OT: The Friend We Want To Be

Evaluating Our Relationships There comes a time in all our lives when we may need to evaluate our relationships, making sure that they are having a positive effect on us, rather than dragging us down. Without realizing it, we may be spending precious time and energy engaging in friendships that let us down, rather than cultivating ones that support and nourish us along our path. Life, with its many twists, turns, and challenges, is difficult enough without us entertaining people in our inner circle who drain our energy. We can do so much more in this world when we are surrounded by people who understand what we’re trying to do and who positively support our efforts to walk our path. We can begin this evaluation process by simply noticing how we feel in the context of each one of our close relationships. We may begin to see that an old friend is still carrying negative attitudes or ideas that we ourselves need to let go of in order to move forward. Or we may find that we have a long-term relationship with someone who has a habit of letting us down, or not showing up for us when we need support. There are many ways to go about changing the status quo in situations like this, having a heart to heart with our friend showing through example. This process isn’t so much about abandoning old friends as it is about shifting our relationships so that they support us on our journey rather than holding us back. An important part of this process is looking at ourselves and noticing what kind of friend we are to the people in our lives. We might find that as we adjust our own approach to a relationship, challenging ourselves to be more supportive and positive, our friends make adjustments as well and the whole world benefits.

Thank you Darlene. This certainly gives me plenty to think about!! Hugs, connie d

Darlene, This is so true and really thought provoking.  I am in the process of listening to a cd series from Jentzen Frankin, Right People, Right Places, Right Plans and reading his 30 day devotional that address exactly what you wrote about.   Thanks for posting this.

Well said.

How very appropreiate for me in this time of my life.  I am liveing this at the moment.   Thank you   Alice

The timing on this is really something. I am evaluating some of the relationships that I have in my life. They change and I am not comfortable with change (as is most of us) and it scares me at times. Thanks so much for posting this, Darlene.