I'm Baaaacccckkk!!!

Hi everyone, remember me????  I had my surgery 9/4/07. My mom went in the hospital a few days before and died on 11/14. My head went up my butt farther then it had been. My depression got worse but I am coming out of it. We had a lot to deal with and sister problems with my moms estate. There is always one, we knew this was going to happen. Most everything is done, the house is on the market (for all the good that is going to do with economy the way it is). We don't have to deal with the bad sister for much longer which relieves a lot of stress. Anyways, I have lost almost 70 lbs. Not as much as I had hoped for at this point but it is my own fault, my bad. I have not exercized, or followed the rules very faithfully. Depression does that to you. I also have had ZERO issues and can eat anything (great) without consequences (not so great). The best part of all of this is yes the weight loss but, my diabetes is gone, my high blood pressure is gone, my high cholesterol is gone, all my labs are normal! Although I still hurt and still get tired from my fibromyalgia, I am much more limber and don't tire as easily. My feet are not killing me so I can walk longer without incident and I find myself wanting to do things again. I had pretty much become a hermit, and alienated most of my friends because I was in such a funk for the past 10+ years. I have reconnected with a few and am begining to enjoy life again. The not so great thing is most of my friends do not live in town so I don't have a lot of people to do things with. Where do you meet people at our age? I am not an outside type person (especially here in the god awful heat), I am not religous and I don't work. I looked online for some womens groups to no avail. Any suggestions? I have missed you guys, thought about all of you and hope everyone is doing well.

Jeanne, I just want to tell you "Welcome home!" We are so glad to see you again. When one of us is gone we wonder just what happened.  It sounds like the physical problems that you had seem to doing well. Mine are too. I still consider myself a diabetic but it just under control by diet and exercize. I never had high blood pressure but took several pills made for that for my heart problem and now had to be taken off one of them since my blood pressure was going down way to low. My back problems is doing much better. I am just more bothered now with the muscle spasms and not so much the intense pain. My heart problem will always be there but the time for a possible heart transplant has been put off hopefully forever.  Weight wise I am working for Onederland and I have .2 of a pound to get there. In another 9 pounds and I will have my century card and that is good. But to me the way that I am feeling is just so good and worth everything that I have went through.  I would do all of this again in a heartbeat. The only thing that I regret is not having it sooner. I know though that I was given this opprotunity when I was ready for it. All things come in the right time.  Please accept my sympathies for the loss of your mom and all the problems that you have had.  Again, welcome home.

Thanks Brenda! You go girl!

Welcome back Jeanne, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom. It always hurts. It sounds as if you are slowly getting out of your funk and doing well with the weight loss. Meeting people when you don't work is difficult. Is there a WLS support group in your area? That's one way to connect. I stopped working to care for my parents and went into a deep depression after they died. Then I began to do volunteer work - that helped so much. The hours were very flexible, I was helping people , meeting new folks and had a reason to get out of bed every day. You might consider that type of activity. Don't be a stranger - come back to us. Annette

Thanks Annette.  I feel so much better it is uncanny. Just think if I start to exercize and get some endurance. I'm coming around!

Hello Jeanne and welcome back!!! I am glad you have finally come back to us. You have been missed. I was so sorry to hear about your mother...bless her heart. Good to have all that house stuff and dealing with family all behind you now. (Mostly behind you) You are doing great with your weight loss. 70 pounds is a lot of weight. Congrats on that!! Sounds like healthwise you are doing great too. Good for you!!! Hope to see more of you now. Hugs, connie d

Look at you! you have lost 2X's what I have. What is your secret? You look great! Like I said I haven't exactly stuck to the program. I am just amazed at you 116 lbs, crazy.  I am going to try to get back to my routine of morning postings. I hope you see more of me too!

Welcome back. Damn! What a ride you have been on. I understand depression,and I am rather isolated myself,except I work with loads of people.  You did the best you could during those very hard time, and I am sorry for your loss. Welcome back girl....cozy on up!

Thanks Linda. Depression sucks!

Your story sounds alittle similar. When my father was ill, my 3 sisters and I were very close, leaning on each other for everything till my father was near death. 2 of my sisters became different in many ways. When my father died, the 2 sisters became horrible people...they were in charge of the estate and tried to be in charge of my life. I backed off when I realized how wacko  they've become. I got a portion of the inheritance, will never know if it was equal but I really don't care. I had to keep my sanity by backing away. One of my sisters and I are now close but the "other 2" are distant. Money does strange things to people. My depression has worsened over the years as my weight went up. Which came first? Who knows. I'm hoping this surgery will help my outlook of myself and life in general. These "wow" moments I read about are fantastic and hopefully someday I'll be having some of those moments as well. As far as meeting people, I'm at the stage of staying home. Sorry, can't be any help there. take care, Alice