How do you get a partner to understand ?

To everyone who was kind enough to respond to my post on this........The Theresa's, lol, Mary, Shelley, Tammy, Dina.....everyone I may have forgotten as I'm doing these out of my middle-aged, forgetful head! Thank you all so very much.....you've been so great to share your thoughts about this with me. A truly appreciate every single one of you! To update y'all at once....we had a great heart-to-heart over the weekend. I told him how important his support was to me. I was going forward with or without it, but that I believe I would have an easier go of it with him understanding. Being the logical, analytical guy he is...he thought he was being supportive by offering to take care of things while I can't. True, but I want emotional support! I also told him I felt he was not accepting of my decision because he was always pointing out other ways to lose weight. He said he understands it's my decision and that he does support me, but he doesn't believe it's the only way to go. I agreed, but also told him it was up to me to decide what would be the best way for ME, and to trust that I know myself well enough to figure it out. He said he did. He's going with me to my next surgeon's meeting and is being more approachable and asking more questions....that's good. I do wish he could accept me, completely, the way I am right now...today. He has not been able to do that and he admits it's not right. We all deserve to be loved for who we are...unconditionally. I don't think he's ever been able to with anyone....there's always a flaw, so I told him it's an excuse for not having to give/love 100% because his head is telling him "they are not deserving". That's a bunch of bull....and he knows it. But he's also been honest enough with me to admit that's probably true. We're going to try some counseling to work through this and I am hopeful we'll be better for it, and have a good outcome. Of course, there's always hope! Love to you all for reading my vents and for telling me what you think.....you guys are the best! Love, Michele