Circle the wagons ..Please

Jean, Just my humble opinion, BUT I don't think you should spend another MINUTE alone with him. I've been worried and fearful for you for some time. I knew it didn't sound like Chuck treated you like he should. You seemed to be figuring that out for yourself. However, the things you have just told us scare me. Do not hesitate to get a restraining order, tho I wonder in his anger if he would obey it. I would have the number and address of the nearest women's shelter close at hand. If you feel like you must pick him up I would take someone else with you. Jean, I know you know this is serious stuff. You've never been one to over dramatize in your posts so I'm sure you are not now. Take care of you first.

That's a wonderful idea to take someone with me to pick him up. I had a meeting with my kids on Monday night to tell them the plan so they were aware. They are the ones that made me promise I would go into hiding for a few days. Thank-you for caring , I have always felt your strength.

 Make sure your pastor, family and friends know you are going to leave Chuck.  Let the local police know also.  A restraining order sounds like it would be good for you.  DON'T meet with him alone, always let someone know where you are and keep someone with you.  

Not all ex military men who are trained to kill act this way.  Sounds like he has issues beyond military and should be taken seriously.   Most women are fixers, comforters, and enablers.  His looks of adoration may be true but there are too many other issues underlying.  He can't be fixed, only controlled. 

One point to consider.  If you go into hiding he will like the thrill of the hunt.  Make sure someone always knows where you are and keep someone informed at all times.  Revenge is spawned from loss of control.  Don't trust him or his friends.

Again, let others know you are leaving.  Don't keep anything secret from your friends and family.  Let the local police know of his temper and his violence.  Also... DON'T pick him up from the airport.  Have someone else do that.  

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers...... Millie

Thank-you

Oh my lord Jean run dont walk to the nearest shelter you can take a week off from work if need be. i was in a relationship like this for a while a long time back and let me tell you it can get nasty really fast. lets just say i ended up in the hospital and he in prison ....please get OUT NOW>
I live way in the boonies in Missouri have a guest house come if you need to really get away ....please do someting , dont go pick him up and let him know that you are leaving while you are with him alone. Please , please. dont give him a chance. i dont know how else to make you understand men like that are very evil. not christian at all.not even a man ....

Thank-you Jan, the more I hear the more I think maybe I shouldn't pick him up.

Jean, I haven't been in this type of situation, but I am scared to death of confrontations of any kind. This one sounds like it could get physical fast. I sure would take the advice of those who have "been there". Have someone else pick him up, OR take his car to the airport and leave it for him.

I am the same way about confrontations, thats why this has gone on for so long, cause I was afraid to "make waves". I have to leave work now, thank-you

Girlfriend, Get out of there while he is gone.  You don't need to be around him any more.  Ask the Pastor to pick him up at the airport and tell him you are gone.  As you said, he can talk to him and he will listen.  I have been there and done that!  Get the restraining order, go to a shelter or a place he does not know about, do not stay by yourself, let the pastor or one of his friends take care of the dogs.  You are more valuable than any dog!  Run while you can because when he gets back, you may not have the chance.

Prayers are with you.....

Another bit of my 2 cents. I am with the others. Don't go pick him up!
We are all having the gut feeling that you are having...this is serious...
The women's shelter or OFF friend offer (someone he doesn't know) sound safe and good.

More hugs to you and to all of you who are posting here, you are all so great!

HUG, HUG AND HUG, JEAN!