When men look

Men are looking at me and I’m always thinking what are they looking at.  Hubby notices and sometimes he comments but most of the time he just throws his arm around me in the territorial thing.  Like the other day, we were at Wal-Mart and I was walking into the store and this man, not an old fart either, looked at me and smiled and I was tempted to look behind me to see if he was smiling at a young chick, but I didn’t and I smiled back.  He then said, “you look so familiar.”  Yeah, like I fell off the turnip truck.  Hubby, who was getting a cart, rushes over and says in his most masculine tone, “Honey, you okay.”  The man smiles again and walks away.  Hubby asked me who he was and I said I don’t know and he says why was he bothering you and I say I don’t know and finally hubby says it, you know the it that puts all the blame on me instead of the cruiser at the store.  He says, “Well, did you smile at him first?”  I stopped right in the middle of Wal-Mart and said, “No you didn’t.”  He says what and I say you are accusing me of trying to pick up the cruiser and I wasn’t and why are you acting so ******g weird.  I know you know that I am hot and irresistible and full of hot molten sex appeal and raw emotion, so why in the hell do you not see that other men, especially cruiser men, might fine me just as much a hot item.   So, hubby says, calm down, and I say I am calm and he says I didn’t mean that it was your fault and I say so what if I did smile first, which I didn’t, am I not allowed a smile.  So, I’m thinking back to pre wls when men looked at him with pity and me with contempt and I think, I’VE COME A LONG WAY BABY.

Yeah Jeannie!

Now peeps (both men and women) smile and speak to me whereas before they looked the other way. Amazing what losing a "ton" of weight does for one's image, huh?

I, on the other hand, wouldn't mind meeting someone, as I have been a widow since 2000, and hey, just because I'm closing in on 70 doesn't mean I'm dead!!!!

Pat

Hijack!!! Good for you Pat and I hope that you meet a nice man, who treats you like a Queen! Hugs, Laureen

Thanks, Laureen.....me too!

Pat, there's a man out there just waiting to turn your head.  I agree that both men and women now look me in the eye as opposed to turning away.  It's so weird how fat seems to repulse everyone and how it is sociably acceptable to make fat jokes and be rude to fat people and charge more and on and on.  We, and I include me, are the last of the liberated folks.

I say, ENJOY IT! We are attractive women, fat or thin. Our husbands will just have to live with their fears. I'm so glad that you are turning heads! Yeah! Julia

Julia, thanks.  I agree with that, deal or don't, makes no difference to me. 

Jeanne,  Isn't it funny how the world sees us, and we see it, now that we are more "socially acceptable" sizes. . .   My boyfriend thinks that when I get to my goal, I'll probably dump him for some other guy, to which I laugh and say, if you treat me this good all the time, there is no other guy I would want. . .  then there this young lady on my PA forum, who goes beserk when men look at her, or even if they hold open a door and smile at her, she is a beautiful young woman, who was beautiful before she lost all her weight, but she has lots of issues surrounding the past and the way she was treated by people, so I just enjoy when the attention men give me and simply smile back thinking how they would never have made eye contact in the past, that's my dirty little secret, but hey I'm not married either so it's no sweat. Just my perspective on your post. . .and yeah, you've probably come a long way for sure, I know I have and I'm not at goal yet! Hugs, Laureen 

You know,when I was young and really hot, I never really got comfortable with the attention that men paid to me; consequently, I was labled stuck up.  Now, I am still not real comfortable, but at least, I am able to return a smile or even flirt a little back.  Hubby is a little uneasy, but he knows that we are for life.  Yep, a lifer. LOL

I'm thinkin, You made that cruiser man's day.  Hey , add your hubby to your cruiser man file, spred your joy. Peg