June 20th .......coming soooooooooon

As the day comes closer, I'm becoming more and more nervous. ..... Wow...  I need some positive self talk to take me through.. thanks all

carol...nerves are normal at this point...specifically what is bothering you???? this is a serious life changing thing and i would do it again in a heartbeat!! the increase in health is just awesome...and freedom of movement ....it is definitely a roller coaster ride of emotions getting to this point and the ride just gets better as you start losing!!!

Thank you so much for caring enough to respond.  I guess the surgery it self.. the loss of control while in surgery.  I'm normally a very in control person.  This site is so valuable to have folks out there to relate to.  The life change will be huge. My age.. I'm older than most.  But the over 50 site is helpful.   I want to feel less tired, more freedom and not have the my weight control my choices.  I know I'm rambiling.  I don't really have a specific answer for what is making me nervous.   thanks so much

carol; i'm sorry to be blunt-but how old are you? we have several gals in their 60's who have  had surgery-they may chime in... i tend to be a control person too-and i figured that i had chosen my surgeon well; i had read up on the procedure and spent much time on the OH boards...and i turned everything over to my God...i figured i was in His hands...and i was calm...the surgery was a "piece of cake"- (sorry! so many foodisms!!) -there were a few minutes in the f irst few days which were ouchy- i had open surgery by choice and horrid tummy spasms -they gave me an awesome shot for the pain and i was fine-- get your self up and walk and that relieves gas and pain....sleep when you need to and sip and sip some more!!! ask questions and talk to us....

Carol, I would worry if you weren't nervous. This is a major life change and of course you are concerned. But let me tell you that the benefits outweigh everything. I would do it again in a New York minute. The fantastic chnges in my life has been the most unbelievable things anyone could ever have happen. The new freedoms you get and the healthy way you feel. I can't even begin to tell you. Soon you are going to experience them all for yourself and then you will know what we are talking about.  I too want to be in control and during surgery you of course are not but trust me after surgery you have so much more control over your life. You just need to let it go and know that if God brings you to it He will get you through it. He has brought you this far and so He isn't going to let you go now. Just put your trust where you know that it should be and everything is going to be great and that includes you.  Just remember we are here if you need more positive re~enforcement. That is what we are here for.

You know, when I made the decision to do this, I had no doubts whatsoever. I wanted to do this and no one could talk me out of it. My mother said, "you're going to gain it all back." Well, that did it! I was going to show her. It still drives me to this day. When I brought that up recently, and I was kind of angry about it, she said, "You were going to do it no matter what I said." I told her I didn't care what she said, but yes, I was going to have the surgery and I was going to show her. And I did.  As for the lack of control, that didn't bother me. I am not an overly religious person, but I am spiritual in a way. Well, let's put it this way ... I believe in God, just not in going to church. I decided if it was my time to go, it would happen; if not, everything would be OK. And here I am. I truly believe that. I put my faith in the surgeon's skills, which are God-given (and well-practiced) and believed that he would do his best to give me a new life. And it happened. I have a new life. I've lost 180 pounds. I got a new knee (although it still hurts more than I like). I have so many more friends than I ever had because of this site. A whole new world opened to me because I took that leap of faith. And that's really what it is, a leap of faith.  It was the best thing I ever did, the best decision I ever made. I wish I could have done it years ago, but then, the technique hadn't been perfected to this degree at that time. So it wasn't my time ... everything happens for a reason. Is this your time? That's for you to decide.

Hi Carol,  I'm having surgery this summer and like most, if not all of us am getting a little nervous.  I'm sure as the time gets closer I'll have a few panic attacks.' I think if I wasn't such a control freak I wouldn't have put this surgery off till I'm 50.  I asked if I could have an epidural for surgery, I don't like that feeling of not knowing what's going on around me.  The surgeon laughed and said 'are you going to tell me what to do'?  I am going to do this now, thanks to all the support from this site.

Carol.....glad to see you here on OFF!!!! Everyone of us has experienced what you are feeling at one point or another. It is perfectly normal. In my opinion this is the best surgery and I would do it all over again if I had too. I have so much energy. I can run up and down stairs. I can get up and down off the floor without even thinking about it. My high blood pressure,acid reflux, and diabetes is gone!! I was getting so crippled and in so much pain from Arthritis and Fibromyalgia that my doctor said I would be in a wheelchair before long. I was living on Vicodin. Now I rarely ever even take a Tylenol.  Think about all the benefits and the new and healtier life ahead. Everything will be just fine. Try to get to a support group if at all possible. It helps so much to be with others that understand. I would be lost with out this site too. Come often and ask questions and ask for all the support you need. We will always be here for you!! Hugs, connie d

My RNY Lap was very easy for me.  Best thing I could ever have done for myself.  I just had my surgery May 13th and came home and took care of myself and my kitty.  I am healed up nicely and doing all sorts of things around the house (except lifing over 5 pounds).  I am 54.  A week of not being able to drive was rough though.  I was sore of course but I got through it.

Wow.... Thanks for all the wonderful responses and encouragement.  I think that's exactly what I needed.   I needed to hear some good outcomes and no regrets.  This site and the people on this site are wonderful.  I feel so comfortable and I really appreciate all the support.   You folks are great!