I know this sounds crazy

I know this is going to sound crazy, and I know that I have seen this posted before, and it sounded crazy even to me.  I have always considered myself a rational woman, except for this one thing.  Some times I get this free floating feeling,(anxiety) that this surgery will work for everyone but me.  Have any of you felt this way?  I mean, I've lost 36 pounds already, but I feel like it's going to stop, and that will be the end of it. Did, or do any of you feel this way, like it's too good to be true, and maybe everybody's lying about how much weight they've lost.  Maybe I need a shrink.  Any help will be appreciated.  Thanks in advance.

I think all of us have felt that at one time or another in our journey. But once the surgery is done, all you can do is follow the rules, and just keep going. It's not like you can go back!

I think you are not alone there!   However, I can speak only for myself and that has been my fear from even before surgery and now at almost 7 months post-op, with my weight loss slowing down some, I have felt that way, but I also believe, because I've read it on OH, that so long as I continue to do the right things that the weight will come off.  Just be prepared for those wonderful stalls that are such a big part of MY journey, they come for all at some point, but then the day comes when the scale moves again, so, measure yourself and stop worrying, you use your tool properly and it will work! Wishing you well as you continue on your journey! Hugs, Laureen

Oh yes, for sure. In fact, when I told my mother I was going to have this surgery, she predicted I'd gain it all back (thanks, mom!) Now that I've lost 180 pounds, I have stuffed that prediction back in her face. She doesn't like that, but she has never had a lot of faith in me. I know that's harsh to say so close to Mother's Day, but it's true. However, as the pounds began to come off and I kept them off, she began to see me in a new light. And so I saw myself in a new light. I can make this work. I am not going to be the only one this doesn't work for.  Of course, I did need a shrink. I had to work out my emotional eating issues. They fix your stomach, they don't fix your head. And a lot of our eating relates to what's going on upstairs. You have to work on that, too. I'm still working on it, because it relates to my overspending issues. 

Reggie, I think that is only normal thinking, or in most of our cases "stinkin' thinkin'" I should say. We have never really been successful at losing weight and when we did let's face facts, most of us didn't keep it off. Hence the need for the surgery. I am now 7 months out and the weight loss is slowing down and the scale is stalling now where before it just slid off. I got use to that and liked it and how I wish that was the case now. I use the tool of the surgery and the tools that I learned with it every day and that is a daily choice that we all make. We can use it or we can forget it for the moment or the day or what ever time limit we want. Just keep doing the dame things you are doing. If it works why fix it? I know that I need to see a counselor. I am nuts now and have been for as long as I can remember. lol I talked to Dr. Stanish and he gave me the name of a therapist who had the surgery but I haven't called her to see if she takes my insurance or not. If she does I am going to see her. If not I think I may go back to the one that I saw before surgery (for my eval). He was nice and did tell me that if I needed him to just call and I thought that was nice. Just keep walking the walk and things are going to be fine. Just beware of the stinkin' thinkin' because it will get to you when you least expect it. Sending you big hugs and lots of love, sweetie.

Hey, Thanks everybody for the feedback.  So I'm not all that crazy in this thinking huh?  I am doing all the right things, (except probably not exercising enough) measuring and keeping track of what I eat and drink.  I even get accountable in Linda's thread," What are we Eating and What's Eating Us" everyday. And I track on The DailyPlate.com.  I called my nut today and found out that I'm NOT  getting in enough calories.  So she told me to add a little fat to my diet.  Imagine that.  She said that we are so use to eating fat free and lite, that now is not the time to do it, since I'm only eating 2 oz per meal. And I could slow down my metabolism if I'm not getting in enough calories. That's crazy in itself!  I have been in and out of therapy my whole life, so I have no problem getting it, if and when I need it. I think I'm going to be alright.(For now)  I hated asking this question because my biggest character defect is false pride.  But I also realize that there are people here(this forum) who know alot more than I do about alot of stuff.  I've heard that you can't save face and a$$ at the same time, so I'm saving my a$$ by asking for help.  Thank you all for being there. Reggie

Reggie, Naw - doesn't sound crazy in the least. You WILL have stalls which feel like the end, but that will be your body catching up. The weight loss is seldom a gradual downward slope - it is more like a series of steps with some steps being longer than others. I still measure my foods. My 'eyeballing' portions got me up to 320 pounds. Can't trust my eyes but can trust a measuring cup. When I reach in the closet to get dressed I am always CERTAIN the clothes won't fit. As if I will regain 205 pounds over night? Now that sounds crazy. You are doing just fine. Stick with it and we will hug, push, shove or whatever you need to stay on course. All with love and encouragement.

Hi Reggie, I'm not walking in your shoes just yet but offer support to you!  Thank you for being so open and honest about what you are experiencing in your adventure through WLS.  I've been reading people's experiences for almost a year now and, believe me, I've heard the same thoughts expressed time and again from people just like yourself.  I expect you'll all hear this from me at some point, too!  LOL I hope that every time you have the negative thoughts you will also look at your positive progress!  Might help to add balance to your experience. Take care and keep the light on because I'm gonna follow right behind you! Hugs, Kathi

it is not crazy at all...as all of the above posters have shared...in my own case, i never had huge weight loss amounts at one time( brenda mentioned the weight sliding off) --i also didn't start out with that much to lose...so i was sure that something was wrong--even tho i was following directions much more closely in the beginning than i do now... you are doing well- and it is sometimes hard to also fathom that you are not eating "enough"! hang in--you're doing  great! if you can up the exercising that would increase some loss-- and-did you take measurements? photos? do that maybe once a month...chart it.... those help because, remember, sometimes we lose inches instead of pounds on the scale....

That was exactly the feelings I had.  I was truly amazed at how the scale moved down.  Then when I would hit a week or two with no weight loss I would freak out thinking that was all I would lose.  I confess I still do that.  Drove my hubby crazy with all the complaining, whining when the scale didn't move.   I know I was losing inches but I wanted to see the scale move down every day...guess that was unrealistic. I started out at 330 and I am fluctating between 255 and 259 right now for a couple weeks.  Fear and anxiety are normal I think or at least they were for me.   Barb