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seasheleyes
on 6/19/08 4:04 am - Manteca, CA

Oh Darlene- I'm so sorry that you had to grow up with that anger around. This friend tried very hard to have a baby and I prayed that she wouldn't be successful. I knew that she could never be a good parent.

karen C.
on 6/19/08 1:58 am - Kennewick, WA

RNY on 02/16/05

Oh Julia talk about having your expectations of a beautiful time crushed! Sounds like you did a great job of expressing your feelings. Too bad she can hear the message! I would say you went waaaayyyyy above and beyond. I submitting your name for sainthood!

Karen C

seasheleyes
on 6/19/08 4:07 am - Manteca, CA

RNY on 12/03/07

LOL- Yep Karen- I'm feeling very saintly after that trip. To tell you the truth, I knew that it would not be a wonderful trip- I had fantasies on that order, but I knew the reality going in. I was being kind. I do have limits though.

Eileen Briesch
on 6/19/08 4:31 am - Evansville, IN

RNY on 06/29/04

Julia, that sounds like a horrible trip. Sounds like you need a vacation from your vacation.

Eileen Briesch

lap rny 6-29-04

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seasheleyes
on 6/19/08 8:37 am - Manteca, CA

RNY on 12/03/07

Yes- and I just got a card from her saying that she expected better from me, that I have no room to judge her, that I'm a terrible mother, the whole shebang. Don't worry- I know that I'm a good mother. I really tried not to judge but she was downright abusive. I knew she would react this way. At least it is over now.

Eileen Briesch
on 6/21/08 1:36 am - Evansville, IN

RNY on 06/29/04

You're right not to respond; she wouldn't understand the response. There are times when it's better just to say nothing.

Eileen Briesch

lap rny 6-29-04

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Brenda R.
on 6/19/08 10:26 am - Portage, IN

RNY on 10/08/07

Julia, I am so sorry that you had to have that experience. No one needs or deserves to be treated and talked to like she does people. Sometimes you have to walk away from someone who is that toxic and the bad thing is that she is the one that has allienated everyone. No one needs to be around that crap. It is a pity that she is that unhappy with herself. She hates herself so much that she has to take it out on others around her. I am so glad that you now know that you have to walk away from that. It is her loss. I feel so sorry for her poor husband~he should follow the lead of all her family and friends and get the h3ll out while he is still sane!!

It's not what you gather, but what you scatter
that tells what kind of life you have lived.

seasheleyes
on 6/19/08 10:47 am - Manteca, CA

RNY on 12/03/07

Yes Brenda, it's a sad situation. I was thinking of writing her back, but I think not. Why waste the time trying to express what she will never hear clearly ? I need to just let it go. Thanks for responding.