why are you (were you) obese?

What can I say, I LOVE FOOD, in every shape and form.  I love to read and collect recipes, I love to cook it, and I LOVE to eat it.  I am Cajun so that makes it even harder because Cajuns love their rice and gravy.  I rather eat a big bowl of rice and gravy than the meat that is cooked with it.  I eat way too many carbs.

But, I'm working on changing this.

 

I was abused physically and sexually for several years.Chose to gain weight because the abuser felt fat was unattractive.Having cp made gaining weight easy because my mobility was hindered.
I have gotten help.Dared to marry and see wls as a new begining.Thanks for sharing!

Jean,

Traumatic childhood--I was one when my brother (3) died of leukemia. My parents were devistated. I did not get the nurturing I needed at early years. Then my father became abusive to me and even blamed me for my mother's death when she was 52 (cancer).

My marriage was filled with all types of abuse whi*****reased over the years.

I was pregnant at 18 and lost the baby at 5months...I almost died of blood loss.

2 of my 3 sisters turned on me when my father was diagnosed with cancer..they took over his estate (not huge) and banished me and my other sis from the family.

I am still obese and use food for comfort. My choices are better and I'm in counseling. I hoping my surgery will be in the next couple months. My energy is tapped out but I do see light at the end of the tunnel.

The last of my 3 children is moving out of state this coming Monday..and will be married next June. I'm very happy for him but very tearful at the same time. I need to find a balance between working to keep myself busy and reserving enough time for me.

I love food but I'm learning to love me too. I want to live.
I'm a good cook and love to cook but it's just me now and I
need to say to myself frequently "eat to live not live to eat".

Thanks for this post...

Alice

hi jean sorry i am ;ate posting but i worked yesterday then was gone after work to the fair...

ok why was i obese....i was a pudgy child in grade school...slimmed down in high school...wore a size 10 back then..wow!!! was never popular with the schoolmates due to my being the "fat" kid growing up...never had any dates in school...met my first hubby ended up pg got married and the weight from being pg never left...got pg again more weight put on and never left...this hubby was physically abusive with me ate fast foods or the wrong foods all the time...lots of soda pop...divorced him after 4 years was single for 10 years...was still about the size i am right now only no flapping saggy skin to look at...was raped by a man that danced with me at a bar....started seeing gary about that time also...he liked to eat but mainly drink...when we cooked out it was several kinds of meat and we ate til we were stuffed....over the years of him verbaly abusing me i ate for comfort i guess....he never took me anyplace it seemed...he wanted to drink at the bars and i wasn't into bars after being raped...so i stayed home and ate myself happy...the weight came on full force over the years...looked into having WLS and so thankful i had it!!!!! look where i am now....i might still be 190 pounds but i am happy with rick and love him to pieces and le loves me....he might have beer on the weekends but still he drinks at home with me...he doesn't get drunk or abusive with me at all....he loves me and tells me everyday how he feels about me...he gives me compliments too...which i never got before from either hubby!!!! i am a stress eater and i guess i always will be...i know i have been eating more these last few weeks with this dam divorce coming up next week!!! but like rick said...soon it will be all over and i can be happy here and not worry about whats back there in michigan....i love it here in ohio and i never want to go back home again!!!!! i miss my mom but thats about it!!!! so thats my story in a nut shell...i am sure there is more but the brain is not thinking i guess...lol

hugs

Thank you everyone for these heartfelt stories.

I am a lurker and this is my first time posting.

I recognize myself in each and everyone of you.

Congratulations on the weight loss.