Honestly

Hello everyone

This past Wednesday marked my 12 weeks surgiversary.

I am down 75 lbs. I am just coming off an amazing vacation. I have to admit the loved every second of people noticing the weight loss.

My three sons play Varsity Football and we just started back on Saturday. I am the team trainer at both Junior and Senior Varsity. The positive feedback and compliments were amazing.

It was great to hear how radiant and happy I looked and I was congratulated on my journey!

You never truly understand how much weight you have loss until you end up having to lug it around.

My Dad dropped of (3) 20 lb. bags of potatoes. As always he drops them off in my front entrance and he is gone in a flash. I went over to pick up one of the bags and I was shocked how much effort it took to lift that bag. I thought to myself WOW! You have lost almost (4) of these bags! I can't believe that I was carrying around all the weight.

Today... I went to my mother in laws to drop off the boys for dinner! My mother in law looked at me and told me to stop losing the weight! Told me that I had lost enough. Told me that I looked gaunt and tired. Really? ?? What the heck??? When I was over weight all I heard was how I should lose some weight. Honestly.. I just don't understand...

Sandra.

Mahalo

We DO look gaunt and haggard for awhile and our loved ones can worry.

Obviously, keep losing until goal. Just be aware that your face will bear the brunt of quick weight loss for up to a year or so,

Then things settle in and fill out a bit. I looked sick for a year. Some people weren't sure if I lost weight on purpose or was ill. Took a year or so and some fillers for my face to smooth out.

YOU know whats going on - try and be patient when others make thoughtless comments

Yup. I've warned my family that this would happen. It's just a side effect of rapid weight loss, and things will even out a bit over time etc. not gonna lie, seeing some of the amazing results people have had with face lifts (I'm looking at you Liz!), If I'm not happy with the results in a couple of years, I'll definitely be open to that.

You are doing great!

I agree that quick weight loss can definitely impact the face...

BUT...I am thinking that maybe you feel this is more personal than a concerned mother-in-law. In the past I lost 100lbs, I also lost friends. "friends" that struggled with accepting that I had lost weight and admittedly were unhappy for me. Some people just get comfortable with you the way you were, they can't cope well with the change. Keep doing your thing - you are doing great.

While it is probably worry about your health, I often think it just makes people feel uncomfortable. Maybe just the change and how it's weird that you are the same person but look so different. I also think there are some people who are just jealous, even if they are much smaller.

stick to your plan and be a duck. Let the comments roll off your back.

Some people just like to criticize and complain; maybe your Mother in Law is one of those people.

You're doing great, seriously. 75 Lbs in 12 weeks is awesome! It's life changing, really.

Congratulations Sandra on your remarkable progress. I think we need to learn to nod and smile. A comment to one who loves you could be, "Thank you for your concern, but I have confidence in my doctor and believes he (she) knows best". You know how well you're doing. Rest easy in that knowledge.