Circle the wagons ..Please

You are new here...welcome....what part of the US do you live in? what type of surgery are you going for?

Sweet Jeanne...you are in my prayers.....I am afraid for you....but you know deep down what tough stuff you have to do........JUST DO IT!!!...we are there with you all the way..tuck us in your pocket..Chuck has always been a little scary for me....this is the time to make the change......you have the courage right now.
Love, Marti

Jean, leave and leave now.  don't look back, just go.  ask pastors husband "the cop" to pick him up.  feed and water the dogs Thursday IF YOU MUST take the cop with you.  Leave the key to his house on the table, leave a note what ever you feel you need to do, but DO NOT see him again.  Like the others I have had a VERY bad feeling about this guy and his controlling ways.  Go into hiding to protect yourself.  Everyone has given you excellent advice, especially ones that have been thru similar situations.  I have not, but heed their advice GF.  Get the heck outta Dodge NOW. 

Jean....ditto.... ditto........ditto what the others have said!!!! DO NOT pick him up!!

Tie another knot and hang on tight....you are in for a bumpy ride!!

Get as far away and as fast as you can go.  Get the hell out of Dodge!!

PLEASE get a restraining order!!  Call the police now!!

Hugs, connie d

Jean...this man (if that's what he should be called) is dangerous.  Leave.  Let the dogs go stay with someone else if you cannot get them in a kennel or put them enough food and water out to last until he gets home.  I was married many years ago to an abusive man.  He tried to kill me several times, but I finally got out of the situation.   You are in danger of getting seriously injured or worse if you do not leave.  I am praying that God will protect you.  God is able to change this situation, but you must not stay.  I feel so badly for you.  I am here if I can help in any way. 

Jean,

I must say I agree with everyone who says GO!!  Do not stop for anything GET OUT NOW!! 
You are much more important than DOGS!!

They will survive a couple of days without you. I will keep you in my prayers. 

Vera

Jean

I must also encourage you to leave - I have been there with an abusive situation and Special Forces man. 
I wrap my arms around you and pray that you get out.  I also have a place for you to stay if need be.
You owe him nothing.....  Think smart - be prepared for what may happen... Let others help you....

With hugs,
Shelia

Sweetheart, so many red flags flew up when I read your post. I have been in that position. My ex was an active "Christian" in our church and close to the pastor. He had everyone fooled.  Please think of yourself!!!!!!! Get out and don't look back. Your life is in danger. His rage will get worse before it gets better but you need to get alot of safe distance between you. Once you are out, notify the police and tell them about the dogs, they can deal with that. The shelter should be able to help you with alot of this stuff....getting a restraining order included. Altho my ex found ways around that x3 and got away with it. There is NO DOUBT, you ARE IN DANGER!!!!!!!
It doesn't matter why, just that you are. Don't try to figure him out and his behavior....he is not your problem....you TAKE CARE OF YOU!!!!
Please, please please, please listen to all of us.
Alice

Jean:

I echo everyone else; get out of there now. I am all for helping out the dogs, but really, you are more important than his dogs. Call a humane society to help the dogs and get out of there now. As a reporter and editor, I have reported/edited too many stories like yours and they all ended up with the woman dead. I don't want to read about you that way. The most recent one was a Holland (city in Michigan) cop who stalked his soon-to-be ex-wife and finally killed her in his home. His son found his mother dead in the basement, strangled. Nice, huh?  I don't think she got much help from the cops while she was alive. Restraining orders don't stop someone who wants to kill; they don't care. That woman had many restraining orders; she's dead now. You have many offers of places to go; you have one from me, too. Pick any of us; you're welcome in our homes. Or pick another friend/relative with whom you feel safe. Just be safe and be wise, Jean. Don't take chances with the most precious thing you have, your life.

 You have my prayers and my love. Here's a cyberhug for you, too.

(((((((((((Jean))))))))))))

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.  I hope the repeating "don't pick him up", "Leave now", "get away from him" are words that you have taken not only to heart but to mind and to action. 

I was in a situation (but only for 8 months) where "he' looked adoringly at me and did everything in the world "HE" thought I wanted... those are miniscule 'rewards' he is using to keep you hooked just enough and around just long enough so he can be cruel to you again.  Nothing he does is for you.  He is only doing it so he can set you up for the next blow.  

Get out now!!!!!!!!!!!

HUGS!!!!!!!!!!1