The age old adage "If you don't have anything nice to say. Then don't say anything at...

I think we all owe you a big Thank You for reminding us that we should be thinking before typing. :) So THANK YOU! :)

It is so easy to forget that there is a person on the other end of the internet who is going to read what we write and be potentially devastated by it if we say it too harshly.

Thank you for taking the time to read my posts and thank you for getting it.

Shell

Great post Shell... Cheers Krista....

Couldn't have said it any better myself thanks Shell I think were a lot alike! U made me smile and kinda feel understood and wanted here kinda.

You are wanted here hun. Chin up and just remember. This is your journey. Ask your center for help any time you need to.

I have missed u on here. I value everything u have said, and it had gotten me through my surgery. All u helpful hints, and suggestions. I'm sure u have help just not me. Please don't give up on us for a few negative people

I just read your blog. I take it I missed some serious drama last week. Makes a bit more sense now.

 

edited to add: It wasn't last week it looks like it was the end of March.

That was only a small portion of what I was seeing on here.

Taking a breather helped a lot.

As you know I've stopped reading/ participating a while ago.  Glad to see you're back. Shame to waste all that good stuff floating around in your head ;) 

Perhaps ppl will keep their *****y, self righteous comments to themselves now. Don't criticize me for eating half a piece of cake or a handful of chips, while you're sucking back booze like its your job!!  I'm looking for encouragement here, not condemnation!

rant over 

Thanks for the post CwC; I'm sixteen months out and just returned after a year's absence. I quit coming here because this place was becoming a little too "clubby" with a 'mean girls' mindset ...... '"our way or the highway!" After a young woman who was just getting married and undergoing this transformation was trashed by a number of the regulars, I simply had enough and stopped returning. My life is too short to surround myself with negativity, no matter how well intentioned.

For those that continue to espouse "tough love" as a guiding principle, please remember that all of the participants here have already endured some level of tough love whether from strangers, medical staff, friends, family, or most often, self-imposed. We come here for information and support; if we want recrimination we usually have to go no further than our own mirror. There are many ways help can be provided without defaulting to censure as a first response to any activity with which one may find disagreement.

Tough love is a great tool for an intervention, but usually unnecessary for someone who already acknowledges the error of their ways.