanging in my closet, nor will I let the scale determine that success either. . . It is through trial and error I will continue to grow and succeed. . . Laureen
"Success is a journey, not a destination." Ben Sweetland
Good Morning Carla and all,
Brenda, sounds like you had a great visit with the therapist. I called mine yesterday and now just have to see if I can get insurance or employee assistance to cover her as I have this new job and don't want to go to new therapist.
Margo, sorry you have hit a roadblock toward a dream...hugs to you.
Eileen, sounds fun...being an extra maybe...
Debbie, I'm thinking of you and all your neighbors and praying all are safe and the storm doesn't do any damage near what happened before.
Laureen, I am planning to do the 50% off sale at the Thrift store on Labor Day. It's a mob usually but dang, I get some wonderful stuff! Don't you love getting those smaller sizes!!?? Have fun shopping.
Susan, hope your day stays light unless you want lots more business, then I hope you get lots more.
Connie, still holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Hope Jean is doing OK.
Well, Beth and I had a lovely day yesterday. Laughing and just enjoying each others company. Saw Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants II. It was good, not great, just good.
Going Scrapbooking tonight with my sister.
Well, you guys, the scale appears to still be moving and I am getting annoying comments about my looks. Not good ones, ones about how I look older, yes I know that. I was always one who people would say they couldn't believe how old I was as my fat filled in the wrinkles so nicely. I do look much older now, but why do people have to say so? Yesterday my neighbor told me she really wanted to bring me over some ENSURE! I looked like I was "wasting away" and she hoped I was not going to keep losing weight. I told her I was being supervised by a doc and that my BMI was still considered a bit over the desired "normal" for me. She is a nurse and also not really my "friend" but she is someone who has always "bugged" me. Anyway, I am just wondering if I am looking as awful as some are implying. I am eating healthy, taking Vits, and exercising...Oh, well...I'm done, just wanted to share with you all as you guys seem to be the ONLY ones who get any of this.
Our temps are still much cooler than summer should be at this time of year which bums me out....
Well, I plan to enjoy this wonderful Friday off and am giving my hugs to you all....
Cheryl
Brenda, sounds like you had a great visit with the therapist. I called mine yesterday and now just have to see if I can get insurance or employee assistance to cover her as I have this new job and don't want to go to new therapist.
Margo, sorry you have hit a roadblock toward a dream...hugs to you.
Eileen, sounds fun...being an extra maybe...
Debbie, I'm thinking of you and all your neighbors and praying all are safe and the storm doesn't do any damage near what happened before.
Laureen, I am planning to do the 50% off sale at the Thrift store on Labor Day. It's a mob usually but dang, I get some wonderful stuff! Don't you love getting those smaller sizes!!?? Have fun shopping.
Susan, hope your day stays light unless you want lots more business, then I hope you get lots more.
Connie, still holding you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Hope Jean is doing OK.
Well, Beth and I had a lovely day yesterday. Laughing and just enjoying each others company. Saw Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants II. It was good, not great, just good.
Going Scrapbooking tonight with my sister.
Well, you guys, the scale appears to still be moving and I am getting annoying comments about my looks. Not good ones, ones about how I look older, yes I know that. I was always one who people would say they couldn't believe how old I was as my fat filled in the wrinkles so nicely. I do look much older now, but why do people have to say so? Yesterday my neighbor told me she really wanted to bring me over some ENSURE! I looked like I was "wasting away" and she hoped I was not going to keep losing weight. I told her I was being supervised by a doc and that my BMI was still considered a bit over the desired "normal" for me. She is a nurse and also not really my "friend" but she is someone who has always "bugged" me. Anyway, I am just wondering if I am looking as awful as some are implying. I am eating healthy, taking Vits, and exercising...Oh, well...I'm done, just wanted to share with you all as you guys seem to be the ONLY ones who get any of this.
Our temps are still much cooler than summer should be at this time of year which bums me out....
Well, I plan to enjoy this wonderful Friday off and am giving my hugs to you all....
Cheryl
We never touch people so lightly we do not leave a trace.
Peggy Tabor Millin
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