Please forget my news........

Thanks so much for all the happy thoughts that you all sent but Bill made it perfectly clear to me that I am not the baby's grandmother. He informed me that I am the step. So I guess all the happy thoughts belong to Bill and his ex-wife I guess. I am not one that has to be hit in the head more than one time. So I am not going to allow myself to be put in the place to be hit in the head again if you all know what I mean. I am finished and I hope that everyone is happy. Including me. I am here by myself since he is the one that feels the need to hit me in the head every chance that he gets. I am not sure why I put myself in the place for this to happen again. It sure isn't going to happen again, everyone can bet on that one. Thanks again but all the congratulations belong to others and not me.

wow, none of my business but what a jerk.....how selfish on his part...so when it comes time for the baby to need stuff you just say, go to the grandmother, I'm just the step....could be cheaper that way, but what an emotional let down...I am sorry he did that to you.....there is not greater feeling that becoming a grandparent....and the more the child has the better....

 *~*~*~**~**~**~**  WHAT  THE  H***  is that all about?  NO NO NO.....  you get to share in the excitement too  ...  those kids should have love and congratulations given them by you too....  DON"T  let Him take that away ... you have a right to be happy for the kids too.  Aaarrrgh   that was mean spirited...  Huggs  for you Brenda...  Take heart and love the baby...  Step.Gramma      Millie     PS sounds like something from his past reared its head.

needs to rear it's head up his rear........

I don't think a baby can have too many grandparents. .  . .or too much love. I think wise Annette, I'm giving her credit, but it could have been Peg or any of many on this board said something like "Fruits and Veggies spoil, babies don't."  Not sure that's completely true but better spoiled than neglected!

awwww Brenda, my heart goes out to you, that really had to hurt.  But Bill is wrong, blood doesn't make a grandparent...love does.  We have 2 biological grandparents and about @ 6 other kids who think of us as their grandparents too. These are children of my daughters friends, our neigbors great grandchildren and my ex sister in laws two little ones, so you just love the baby and forget what Bill says. Children need all the love thy can get and doesn;t matter where it comes from!  Many hugs to you from Paulette & Earl!!

That's nasty. My niece's kids, Sam and Ben, think of my brother's wife, Margaret as a grandparent ... they may not call her grandmother (my niece's choice, so her mother doesn't get ticked off) but they love her just the same.  And Margaret thinks of them as her grandchildren and loves them as such. When they were born, she celebrated their births with their grandfather; she has changed their diapers, kissed away their tears, made their favorite birthday cakes. They love Margaret. I'm sure this new little one will love you, too, because you will give it all the love you have. Doesn't matter what you are called in this child's life. Your husband was cruel to bring it up. My brother never brought it up to Margaret that she was the "step" grandmother. A child can never have enough love, and a woman can never have enough in her life, either.

Brenda ...that is just wrong!! What a fool he is and all of them for allowing such a thing to happen.

You are a grandma....if you had step granchildren would you say they are your grands or step grands?? If you had a step daughter would you say she is your step daughter or daughter? Forget that step crap!!!

Babies and children need tons of love. Love is how they grow to be the wonderful people they will be one day.

You are full of love and I have a feeling you will be the one they come to when they really need someone. You are a terrific, kind, loving and caring person. They will be honored to call you grandma.

Don't let that jerk rain on your parade!! He is damn lucky he doesn't have to listen to what I would have to say to him about that fact!!
Who wants someone like that for a grandpa...doesn't sound like anyone I would pick. Selfish....very, very selfish!!

Sorry to come down so hard on your husband but DAMN!!!!

(((((GENTLE HUGS BRENDA)))))   connie d

Brenda My heart goes out to you please just remember those are HIS thoughts not the innocent childs, be there during all the important childs life ..they are innocent and figure out for themselves who has a good heart (which you do) and that is who they will love back.  Have the baby call you any nickname it wants..believe me you will find that more precious...do this for me ok
Put your left hand on your right shoulder
Put your right hand on your left shoulder
SQUEEZE!!!
That's me and all your friends here sending you
an encouraging and loving hug. Carry it with you when
ever you need one...

Brenda Sweetheart ...that baby will be very fortunate to have you in it's life....Bill doesn't get to set he rules on who you love....and that sweet baby will definitely love you...who doesn't.....maybe
Bill doesn't show it, but I am sure he does love you...like I said who doesn't?  love Marti