Mothers

Nancy B
on 5/10/08 5:30 am - Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada

I received this today in my email and I had to pass it on:

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.  She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you too and would love to spend some time with you."  The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.  That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked.
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you, "I responded, "Just the two of us." 
She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."  That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous.  When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed  to be nervous about our date.  She waited in the door with her coat on.  She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.  She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.
"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the  car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."  We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.  My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.  After we sat down, I had to read the menu.  Her eyes could only read large print.  Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me.  A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.
"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.  As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.
"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.
"Very nice.  Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack.  It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope addressed to me from my mother, with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.  An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance.  I wasn't sure that I could be there but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife.  You will never know what that night meant for me. "I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. 
Nothing could be more important than that.Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby.Somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is history.
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother by instinct .
Somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.
Somebody said being a mother is boring.Somebody never  rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
 
Somebody said if you're a "good" mother, your child will "turn out good".
Somebody thinks a child comes with directions and a guarantee.

Somebody said "good" mothers never raise their voices.
Somebody never came out the back door just in time to see her child hit a golf ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.
Somebody said you don't need an education to be a mother.
Somebody never helped a fourth grader with his math.
Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first.
Somebody doesn't have two children.
Somebody said a mother can find all the answers to her child-rearing questions in the books.Somebody never had a child stuff beans or M&M's up their nose or in their ears.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery.
Somebody never watched her "baby" get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten .. or move far away.
Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back.Somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after her child gets married.
Somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.
Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home.
Somebody never had grandchildren.
Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her.
Somebody isn't a mother.
Pass this along to all the "mothers" in your life, and to everyone who ever had a mother.
Send it to all the men too, as it will do them good to see the kind of happiness they can and do bring into our lives.
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Cajun Angel
on 5/10/08 6:19 am - New Orleans, LA
That brought a tear to my eyes!  I've read it before, but thanks for the refresher!
Connie D.
on 5/10/08 7:02 am
Thank you Nancy for sharing this with us. This is just beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. Hugs, connie d
Brenda R.
on 5/10/08 9:07 am - Portage, IN
I, too had read this before each and every time I read it I get a tear in my eye. This time was no different. Thanks so much for posting this. I think that you need to read this often. Happy Mother's Day to you also.

                    It's not what you gather, but what you scatter 
                        that tells what kind of life you have lived.

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