Can You Spell S-t-u-p-i-d?

So, I'm at work yesterday and Wendy's client said hello to me.  I walked to her and was being socially polite when she asked if I'd lost more weight.  I answered in the positive and said I was a size 4 now.  She was commenting on how beautiful I looked and how well I managed my extra skin issues, and if I planned to lose more.  I thanked her and said "I don't know about more weight loss, my body seems to be finding its own level and what that is, I haven't a clue.  Maybe I'll go down to a 2 and maybe it will stop here".  At this point Wendy (a frustrated size 18/20 who I choose to believe really cares about me) says, "Well, I hope you don't think a size 2 would look good!"  I was so stunned by the remark I couldn't think of anything to say.  I politely excused myself from the client and walked back to my own space where I should have stayed in the first place.  I could not believe that someone would say something so inane!!  Later Wendy came to me and apologized and said she did not mean to hurt me she was just concerned that I would get "too thin", and that I looked great where I am.  Okay I said no problem.  She then asked me if I was eating enough.  I explained to her that I had 2 oz of swiss cheese and 1/2 apple for lunch just 20 min ago.  She scoffed and said "That's NOTHING!!"  I again explained for the umpteenth time that I had a 2 -4 oz pouch and it would not hold more than that.  She said "Well, if you can fit 2 oz of cheese and 1/2 apple then you can fit 1/2 Sausage McMuffin in there".  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  Now I don't know about you, but isn't that just about the stupidest thing anyone could ever say?????  Why on earth would someone advise someone else to START eating fast food when they are eating apples and cheese and perfectly happy with that?????????   I didn't even bother to explain to her that the fat content in the McMuffin would make me lay down for 45 min and that there is absolutely NO nutritional value in it.  I just marveled at the control issues she was letting show, and the choice she thinks I should make.  People can be soooooooo STOOOPID.........YIKES!

That was stupid!  1/2 a sausage bisuit or 1/2 an egg McMuffin (not all at once) had me thinking I was having a heart attack!  Granted, I don't stay with the program strictly, but there are certain things I won't eat 'cause they make me   One of the docs I work with tells me "just one won't hurt".  I reply "Yes it will, it'll hurt for about an hour unless it comes up" Can I ask ya something?  How do you handle the excess skin?  I was considered a lightweight at 265, and the batwings, testicle thighs, and belly apron really interfere with my clothes. Avoid stupid people when possible! Debbie

LOLOLOL - I've considered isolation, but rejected it as sometimes they CAN be funny to watch!!!  (Sorry did I say that out loud??) ................. I'm lucky Debbie, I guess.  For having started at 388 and now at 137 I don't have that much skin I guess.  It's all relative however.  But.......to answer your question, I wear a size 36C body shaper by Bali.  It's lace and I have it in every color they make, at least 3 of each.  My pants fit just tight enough on my thighs to contain the jiggle of the thighs and I wear a sleeve that covers the batwings (now and then I just let them show - screw it).  And yes, it does interefere with the size of my clothes.  Especially my pants.  I have to buy one size larger than my waist to handle the apron, so I always have to wear a belt as the waist gaps about 1-2 inches.  I wear my tops out and the only time I tuck them in is when I'm wearing a skort or skirt and the apron doesn't show in those.  I am always asked did I have my skin removed??  I answer No, I'm keeping it - I've had enough changes for now thanks.  On some days I really resent my skin - and on others I love it as a badge of courage and accomplishment.  I'm really comfortable tho, and love myself like never before - it's just my skin and the skin I'm in........bless it!! 

You know the old saying, one I grew up with . . . "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." Too many people either don't know that philosophy or they're just too stupid to figure out they're not very nice. I sense a great deal of ENVY coming from the idiot . . . maybe she should try cheese and apple for lunch. Sounds YUMMY to me (except not swiss, lol). You just keep looking good, and let them get eaten with envy. It's THEIR problem, not yours. You go girl!

LOLOLOL.............I know I was considering telling her that I thought I read they were looking for a new Head Dietician at the Mayo Clinic but I thought 'no, jeani that's rude'.................LOLOL..............  Thanks Connie.  And, yeah I had to develop the love of Swiss - it's an acquired taste!!  Cheddar is my fave.........  Hugs, and thanks again.

It is alwaays so good to see you my friend.  You always give me something to think about. Even if you're not here often I'm so happy to see you when you find the time. Your self revelations always give me something to chew on myself. Hugs,

Hello Karen!!...........Thanks for the encouragement.  It is such a warm, cozy feeling to come here and be so welcomed.  I have learned here and in the real world in real time that my honesty is NOT always as welcomed, but I've also learned to temper it and deliver it as mine only.  What the other person does with it is their business, mine is just telling my truth without trying to hurt anyone, but most especially myself.  So that makes some things difficult to deliver but I always try to do it with love and detachment, allowing others to do what they will.  I'm glad you have some things to chew on still; this means you are still growing....may we grow until we aren't breathing anymore.  I am working in Sun City, which is a BIG retirement/resort area and about half my clients are over 70.  I have the greatest time with them.  I won't keep a client that isn't still growing, laughing, experimenting and making new discoveries.  I'm building a nice clientele of amazing women and men who teach me much.  I most admire the dignity and grace; the brevity of expression and the twinkle in their eyes.  I'm just amazed that I could grow so far in just 5 short years; but then I had a long distance to travel so I am blessed that the journey has been swift!!  LOLOL........take care my love, Jeani

I would say that you handled the situation with class. That is the important thing, putting someone in their place like the lady you are. She is soooooo stupiddo!!! I would say that there is a bit of the green eyed monster there, if you ask me. I would take the swiss and apple any day, since I love swiss and always have! I just plain love cheese!

Hi Brenda.............I know when I was almost 400 pounds I would NOT have handled a co-worker losing a lot of weight and getting healthy around me that well either.  I worked with two Barbie Dolls - both, a size 0 and a size 2 and I would get so pissed when they'd talk about gaining 3 pounds.  I remember telling them that too!  Heck, at that point 3 pounds was like breakfast to me!!!  Now, however, I get it.  3 pounds is a lot to deal with in a size 4.  3 becomes 5 and 5 becomes 8 and so on until it is out of control and it happens so easily!!  I'm very fortunate to have had my experience in this environment.  I've learned to just be happy for someone when they are experiencing growth and better health.  There's nothing to be jealous of.  We are all totally responsible for our own lives and health; and everyone gets a life - their own!  I have no need to be in anyone elses business anymore, it's a job just being in my own! LOLOL.  I love her and green eyed or not she deserves kindness and I give it to her every day.  Swiss rocks!!!  I like it with sliced turkey and brown mustard rolled up.  Skip the crackers and bread.......just the swiss and turkey.......yummmmmmmmm.  That particular meal has held me in good stead throughout the last 5 years and I'm still eating it!  Throw in a little apple and I'm having a feast!! 

********** YES, I can spell stupid... along with Jealous and ignorant. I realize a lot of people on the main board say to ignore or not be around people with Wendy's attitude but I am one who likes to educate and help others understand. I hate ignorance... Slowly but surely she will come to understand what you are and have been going through. I pity people who choose not to learn, especially with their superior attitude. You are a classy lady and it's an inspiration to see how you have handled this situation. Have a great day.... Millie