thank you!

Thank you guys for coming out and keeping me company... I think as informal as it was and as "unintentinal" as it was, IT WAS THE BEST SUPPORT GROUP I HAVE BEEN TO... The "only" topic of discussion that was NOT touched upon was politics!!! everything and I do mean EVERYTHING else was fair game.. As a longerterm post op I find support groups unsupportive. I want/need to know things like "HOW ARE YOU DOING".. mentaly, emotionaly, and physically.. last night "wow" did it all come out.. LOL everyone was "real".. no one played perfect with what they were eating. no one was better than anyone else.. no one "did it better" than anyone else.. In a formal setting you get to hear someone talk for about 2 min? and they are either way down in the dumps or full of life.. you don't hear the "real" story.. not in 2 min... I didn't set this up or ask people to come out with me with the goal of support but I honestly feel that's what I got..... I was looking to make some friendships and I think I ended up with both.. hmmmmmmmmm what a concept.. LOL so honestly I would love to do this again and "soon".... I would love to set up a weekly get together or bi/weekly... any takers?? chris & Renee, I am sorry you guys had to leave so early. but with little ones and having to work today it was totaly understood.. You two are so sweet togther.. sarah (ha, I got your name!!! whooo hoooo) you and matt? (I probably just messed his name up) thank you both for coming out and I can't wait to watch your progress in person.. you are sooooooooooooooooo pretty now. ("I" can say that and mean it!!! I remember when people used to say that to me and it would drive me insane.. but you know "I" am real about it) your going to be a total knock out (model quality girl) and YOUR SO YOUNG... I am already jealous!! Mary, what can I say?? ROCK ON!!! Shelley.. girl hook me up already.. LOL and "theresa"... girl don't you dare loose an ounce of that personality!! I totaly loved it. you have a way of being "blunt and sweet" at the same time... you MUST Teach me how this is done.. you had me and mary rolling and I don't think you even knew it.. everyone else who couldn't come out.. maybe next time.. Theresa

Wow! Incredible and wonderful! I am so happy you all were able to meet. Just wish I were closer because I would love to have gone!!! My group is actually better off than what you described for your local ones, but there have been at least 2 meetings I've been to where things were kind of hurried along. I started to feel odd asking a lot of questions and talking a lot because I was taking up the groups time. It's a double edged sword. You need to have some degree of order, but when you do, you lose out on the relating part of it. That's why this sort of informal get-together is perfect. You can chat more in depth about this stuff. I would love to have gone.... Dina

Hey dina, I wish you were closer too.. it was incredible and wonderful.. and I don't mean to put down my (or any) local support groups.. thats not my intentions at all.. they have there purpose and are wonderful in there own rights.. but becuase they are formal and have to be with soooo many people attending you just don't get down to the nitty gritty of things.. or "relating part" of it.. they simply can not. I also think it's so important to talk with pre-ops as it is to talk to other long term post ops.. it gives you insight as to where you are "now" by rememebering where you were "then".. but most of it was just fun being able to really "talk" to people.. Theresa

Hi Theresa! And everyone in the "new" group! I would love to come to one also, of course I may be awhile. My date is day after tommorow! Tuesday, june 1rst! but deffinately! How about people who are considering surgery? Are there any in this group? Should there be? see ya, joan ashmun

Hi joan, The other theresa that came out with us is pre-op (june 25th? is her date)... honestly this was not set up as a "support group" meeting I just wanted to meet some people in the area and have some fun.. I am newly back to the area and don't have many friends left here. people kept telling me to get involved with activity groups and so forth that is in my intrest... well what "IS" my intrest??? loosing wieght. so it seemed like a good place to start with trying to meet people and making friends... if you look back down the thread line you'll see me shamelessy begging people to come out and meet me.. LOL.. so my god YES come one come all.... spouses even joined in... LOL be ready to drink really bad coffee and not get served if your not blonde.. LOL (see the other thread *thanks for the munch*.. LOL) 4 of us die hards closed down stanelys corner and then went on to shari's.. we had a lot of laughs!!! so next time PLEASE JOIN IN... theresa