She doesn't feel that I need to have wls
Paulette:
Ditto what everyone else said. It is your decision to make, not anyone else's. I always said I would never have this surgery, I enjoyed my food too much. Well, you know what, I still enjoy my food, just a lot less. But I could never lose enough weight before. I could lose 50 pounds a lot of times but always put it right back on, then some. Only you know what's best for you. And of course you can still post on this board ... it's for over 50's and you qualify! And you're always our friend and our sister, regardless of your decision. We love ya!
Ditto what everyone else said. It is your decision to make, not anyone else's. I always said I would never have this surgery, I enjoyed my food too much. Well, you know what, I still enjoy my food, just a lot less. But I could never lose enough weight before. I could lose 50 pounds a lot of times but always put it right back on, then some. Only you know what's best for you. And of course you can still post on this board ... it's for over 50's and you qualify! And you're always our friend and our sister, regardless of your decision. We love ya!
When I went for one of my sessions with my psychologist she also said the same thing to me. I was losing at that time and she said I bet weigh****chers support would be ok for you and not have the wls. Duh I lost track of how many times over the last few decades that I did WW.
I think she was doing the devil's advocate thing and just seeing how motivated I was to do the wls or whether or not I was being wishy/washy about the whole thing.
You have to be the one to make your final decision.
Good luck on what ever you decide to do.
Barb
I think she was doing the devil's advocate thing and just seeing how motivated I was to do the wls or whether or not I was being wishy/washy about the whole thing.
You have to be the one to make your final decision.
Good luck on what ever you decide to do.
Barb
Our sweet Paulette, the decision is yours and God's. Remember that He is there to help you in whatever the choice is. He isn't going to let you down now or ever, you know that already.
It is great if you can do this without the surgery. That would be fantastic. Whatever the choice is the ultimate goal is the weight loss and the ability to keep it off. Many people can do that and maybe with the help you are getting now may be your answer. If not you know that the option of the surgery is still there. It isn't a decision that needs to be made right now. Keep doing the work toward the surgery and then when the time comes maybe the decision will be easier to make. You must follow your heart and no one else's.
We are there for you every step of your journey no matter what your journey is. You are one of us now and forever. We are now blood brothers (and sisters) and we share a common bond. The common bond is only second to the love that we feel for each other. That is the main bond that we all share. We are sisters and brothers (we can't forget our brothers!) without the common bond of blood. I am so much closer to all of you than I am to my own sister and other family. Blood does not make a family. Just remember that! We love you, Paulette, and you are stuck with each and every one of us now for life!
It is great if you can do this without the surgery. That would be fantastic. Whatever the choice is the ultimate goal is the weight loss and the ability to keep it off. Many people can do that and maybe with the help you are getting now may be your answer. If not you know that the option of the surgery is still there. It isn't a decision that needs to be made right now. Keep doing the work toward the surgery and then when the time comes maybe the decision will be easier to make. You must follow your heart and no one else's.
We are there for you every step of your journey no matter what your journey is. You are one of us now and forever. We are now blood brothers (and sisters) and we share a common bond. The common bond is only second to the love that we feel for each other. That is the main bond that we all share. We are sisters and brothers (we can't forget our brothers!) without the common bond of blood. I am so much closer to all of you than I am to my own sister and other family. Blood does not make a family. Just remember that! We love you, Paulette, and you are stuck with each and every one of us now for life!
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on 8/22/08 8:28 am - Park Forest, IL
on 8/22/08 8:28 am - Park Forest, IL
I met with the psychologist late this morning and we talked about wls vs non surg. among other things. She said that since I'm under alot of stress these days ( family related) that I sould just take it slow and not rush into any decision. I can go either way and there is no deadline to have the surgery right now. And that as long as I am in this metabolic program it would all count towards the medically supervised diet for wls anyway. I asked her about my evaluation from the last visit, she said it showed I have alot of anxiety issues and stress! well duh!!!
We have been running all afternoon with the girls. Carla managed to get a hold of me on the phone between the psych's office and here.
So now I'm reading all your replys and truly feel the love! I am not closing any doors for wls. I am going to concentrate on me and the changes I've made in my food and lifestyle changes. If I can continue losing and keep it off then great but if I hit a snag I can still walk through that door.
Each and everyone of you have touched my heart. The psych said I was a confident and strong woman. I said " fooled you!!" I don't feel very strong or confident most of the time, I second guess every decision I make. So maybe the psych visits will help. I guess at 52 I am still capable of learning and have alot to learn. I will continue to pray that God puts me in the right place at the right time and that I do what "HE" wants me to do. I do believe that "HE" led me to this board and all of you.
Hugs to each and everyone of you and thanks for your kind relplies. Paulette
We have been running all afternoon with the girls. Carla managed to get a hold of me on the phone between the psych's office and here.
So now I'm reading all your replys and truly feel the love! I am not closing any doors for wls. I am going to concentrate on me and the changes I've made in my food and lifestyle changes. If I can continue losing and keep it off then great but if I hit a snag I can still walk through that door.
Each and everyone of you have touched my heart. The psych said I was a confident and strong woman. I said " fooled you!!" I don't feel very strong or confident most of the time, I second guess every decision I make. So maybe the psych visits will help. I guess at 52 I am still capable of learning and have alot to learn. I will continue to pray that God puts me in the right place at the right time and that I do what "HE" wants me to do. I do believe that "HE" led me to this board and all of you.
Hugs to each and everyone of you and thanks for your kind relplies. Paulette
Paulette I am so glad for you that you are keeping an open mind.
Life is never easy is it? Lets hope that the Lord shows you exactly how HE wants to help you make your decision, sooner rather than too late. Wow, do I remember those days of constant focusing on the issue. yet only six weeks out of surgery and I sometimes don't think about it at all.. I have lost tons, but enough so that clothes are loose, and I feel so much freer. I wish I could ahve done it permanently without surgery, but I had lost a lot of my hope for that.
Best wishes,
Life is never easy is it? Lets hope that the Lord shows you exactly how HE wants to help you make your decision, sooner rather than too late. Wow, do I remember those days of constant focusing on the issue. yet only six weeks out of surgery and I sometimes don't think about it at all.. I have lost tons, but enough so that clothes are loose, and I feel so much freer. I wish I could ahve done it permanently without surgery, but I had lost a lot of my hope for that.
Best wishes,
Blessings and hugs, hoping for the best, 
Donna H 
Many people, health professionals included, believe that you can lose wt without surgery. I've tried many diets over the years. The wt would come off and come back with MORE. I even participated in an 8 month program in 2002 where I went from 345 down to 286, and I felt like I was starving. Special supplements, chicken & fish, chicken & fish, chicken & fish--my family was ready to kill me from this repeated menu for dinner. I could not get below 286, gave up and ended up at 345 again. My mom developed diabetes at age 55, and finally at at 58, I decided to go the RNY route for permanent wt loss. I had surgey in May, 2006--day of surgery was around 320. Got down to 222 by Xmas, 2006. I attend support meetings 2-3 times each month, as I find them beneficial to me keeping to protocol for RNY patients. In May, 2008, I reached 2 milestones. I got to under 200 pounds, and my total wt loss now was 150+ pounds. At 27 months post op, I'm at 187. I'm glad I had the surgery, as it has allowed me to do so much more in life. I only regret not having the surgery some 10 years earlier--I almost feel like I lost 10 years of my life due to be borderline obese from those years. It's your decision. My decision was based on my previous wt loss attempts, with minimual success. I wanted a more permanent solution, to make it easier on me and my loved ones as I age further into my 60's. DAVE
Dave Chambers, 6'3" tall, 365 before RNY, 185 low, 200 currently. My profile page: product reviews, tips for your journey, hi protein snacks, hi potency delicious green tea, and personal web site.
paulette- obesity help is just taht help for obese ppl-it is NOT wls is all or nothing!
you must make the choice and if you are undecided right now then continue on your path of great losing! if at some later time you decide to go thru surgery you are already half way -if not more so-there!
hugs to you!!!
you must make the choice and if you are undecided right now then continue on your path of great losing! if at some later time you decide to go thru surgery you are already half way -if not more so-there!
hugs to you!!!
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