Circle the wagons ..Please

Thank-you I need those hugs and I really feel the caring.. I have to leave work now.. Blessings

oh my darlin...i am so sorry to be so loate in checking in--i have so much to say and not sure how to--cuz-um- michael tends to read my posts

our dear friend raymond-my gf shirl with ovarian cancer-her hubby- raymond was special forces and i sooo am familiar with what you are describing- yet i know raymond has sense...chuck- on teh otehr hqnd has frightened me all along-and now you are finally telling us the rest of the story--

the others have made excellent suggestions- get teh local police-yours ANF his-involved- make them aware of what youa re doing- even in checking on teh dogs so he doesn't turn that against you later---

jean--are you sure he doesn't read this board???y aknow- we jhave soooo many ppl who lurk...and he could...as is aid i think michael reads some of my posts-hence my silence sometimes.....

oh honey- we love ya and we are certainly circling...and sending hugs and prayers and angel dust ...wish i could do more- yes- we are "fixers" and look where it gets us...you and i are more similar tahn you may ever know!!!
love you- and demanding you keep us in the loop!!!!!!!!

do you have the OFF roster or at least a few phone numbers-someone you can call for emerngency to let us know you are ok??even one number- i'll pm mine...

Oh {{{Jean}}} I have been there and done what you are doing!  I've been belittled, threatened, hit and humiliated.  My spouse showed his "good" side to others, and friends/family questioned why I wanted to leave since "he was such a wonderful guy!"  Only I knew what he was like behind closed doors.

He sounds as if his behavior is volitile, erratic and escalating!  You CAN'T fix this.  Take what is yours that you can get into a vehicle - leave the rest and -- Get out, get out, get out, GET OUT!!!

Trust your gut and protect yourself.  I'll be praying for you. 

GET OUT! GET OUT!!! GET OUT!!!  Have the pastor and her husband pick him up.  Leave food and water for the dogs on Thursday...they will be ok for a day.  Take your car back and leave his in its place.  Take Thursday and Friday off and take care of protecting you.  Go someplace and don't tell anyone that might tell him where you are.  The trauma in my marriage ended up in the courts, I wish I had left before it got to that point.  You want to fix and nurture someone?  Fix and nurture yourself.  You have been through enough already.  With love and prayers.  Diane

OMG, Jean.  Get out NOW.  Restraining orders aren't worth the paper they're written on.  Let the creep take a cab from the airport and you get your hiney out of Dodge!  I feel your life is at stake.  Someone that unstable and volatile is dangerous.  Like Karen, I've been concerned about your situation since another of your posts.  I understand you don't want to leave the dogs unattended, but I'd rather something happen to them than you.  Sorry dog lovers.  I'm truly a dog lover too, but I cherish human life more.  The fact that Chuck controlled so much of your life really scares me - car, insurance, dictating where you eat, when you see friends and family...The way he's told you he could kill sounds like a threat to me. 

Please be careful, we love you and need you here.  Keep us posted.
Many HUGS, Debbie

Jean,

Just echoing what the others have said - RUN for your life and the hell with the dogs. Leave them food and water, they will be fine.

I have a spare room if you want to get far away.

PLEASE keep us updated, some how, some way.

Annette

I tried to call you but your number is not listed on the dir.....

Please don't pick this man up at the airport or have any further thing to do with him, leave him a note saying that you are done with this relationship.  Let your pastors husband pick him up at the airport or arrange for someone else to do it, whether it be a taxi or whatever. . .  please Jeanne, this man is very sick and your life is so much more important than doing anything more for him. . .  if you feel the need, take care of the dogs up until the day he is scheduled to come home, then be wherever it is that you have as a safe haven. 

I lived in fear of my life for 7 years, it tears you down inside and destroys the spirit.  I don't want to make this post about me, but I lived the life you are talking about and I just want you to be safe, get to safety and everything else will fall into place.

I am praying for you and if you need anything at all, I am on the OFF directory or contact me via PM.

Hugs, Laureen

On second thought, just leave the dogs food and water, give the pastor the keys and ask them if they can let the dogs out, if not, it's not your problem. . . 

Jean,

I have no words of wisdom because I've never dealt with this type of situation before.  I just want to post to let you know I support you!  My ignorance in this, as I read the wise posts before me, tell me that I think you should listen as I believe there is a consensus.  Take a long deep breath and know we care.

Hugs,

Kathi

Laureen is right.  Have someone else pick him up.  It sounds like you've got a  good support system including having a cop in the mix.  He'll tell you that picking him up is a bad idea.  Get your stuff out, then follow it.  I know a restraining order is just a piece of paper, but get one.  It's your job to keep your kids' mom safe.  Christians have flaws, too.   I'll pray that the "peace that passes all understanding will keep your heart and mind..."